DiurnalVampire
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Joined: 1/19/2006 From: Nashville, TN Status: offline
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BEfore I judge where your relationship is, how your Dom is handling it... or whatever else, I would need to know how long a time frame you have been having issues. Have you felt as if you arent being given the proper attention for the last week, month, year? And how long has the relationship been going on overall? (You have been 24/7 for a year, but did you have history before that?) In the grand scheme of things, if it has been a sort term change, then you might just have to weather it and wait it out. The things life throws at you can interfere, and sometimes someoen is just too stressed in their own things to pat you on the head constantly. If it has always been this way, then after a year you are highly unlikely to get much of a change from him if you are first bringing up the issue now. Before you charge into a deep discussion about whats going wrong in the relationship, and how you need him to open up and communicate better and all that... figure out why it is he hasnt been communicating. If its something that will change, or a stress that wil go away, then dont rock the boat too much and add to that stress. Wait it out, and then afterwards maybe he will make up for lost time. If it is a changed situation, then discuss with him what has changed and how you need to deal with it. If its always been this way, then you might have to decide if you can live with it or not, becasue after a year of learning how he communicates and being alright with it, chances are nothigns going to change. Also, has anything within you changed, that maybe have made you more sensative to what you are or arent hearing? Has something rattled your confidence? It might not completely be his fault, it might just be misunderstanding... Make sure you see the whole picture before trying to fix it. Putting grease on a squeaky wheel works, but it wont make the wagon run quietly unless all the wheels are greased. (My grandmother used to say that and it makes sense if you think about it) This is not somethingto be addressed piecemeal. You hav to make sure you know all the pieces heading in, or nothing you try and fix will help much. DV
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I will be your Dominate if you will be my submit - Fox Snarko Ergo Sum If you cannot change your mind, how are you so sure you still have one? -proverb *Owner of Fox - collared 10/13/07* VampiresLair
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