For me it's not an either/or, it is both. Some days I like to be cared for, others I like doing the caring.
I've been a Domme for 3 years, and a switch for 1 1/2 years. Former subs note my caring, gentle, nurturing, sensual nature. They say I'm a natural. Yet, the two Alpha Doms I briefly served had conflicting views. One said, I'm totally sub, and deep down don't have a Dominant bone in my body;the other told me I need to act more like a sub, and not try to lead everything and let him run the show.
I would say I love being a Dominant. It's who I truly am, yet I can switch in an instant. To quote tall and hard, " I hope to one day to find a that I can switch with spontaniously mid scene, purhaps a number of times in a single scene." Make mine all male please.
I can switch just that easily with someone I trust, yet the Domme in me comes out in all areas outside of the bedroom.
Guess I'm a bedroom switch at best. My Domme friends tell me, ''You can still be Dominant and have a sub or slave; just order him to flog and spank you after you've done cbt and took the strap on to him, as you hold his cock leash. He knows who's in charge all the time." The question I ask myself, is will he, or will I lose my Dominance in his eyes? I wonder if I shold just classify myself as a Domme and just order my sub to top me during some scenes? Very well could, but then am I really being honest with myself and any potential partner I have? I'd like to know if any of you have faced this dilema as well?
I must say that I do love Daddy Doms. I love feeling protected as much as I like protecting my own. In a Dom's or Top's arms I feel I can just let go and melt with his touch, as the tension of daily life fades away.
Maybe for the right one, someday, I could take my submission outside of the bedroom, as long as he's willing to give me equal time being his Dominant.
It seems almost impossible to strike that balance. For now it's a nice pipe dream. Hope I find that special one soon.
Edited because I just can't type worth squat.
< Message edited by FloridaISIS -- 9/18/2006 3:59:50 AM >