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CalifChick -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (1/31/2008 2:19:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: 1969slave one dosn't really own until it is given to others and it returns to be given again. m WTF? Sounds like the cycle of an STD. Seriously... Cali

sexyred1 -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (1/31/2008 2:23:35 PM)
LMAO

creatrix -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/1/2008 11:34:21 PM)
I would love an opportunity to be able to have some kind of say in it, but I had a fantasy/dream of my Former sharing me when I was blindfolded with two others... WOW what an awesome dream!! OH IT WAS ABSOLUTE HEAVEN... But I gotta admit, I would want to have some input... I mean what if you had a pelvic exam scheduled the next day? It is so difficult to get an appointment with a good gynecologist sorry, but I HAD to go THERE

AquaticSub -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 10:09:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: CalifChick quote: ORIGINAL: mine2share It has been several months and the time is coming near. Master has made arrangements for another sub to join Master and myself for O/our first poly relationship. i have agreed to all that Master has set in place. My question is still the same, why Master? If one is so precious, as You state, then why do You share? Consider the opposite question... if one is so precious, why NOT share? You're asking why he is wired the way he is. Why is anyone heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, emotionally/physically monogamous, emotionally/physically non-monogamous?? There is no answer that will satisfy you. You have to decide if you can live in a non-monogamous relationship. And if not, then get out. Cali Agreed.

patwi -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 11:39:18 AM)
Being new to this lifestyle/way of thinking/etc etc - A question was raised in my mind about this, to you masters who share. Would it matter if your slave/submissive didn't enjoy being shared? Would you do it anyway even if it would reduce her to a heap of tears to be passed around?

AquaticSub -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 1:05:36 PM)
That's a whole different thread but the short answer is some will and some won't. Some would just release her if they can't do what they want with her without her being reduced to tears. Hopefully these things would be discussed beforehand so that the master could just go "Oh you don't like being shared? Well, that's pretty damn important to me so we won't work out. Sorry."

mine2share -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 1:05:37 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 OP, the bottom line is this: you asked the same question months ago and now again. The answer is still the same. You have agreed to do something yet obviously feel very much upset by it. So...either do it and feel like crap or do not do it and retain self-respect. I am not judging poly or anything else, just the distress I hear in the OP's question, it is loud and clear. Thank you, i am so glad you hear me clearly.

patwi -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 1:13:51 PM)
laughs yes, I probably should think before I post. that was a rather obvious question. :)

mine2share -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 1:43:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sexyred1 OP, the bottom line is this: you asked the same question months ago and now again. The answer is still the same. You have agreed to do something yet obviously feel very much upset by it. So...either do it and feel like crap or do not do it and retain self-respect. I am not judging poly or anything else, just the distress I hear in the OP's question, it is loud and clear. Thank you, i am so glad you hear me clearly. i could not ask Master in July so i posted here. Days later i offered it to Him and He was quite amused. Reading the post of each Dom, my Master would reply "yes, "yes". i thought in time i could comply and agreed recently, truely believing i could. I have just told Master that i cannot. He was calm and concerned and supportive. But now, i feel worse knowing i have failed Him. Probably a worse feeling than the feeling after losing self-respect, because now i feel both. Knowing i am not who i thought i was.

CalifChick -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 3:25:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mine2share i thought in time i could comply and agreed recently, truely believing i could. I have just told Master that i cannot. He was calm and concerned and supportive. But now, i feel worse knowing i have failed Him. Probably a worse feeling than the feeling after losing self-respect, because now i feel both. Knowing i am not who i thought i was. Okay, so you said "I'll give it a go" and then your heart, your soul, your mind started screaming NO NO NO at you. So you let him know that even though you wanted to please him, you could not do what he wanted. I'm kinda missing how that is failing him. I would think that line of thinking would be reserved for something you COULD do and either did not or chose not to. Stop beating yourself up. You hit a hard limit. Everybody's got them. Cali

AquaticSub -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 4:31:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mine2share i could not ask Master in July so i posted here. Days later i offered it to Him and He was quite amused. Reading the post of each Dom, my Master would reply "yes, "yes". i thought in time i could comply and agreed recently, truely believing i could. I have just told Master that i cannot. He was calm and concerned and supportive. But now, i feel worse knowing i have failed Him. Probably a worse feeling than the feeling after losing self-respect, because now i feel both. Knowing i am not who i thought i was. You tried. Everyone has things they can't do. Some couldn't top another person if ordered, others lack the green thumb to grow a garden if ordered. What matters is that you tried and he feels satisfied that you gave it your best. See where you can go from here. Best of luck, Aqua

xxblushesxx -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 5:30:21 PM)
I'm curious what Master said when he read the part that said it sounds more like he wants to share himself (by bringing in another sub) than to share you. Perhaps he should be honest about exactly what he wants. I'm also still curious about your name. Did he give it to you? If so, did you ask him what it meant? If so, or if not, what does it mean? ~Christina

Stephann -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 10:14:06 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mine2share It has been several months and the time is coming near. Master has made arrangements for another sub to join Master and myself for O/our first poly relationship. i have agreed to all that Master has set in place. My question is still the same, why Master? If one is so precious, as You state, then why do You share? I do it because it makes me hot. The psychobabble behind that, is likely beyond the scope of your interest. After six months, if it's something you're not willing/capable/desiring who the hell do you think will save you from yourself? Or is it that you don't really care enough to save yourself, and just want to whine? Here's some Merlot for ya. Stephan

Stephann -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 10:16:05 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: patwi Being new to this lifestyle/way of thinking/etc etc - A question was raised in my mind about this, to you masters who share. Would it matter if your slave/submissive didn't enjoy being shared? Would you do it anyway even if it would reduce her to a heap of tears to be passed around? It matters a great deal to me; my slave happens to enjoy the things she doesn't enjoy. There were a pile of tears last night, in fact, over this same issue, yet by all accounts from her it was a wonderful experience. Stephan

Hizbadhabit -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/2/2008 11:12:01 PM)
i am very up front with limits and one is no sharing and if that is a problem then that person would not be for me.

Justme696 -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/3/2008 2:17:19 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Stephann quote: ORIGINAL: patwi Being new to this lifestyle/way of thinking/etc etc - A question was raised in my mind about this, to you masters who share. Would it matter if your slave/submissive didn't enjoy being shared? Would you do it anyway even if it would reduce her to a heap of tears to be passed around? It matters a great deal to me; my slave happens to enjoy the things she doesn't enjoy. There were a pile of tears last night, in fact, over this same issue, yet by all accounts from her it was a wonderful experience. Stephan confuses me..enjoy what she doesn't enjoy...and she cried?

Stephann -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/3/2008 12:34:34 PM)
Yep, that's what I said: "She enjoys things, especially, because she doesn't enjoy them." She's a unique sort of emotional masochist who enjoys humiliation, and 'abuse' scenes. She actively sought a relationship with a man who would make her do things she 'didn't' want to do, yet cared enough about her to make sure she wasn't actually damaged in the process. The tears are part and parcel of that satisfaction; coming to terms with years of sexual desires that were repressed, since they were so very different from what she thought she was supposed to enjoy. It doesn't mean she doesn't find satisfaction in the actual acts involved; only that (in her case) there's no cut and dried "I like this" and "I don't like that." I love steaming hot baths. They're painful for me to get in, but incredibly satisfying when I have. Stephan

AugustusSeizeHer -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/4/2008 7:47:17 PM)
1. You either - .. agreed to be used by multiple partners (in which case do as your bloody well told and shut up - as long as it's safe with condoms, no skin abrasions, no coming in your mouth, etc) or .. agreed to be used - and didn't think of being used by multiple partners (in which case call "yellow" or whatever else is your "half way" safe word (you DO have one don't you?) and discuss the issue like adults) or .. specifically excluded being used in that way (in which case it's a deal breaker, pure and simple: cry out long and loud "red" or "mercy") Have I missed an option here? 2. There are many people on this planet who ache to have more than one partner. And you're getting encouraged to do so in the context of (I assume) a safe and loving relationship. This is bad because...??? I suspect that your Possessor als fucks others as or when the desire arises. This sounds like it could be a dominant being decent and fair. 3. Perhaps your idea of Service is to bring coffee and home made cookies to your Possessor's guests? Where in your actual or implied contract does it say "coffee and cookies served nicely" only? Being a fuckable toy used by visitors is something that many people dream about. 4. And will someone PLEASE explain why it's OK for a toy to be beaten, flogged, caned, tied up, tormented and tortured by others, but sticking a cock in a cunt or inserting a finger in an orifice is the End Of The World As We Know It? What is the big deal about sex that gets so many BDSMers in a boring vanilla-styled funk? As long as it's safe, what DOES it matter? How can a subby be a slut without being used by multiple people? What part of the word "slut" don't you understand? LOL. Just my penny's worth. Sorry if the tone makes me seem abrupt - not a lot of time today to "soften" what I've written. I'm not really such a meany. Oh OK. I am. LOL.

CalifChick -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/4/2008 8:59:41 PM)
Well that was helpful as all get out. Yes, you're a meanie. Surely you are not trying to tell us that the rules for YOUR possessions are the rules for all? Cali (crosses Augustus off the short list)

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Master why do you want to share me? (2/4/2008 10:57:45 PM)
Ummmm.. Shared how? Shared in the same room as your master? Loaned out to some stranger for a week? Basically this enters the area of swinging more less. Even swinging don't swing with every tom, dick and jayne there is. Well sure you'll probally grow from this experience! However, you just might grow in directions your Master is not expecting you to, to the point of leaving his ass. Then again it could bring you two closer together. Both cases are something both you and him should explore mentally before doing this. Hell, nobody on this message board is able to give you the true insight you need about this. Basically, some people's kinks are not others. What is good for somebody may not good for everybody. In terms of the growth aspects, this is a question you should be asking him. Sharing and swinging can be an activity where people can grow from it, however it can also quickly be a bitter poison to the relationship. If your master is the one who said you would grow from it, ask him how. If he can't come up with a honest answer that makes sense, then chances are he's full of shit and has not given any honest thought to how it will help you grow. I could sit here and tell you my thoughts about how this activity would help you grow, but this is my mindset, my thoughts and not his. I vote you should put him to the acid test, and ask him this question about how it will help you grow. If you get back a mysterious answer full of bullshit, without a straight answer. I would really think twice about your Masters thought process and how experienced your master really is.

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