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newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 9:00:00 PM   
winterlight


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Status: offline 		a "dom" messaged me in here and i added him to my im. well after one convo with ? such as what is your breast size, when did u last have sex, etc. i feel uncomfortable with him. i got accused based on last nights convo of having an attitude so i blocked and deleted the jerk. I don't feel the above ? are appropriate for a first time convo. Am I out of line here?
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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 9:01:41 PM   
mistoferin


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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 9:02:22 PM   
LadySeraphina


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Status: offline 		Not at all. You are only to share what you are comfortable sharing. Some subs would be more than willing to share those things with a complete stranger, but it shouldn't be expected. It's like meeting people in any other area, only we tend to get personal a lot more quickly. HOW quickly is still your perogative, and if the 'Dom' doesn't like it, he's not the Dom for you.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 9:04:23 PM   
mercurialis


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Status: offline 		Hello,

You just answered your own question several times over didn't you? You can see that he isn't a lifestyle dom, just someone who wants kinky sex, as you called him "dom" with the quotes. You felt a very obvious gut reaction that asking stupid sexual and personal questions should make you uncomfortable. You listened to it, called him on it, and in response you get anger and accusations. You can see he is a jerk and no one worth your time. How the heck do you figure you could be out of line....if anything, you should have blocked him faster, and next time just email through the site before you give away your IM so quickly.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 9:06:43 PM   
bamabbwsub


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Status: offline 		I believe you were right to put the word "dom" in quotation marks (AND in lower case -- ha!). Sounds to me as though he was a Dom wannabe and was trolling for cybersex. You were right to have blocked him, IMO.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 9:13:37 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		Would you have to ask if this guy didn't identify himself as a dom?

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 9:25:33 PM   
feelingrisky


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Status: offline 		that is why I never give a first time contact my IM name.
Dom?  LOL who says?
People are just people until  you allow the dynamic to change.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 9:42:06 PM   
slaverosebeauty


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Status: offline 		You were contacted by a troll in dom's clothing. It happens, I don't think those are approprate questions, they are vulgar; yuck. It seems the wannabe had the attitude problem, NOT you. Ignore him and move on.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/9/2007 11:21:40 PM   
silvermuse


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Status: offline 		I don't give out my Yim instantly. I've had doms protest that, claiming I should automatically trust them (I use yim for work to keep in contact with various people and because of that it has a lot of personal information on it). But if they can't respect that I'm not about to hand out that contact information instantly then they truly aren't worth the effort of talking to them.

Dom does not mean 'trust me now because I say so'

Dom does not mean 'obey me now because I say so'

And dom sure as hell doesn't mean 'hng with zero patience wanting to get their rocks off with someone by claiming they are lordwhatever'

Had a few of those contact me and I chuckle, imagine myself patting them on the head, and then tell them 'sorry but this is the way it is, accept it or don't. If you don't, there's the door, don't let it hit your arse on the way out.' Though I normally phrase it a little more politely than that.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 12:01:34 AM   
Rafters


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quote:

ORIGINAL: silvermuse
Dom does not mean 'trust me now because I say so'
Dom does not mean 'obey me now because I say so'
And dom sure as hell doesn't mean 'hng with zero patience wanting to get their rocks off with someone by claiming they are lordwhatever'


Do you think "I may be a sub, but I'm not your sub" would work better as a T-shirt slogan, or as a collar engraving?

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 12:37:01 AM   
hairycok8inch


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Status: offline 		hi

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 12:46:24 AM   
phoenixinchains


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Status: offline 		i vote t-shirt, but i also like the idea of putting the quote on a sticker, then it can go anywhere needed

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 12:48:29 AM   
LadyHugs


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Status: offline 		Dear winterlight, Ladies and Gentlemen;
 
Welcome to the Internet.  Unfortunately, serious minded individuals may be peppered by inquiries to which in blunt terms, are just looking to massage their phallus until it produces some sticky and tacky substance--to include their behavior.
 
You are not out of line.
 
Anybody can wave a title of Master, Dominant, slave and this or that--I do agree being as respectful as possible however, I wouldn't be obligated to give extremely personal information out based on a stranger's quests to get to the sex games/fantasy/relief of their testical's swelling.
 
In my mind's eyes I see -- perhaps submissive--but, definately not a welcome mat.  Respect is earned--not a command, demand and or brow-beaten into it; e.g. you aren't submissive if you don't do this or that I order you to do...
 
Just some thoughts.
 
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
 
 

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 1:23:36 AM   
HardnRuff


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Status: offline 		I dont think any words out of a true Doms mouth would Be that you have an attiude for something that He should have better sense to know , He made you feel uncomfortable from the  start. If He was a Real Dom , He would have concerns for your feeling comfortable with Him and have the utmost respect for you and your feelings . A true Dom doesnt have to push you into anything. You will do it because you wish to .What is up  with folks who think they can force you to submit ??

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 2:27:00 AM   
TigerNINTails


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quote:

Original: HardnRuff

What is up  with folks who think they can force you to submit ??



Fuckwits, the lot of 'em.

They all have a major case of H.U.A. (Head Up Ass) syndrome.

Peace.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 2:28:07 AM   
kaprecia


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quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

a "dom" messaged me in here and i added him to my im. well after one convo with ? such as what is your breast size, when did u last have sex, etc. i feel uncomfortable with him. i got accused based on last nights convo of having an attitude so i blocked and deleted the jerk. I don't feel the above ? are appropriate for a first time convo. Am I out of line here?


No, you are not out of line, you are right on target.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 4:41:32 AM   
IrishMist


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quote:

ORIGINAL: winterlight

a "dom" messaged me in here and i added him to my im. well after one convo with ? such as what is your breast size, when did u last have sex, etc. i feel uncomfortable with him. i got accused based on last nights convo of having an attitude so i blocked and deleted the jerk. I don't feel the above ? are appropriate for a first time convo. Am I out of line here?

Nope.

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 7:15:14 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		Not at all, sounds like he was looking for wanking material. Lots of creeps out there, you just have to wade through them to find a good one.

Good luck,
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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 7:17:39 AM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		Congratulations, winterlight.  You just earned your first stripe

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RE: newbie what disturbs me is a "dom - 7/10/2007 7:25:17 AM   
Alumbrado


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Status: offline 		It is your block button... use it as you see fit.

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