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gwelfguy -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (11/15/2005 10:02:48 AM)

Well I am new here and I am a switch but I would have to say submissive is my favorite [&:]



knees2you -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/15/2006 10:20:10 PM)

Ok now that I am Married,
I feel really equal with my Partner/Wife.[sm=idea.gif][sm=news.gif][sm=idea.gif]
 
Is it possible for 2 people to be Switches and be Married,
and make it work?[sm=crop.gif]
 
We are doing the best we can.
 
As Always, Ant[sm=boxer.gif]
 
 



WyrdRich -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/16/2006 9:43:23 AM)

     Coming up on a year Knees, and it seems to be working nicely.  Definitely a path less travelled but it has led to some incredible places along the way.



Lorelei115 -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/16/2006 10:00:37 AM)

Well I can top anyone, but I am very particular about who I sub to... I think I enjoy both equally though, if the chemistry is right.



Bearlee -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/16/2006 10:24:23 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: FTopinMichigan

...This topic came up recently, at a munch. A "Dom" that bottoms once in a blue moon (maybe once a year, or less)...is that someone that might self indentify as a "switch"...or are they a "Dom?"

The argument was that a Dom that bottoms...is a switch...emphatically, and they are not really a "Dom" at all. (Dontcha just love all those labels. [:D])

I don't agree. I think the Dom that "bottoms"....just enjoys the other side now and then. They have a masochitic side that they enjoy. It doesn't change anything (or their orientation/personality, etc.), as I see it.

I also see a difference between "bottoming," and switching to BE "submissive."

I tend to enjoy topping Doms that bottom. I don't tend to see them as switches though, only as my friends. [:)]   


Actually, I don’t mind labels…how else do we figure things out…identify?  What we need to remember is; labels are mutable, relative and don’t tell the ‘whole’ story.  When we get too 'PC', it seems to me just to muddy stuff up even more. 
 
Still, I’m with you on this.  I think someone who identifies as one thing…but who occasionally enjoys something else now and then…does not need to suggest they’re ‘switchie’ (not that that’s a bad thing either!).
 
I am submissive; very, very submissive.  Still, I enjoy beating people.  LOL   I’m a pretty good top, too; with a nice Sadistic streak!  Still…there is not a Dominant bone in my body; much to the dismay of more than one boy.  <shrugs>
 
bear



sophia37 -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/16/2006 3:40:33 PM)

guess what. Im a switch with a switch. And that's not cryptic talk for a wishy washy person with a stick in her hand.

So I find that if I need to be in control I can just get right into the role. Other days I am  just so ready for someone else to be in control. I must admit, switching is heaven to me. I waited 24 years to find someone to be with, who fills the other switch half. So really, I'm pretty well balanced at a 50/50 mindset.



knees2you -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/17/2006 12:27:05 AM)

quote:

Coming up on a year Knees, and it seems to be working nicely.  Definitely a path less travelled but it has led to some incredible places along the way.

_____________________________

A Heretic as usual
Rich

 
Thank You Sir. true words have been spoken!
 
Ant, & LilBecque[sm=news.gif]



FloridaISIS -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/18/2006 3:38:49 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: knees2you

For me it's not an either/or, it is both. Some days I like to be cared for, others I like doing the caring.


I've been a Domme for 3 years, and a switch for 1 1/2 years. Former subs note my caring, gentle, nurturing, sensual nature. They say I'm a natural. Yet, the two Alpha  Doms I briefly served had conflicting views. One said, I'm totally sub, and deep down don't have a Dominant bone in my body;the other told me I need to act more like a sub, and not try to lead everything and let him run the show.

I would say I love being a Dominant. It's who I truly am, yet I can switch in an instant. To quote tall and hard, "  I hope to one day to find a that I can switch with spontaniously mid scene, purhaps a number of times in a single scene." Make mine all male please. [;)]

I can switch just that easily with someone I trust, yet the Domme in me comes out in all areas outside of the bedroom.
Guess I'm a bedroom switch at best. [:D]   My Domme friends  tell me, ''You can still be Dominant and have a sub or slave;  just  order him to flog and spank you after you've done cbt and took the strap on to him, as you hold  his cock leash. He knows who's in charge all the time."  The question I ask myself, is will he, or will I lose my Dominance in his eyes?  I wonder if I shold just classify myself as a Domme and just order my sub to top  me during some scenes? Very well could, but then am I really being honest with myself and any potential partner I have?  I'd like to know if any of you have faced this dilema as well?

I  must say that I do  love Daddy Doms. I love feeling  protected as much as I like protecting my own.  In a Dom's or Top's  arms I feel I  can just let go and melt with his touch, as the tension of daily life fades  away.
Maybe for the right one, someday,  I could take my submission outside of the bedroom, as long as he's willing to give me equal time being his Dominant.
It seems almost impossible to strike that balance. For now it's a nice pipe dream. Hope I find that special one soon.
_____________________________
Isis

Edited because I just can't type worth squat.



JustCatherine -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/21/2006 1:45:20 AM)

I Love being a Domme, but i have been a submissive, i love being in control, though i do enjoy the occaisional scene as a bottom, mostly for being beaten, subbing is not a sexual thing for me, i enjoy the beatings more than anything,  but being in charge both in and out of the bedroom is what i tend to lean towards, how ever stresss, study and emotions also play apart sometimes on where i sit on this scale, i found that being beaten is a great way to let the stress go, like wise is giving a beating,
hope this is the kind of thing you were looking for,

from me, Just Catherine





LadyEllen -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/21/2006 7:49:50 AM)

Which do I crave the most?

It depends on the other person.
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Frank01 -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/21/2006 3:56:07 PM)

I list myself as a switch to keep away the fantasy "slaves".

And because I will bottom to learn technique. I'm more of a Top.

And because I despise the "superman complex" so many "doms" seem to be afflicted with-ego is fine-if you actually have something to back it up with. Most don't seem to have a pot to piss in.



BD123 -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (9/23/2006 5:17:34 PM)

I'm more dominant



Legman1 -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (10/28/2006 12:29:39 PM)

I'm generally dominant in my world. I don't like taking orders, I give orders. I wont let others tell me how to think, I will listen to what others think. I'm happy with the whip in hand and get a serious kick in the top spot.
On the other hand, give me a woman thats on top of her game and has shown me she has my best interests at heart and I'm putty in her hands. Yes dear. Kiss your ass? That I would crave.



MistressRassilon -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (10/28/2006 2:43:52 PM)

I have thought of myself as a Domme, but on thinking more carefully I think I may be a switch - with girls I usually prefer to top, with the one man that I play with I prefer to be a bottom - I'm a bit worried  about 'coming out' as a switch in case that puts people off contacting me, but I think I may need to change my profile to Switch <g>



beltainefaerie -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (11/4/2006 11:08:55 AM)

I think of myself as primarily a masochist and submissive with a sadistic/domme streak I enjoy satisfying sometimes.  But, okay, really, I'm just a sensation slut.  Giving/receiving, serving/ordering, men/women.  I like it all.



orange72 -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (11/6/2006 9:55:48 PM)

i would go with some of the replies above and say it depends on the person i'm with. as a rule i tend to attract submissive people. which can be a bit of an ass-pain sometimes, lol. but i do fully enjoy both roles, it really just depends on my mood. as a relative newcomer it seems to take more preparation and focus to get into the Domme role, but on the other hand there are days when i just don't want anyone telling me what to do no matter in what context [8D] so i honestly do feel i fit both roles well, it's just that it's a very freeflowing thing for me.



Mustardseed -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (3/5/2007 7:01:23 PM)

With my Daddy, the submissive role.

With everyone else, the dominant role.  [;)]



fergus -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (3/5/2007 8:20:48 PM)

Sub, definately sub.

fergus



violetangel -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (3/8/2007 2:19:49 PM)

Right now, I seem to lean toward submissive--it would help if I had time to go out and meet some people.  I want someone else to worry about everything, if just for a little bit.  Not all the time, I would definitely go farther over the edge that I already am. My being submissive would surprise any of my friends, as they seem to see me as a "strong-willed" person.  And, at one point, a guy who worked with me asked what I wore as a Domme. 



Elorin -> RE: Witch side of being a Switch do You crave the most (3/9/2007 4:15:10 AM)

I generally crave dominance most, sadism second. I have opportunities to serve regularly though. When I am unable to serve Sir, I get to a point where my desire to serve and submit overwhelms all other desires. The same goes for any of the things I love though. If I go without them for too long, I get to where that one need takes over.

Recently I was desperately wanting to hurt someone, sadism was just throbbing along my internal pathways. After I got out and played with someone, it damped down significantly and is no longer as strong a need as it was before.

Though I will always be up for tight rope bondage cinching me in.



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