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Trampler -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/7/2007 1:23:49 PM)
My favorite saying when it comes things like these: "Damn the torpedos, and full speed ahead!!" I feel it is very fitting. Actually just last night at a munch I mentioned casually that I will be topping at a play party, and said that I was feeling nervous but excited. the Dom I had been talking to remarked "and confused." I just shrugged and stuck out my tongue at him.

ExquisiteFeline -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/7/2007 6:02:17 PM)
"Dom I had been talking to remarked "and confused." Dont Doms just love to try to make you feel inferior, its thier job I guess. I dont let it work on me, if ppl miss the point of who I am, then that is their problem, they can go on none the wiser, and I can go on giggling like a sprite...and find someone else with half a brain to laugh at! People always have to impose their opinion of you, tell you what you are, you can take it on, or not... and more often than not ppl think that they have more to teach than to learn, these ones are the dumbest of them all, and hardly moving forward on the evolution path. And Tehfoof, you have it going on, you know where you are at, maybe you are bit like me, intune with yourself and balanced enough to know how and what you feel in the moment, a little spontaneuos, but hey I bet you have a great time? The most impotant thing to me is clarity in the situation, the connection, not to bring stuff into it, and be intune enough to know that the other person isnt bringing their shit into it, or least have the awareness to dig out what it is without them feeling too intruded upon. I like time to process myself after experiences, to go within and learn more about myslef, evolve and give back to my community... sometimes I feel like switching could be the hardest role. I have some close friends of 12 years who I have been switching with, they are a couple and I enter into Dom and sub roles with the both of them at the same time. It can be very demanding, I have to be totally clear and aware... if I feel clouded I just pull back and let them go each other for a bit....they want a perm 3 way relationship, but jeez, one night every now and then is enough for me, dont want to fry myself... it could work if we all changed our roles around. Anyway I am on auto blah blah again, got to run to the beach, seeya.

tehf00f -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/8/2007 7:26:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Evanesce quote: I just joined up and already I've gotten a number of e-mails asking me if I'm a domme-switch or a sub-switch, without the mention of if I have a leaning, just asking which leaning I take. The reason you're getting this question is because *most* switches DO lean one way or the other. It's a harmless enough question, and hardly worth getting all worked up over. A simple, "Neither," would be an appropriate response. that's why I called it a rant, it was just starting to perturb me is all

Mystique567 -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/8/2007 1:36:27 PM)
I am not bisexual I am hetrochallenged

Trampler -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/8/2007 6:40:08 PM)
EF, very true. It did annoy me, but last night he apologized and gave me alot of great tips on flogging :)

arayofsunshine55 -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/8/2007 10:24:23 PM)
For some reason they just don't fuck with me.

Tenebrious -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/9/2007 11:27:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: smilingjaguar At 2 years I think you qualify as a recertified virgin. ;) Does that mean since I was recertified at 19, I was a virgin until I was 21? [sm=whoa.gif] At the rate I'm going, maybe I'll be recertified again at 28...and be a virgin until I'm 30. [sm=tongue.gif]

steve5o -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/11/2007 6:08:59 PM)
Being a switch it truely the best of both worlds. I accept the fact there are doms and subs that cannot be anything else other than what they are, others should accept the fact we switchs are what we are. The only issue is when we all want to the same role hehehe It's never boring, thats for sure.

Queenalice -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/13/2007 10:50:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Mystique567 I am not bisexual I am hetrochallenged That's a good one! I always use the term "Humanitarian."

Lordandmaster -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/13/2007 10:56:53 AM)
OK so like that means you lean toward submissive, right? quote: ORIGINAL: tehf00f yes I have tended towards one side or the other in specific relationships to please my partner, but that was for THEM, not for ME

Tenebrious -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/13/2007 5:38:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster OK so like that means you lean toward submissive, right? quote: ORIGINAL: tehf00f yes I have tended towards one side or the other in specific relationships to please my partner, but that was for THEM, not for ME Actually, I believe that's meant more as "amenable" than "submissive."

Lordandmaster -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/13/2007 5:49:33 PM)
OK but like "amenable" isn't listed as one of the profile options. She must be submissive and just doesn't know it yet.

Tenebrious -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/13/2007 5:59:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster OK but like "amenable" isn't listed as one of the profile options. She must be submissive and just doesn't know it yet. Leaning one way or the other to fill the appropriate role for a relationship doesn't mean one is submissive. It just means they are not inflexible. Besides, the profile options are based on a BDSM context, where as this is in reference to a personality trait. Even if she does has a submissive personality, that doesn't mean she's automatically more submissive in a BDSM context.

Unboundfeet -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/13/2007 6:17:08 PM)
Hi! I'm fairly new to this site and this is my first post on a forum. I too get a little anoyed when I get emails from Doms expecting me to be their slave, or from subs expecting me to be their Dom.

Lordandmaster -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/13/2007 7:24:45 PM)
Thanks for the lesson, but you do realize that I was being sarcastic, right? quote: ORIGINAL: Tenebrious quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster OK but like "amenable" isn't listed as one of the profile options. She must be submissive and just doesn't know it yet. Leaning one way or the other to fill the appropriate role for a relationship doesn't mean one is submissive. It just means they are not inflexible. Besides, the profile options are based on a BDSM context, where as this is in reference to a personality trait. Even if she does has a submissive personality, that doesn't mean she's automatically more submissive in a BDSM context.

Tenebrious -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/14/2007 12:45:55 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster Thanks for the lesson, but you do realize that I was being sarcastic, right? quote: ORIGINAL: Tenebrious quote: ORIGINAL: Lordandmaster OK but like "amenable" isn't listed as one of the profile options. She must be submissive and just doesn't know it yet. Leaning one way or the other to fill the appropriate role for a relationship doesn't mean one is submissive. It just means they are not inflexible. Besides, the profile options are based on a BDSM context, where as this is in reference to a personality trait. Even if she does has a submissive personality, that doesn't mean she's automatically more submissive in a BDSM context. You do realize that I'm a smart-ass, right? [sm=tongue.gif]

Trampler -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/14/2007 5:47:16 PM)
Now, Now children play nicely............................................

BlackWolfSwitch -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/14/2007 9:30:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tehf00f Pardon me while I grouse for a moment: I just joined up and already I've gotten a number of e-mails asking me if I'm a domme-switch or a sub-switch, without the mention of if I have a leaning, just asking which leaning I take. Dear universe: I enjoy both, yes there is such a thing as someone with no serious leaning in one direction or the other, no that doesn't make me a flake, it means I enjoy BOTH EQUALLY, yes I have tended towards one side or the other in specific relationships to please my partner, but that was for THEM, not for ME: I enjoy both and a happy healthy sex life for me requires both. Yeesh! Just because some people have leanings doesn't mean everyone has leanings. grumblegrumble... /end rant Grouse away, you're not alone. As SunNMoon said, just laugh it off. Obviously.. if they're saying "But you're really a sub" or whatever, without even knowing you... then they need added to your junk box. Lol Pawprinted, Wolf ~A fellow Switch~

AdventurousLife -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (7/18/2007 6:20:43 PM)
quote: Dont Doms just love to try to make you feel inferior, its thier job I guess. .... People always have to impose their opinion of you, tell you what you are, you can take it on, or not... and more often than not ppl think that they have more to teach than to learn, these ones are the dumbest of them all, and hardly moving forward on the evolution path. This is the problem with the BDSM Scene... it gives jerks like that a pass. Its not their job, in any way shape or form, and in fact, it denigrates what Ds is. Without consent, there is no power exchange. The constant attempts to play one-upmanship or dominance games with people- other doms, other doms subs, random people--- this is the activity of the insecure person who apparently has not mastered the concept of boundaries or respect. That they get a pass for it-- that its even seen as a sign that they are "more domly" by people in the "community" is something I find abhorrent and is why I don't really hang out in the scene.

AquaticSub -> RE: this is starting to annoy me... (8/5/2007 12:50:08 AM)
~Fast Reply~ How did I miss that you posted this till now? forehead smack By the way, I just got a male sub e-mailing me who wanted to be my slave.

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