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RE: this is embarassing to ask but... - 7/18/2007 2:35:40 PM

ElanSubdued

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EmpassionedRogue,

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well put Ma'am. just... trying to consider things ahead. better i'd think to get it done when i really have no use for the thing other then to be rid of bodily waste. less downtime for Her should that indeed be her wish. but yes, you are right. i'll let Her decide. whomever that may be.

You seemingly missed Pandora's key point so I'll repeat it here:

"I truly think that this sort of deep commitment (piercings are a commitment from both partners, both in terms of sexuality as well as care and maintenance of) should come only after a deep conversation between an intimate couple." ~ MisPandora

The decision is one both you and your long-term partner may want to discuss with great thought. Ideally, you would make this decision together. That said, I'm going to purposely avoid political correctness and cut right to the chase. What *you* yourself want is pretty darned important because it is you who must live in your own body. Don't get all stupidly submissive and intoxicated by fantasy and desire here. Creating a ladder of steel up your cock is a reasonably significant piercing. If you don't like the results, that would be kind of a drag would it not? And what if you and your partner split up? Now you're left with a cock that is displeasing to you and/or to future partners.

My advice is that you make choices that are good for you and that you can live with. If you elect to pierce your cock and your domme likes this too, hey, that's wonderful. And sure, if you have a specific partner who indicates this is a turn-on for her, that's not a bad reason to consider piercing your cock. However, I still highly recommend that you make your own choices in this regard. Piercings are very personal and in this case *you* are the *person* in "personal".

ElanSubdued.

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RE: this is embarassing to ask but... - 7/18/2007 2:39:23 PM

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no elan, i didnt. i mainly prefer to be brief. but thank you anyway. im not intoxicated by fantasy nor anything else, i can earnistly say. they way i feel is the way i feel. im not concerned about future much. if i had it and the domme DIDNT like it. that's an easy fix. one set of cutters, end of problem.
anyway, its moot. decision is made, thanx all for the advice. ill wait until i do have a signifigent other, and disguss it with her

*edit. i hate typos*

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RE: this is embarassing to ask but... - 7/18/2007 3:10:36 PM

ElanSubdued

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EmpassionedRogue,

--- no Elan, i didnt. i mainly prefer to
--- be brief. but thank you anyway.

Good stuff. Thanks for replying.

Your sentiments to the effect of "letting her decide" and "getting it done while having no use for the thing other than to be rid of bodily waste" caused me to raise an eyebrow. Cocks have many uses outside of getting rid of bodily waste - regardless of whether you're with a partner or not. Body modifications to the flagpole or the family jewels are not something to consider lightly and are certainly best considered in a headspace free of BDSM fantasy lore. At any rate, it appears you are thinking this through both lucidly and carefully. Please accept my apologies if I came across in an overly preachy way.

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RE: this is embarassing to ask but... - 7/18/2007 3:15:53 PM

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"Hole"y Shit! i am so keeping my pants zipped up around here!

"Marge, have You seen the pet?"

"Not since i got the hole punch out for the picture album Helen."

"I heard a muffled whimper and for some reason he bolted."

"That album sure is looking nice Marge, hey pet, I have something to show you."

"No"

"What was that pet?"

"No"

"What do you mean, no?"

"No"

"Damn it Marge, give me that hole punch, somebody needs a lesson!"

"i knew it, i knew it, arrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrrgh!"

"Geez Helen, that thing strides like a gazelle doesn't it?"

chia* {zip} (the pet)

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