MaamJay
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I agree that it is a GOOD sign that He wants you to talk to other subs and learn from a variety of people since you are so very very new. I would actually think it a red flag if He was trying to cut you off from others and trying to tell you He has all the answers to everything you need to ask! Yes it is true that in the SPECIFICS every Dom is different, and He should train you to serve Him as He wants. But there is an awful lot of general stuff you need to learn about first, and having a variety of ideas and opinions is good! It would be helpful (and perhaps telling) if you were to ask Him whether He could at least provide you with a list of keywords to research. If He can't/won't, then maybe that's a red flag that He too is inexperienced. And yes, in my very new sub-seeking-Master days i caught out a potential Dom who professed to have had a slave for years yet didn't have a clue about sub space ... and when I enlightened Him, He said He'd punish His girl if her mind wandered like that! Instant reject and ignore button from me! Some examples would be: munch, play party, safe call, safeword, sub space, sub drop, sub fever/frenzy, switch, collaring, humiliation, SSC and RACK ... and that's not even venturing into play techniques such as watersports, needle play etc etc! I am working with a new sub at the moment (whose only previous experience was negative with a "friend" who didn't respect safewords etc) and I have been giving her a guided reading program to allow her to engage with these ideas through a few articles on each subject, form her own ideas and then W/we have an open discussion. she's thrilled because she is learning so much ... and I have encouraged her to come to these forums too. At the moment she's reading, not ready to post. But she will be visiting for a week from Friday and I am very much looking forward to getting to know her more personally than online and on phone. I was a bit shocked to see so much negativity in the earlier responses to this, while I know many are trying to be protective of a new potential sub, not everyone out there is fake if they encourage someone to learn from the community at large ... and not everyone who enjoys engaging with new subs is necessarily a predator! I enjoy it because I am a teacher by nature as well as career, and in the case of this new sub, I am genuinely seeking a potential 24/7 and that is what she is seeking! so this isn't just taking a newbie under My wing for a while, this is looking at long term potential. But My wings are likely to remain available in the future for short term care of new subs. I just like to help them find their feet ... so they have a better chance of safely finding the right Dom for them without getting heartbroken or worse in the meantime! Maam Jay aka violet[A] (for the new OP ... I am both Domme (Jay) and sub/slave (violet) simultaneously, collared to Master Adrian)
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