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ORIGINAL: Stephann

Yep, that's what I said: "She enjoys things, especially, because she doesn't enjoy them."  She's a unique sort of emotional masochist who enjoys humiliation, and 'abuse' scenes.  She actively sought a relationship with a man who would make her do things she 'didn't' want to do, yet cared enough about her to make sure she wasn't actually damaged in the process.  The tears are part and parcel of that satisfaction; coming to terms with years of sexual desires that were repressed, since they were so very different from what she thought she was supposed to enjoy.

It doesn't mean she doesn't find satisfaction in the actual acts involved; only that (in her case) there's no cut and dried "I like this" and "I don't like that."  I love steaming hot baths.  They're painful for me to get in, but incredibly satisfying when I have. 

Stephan

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ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

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ORIGINAL: Stephann

Yep, that's what I said: "She enjoys things, especially, because she doesn't enjoy them."  She's a unique sort of emotional masochist who enjoys humiliation, and 'abuse' scenes.  She actively sought a relationship with a man who would make her do things she 'didn't' want to do, yet cared enough about her to make sure she wasn't actually damaged in the process.  The tears are part and parcel of that satisfaction; coming to terms with years of sexual desires that were repressed, since they were so very different from what she thought she was supposed to enjoy.

It doesn't mean she doesn't find satisfaction in the actual acts involved; only that (in her case) there's no cut and dried "I like this" and "I don't like that."  I love steaming hot baths.  They're painful for me to get in, but incredibly satisfying when I have. 

Stephan

Hi S & c...miss you guys [:)]

She and i are on the same page with this and have discussed it.....the things that he pushes me to do that i don't want to do, don't like or find too painful or distasteful are ultimately the things that deepen my submission the most and that i end up enjoying the most.....anal was the first thing in that list....the very thing that gets me off about it the most is knowing that i can't stop him, he will have what he wants and he is taking it regardless of my pain and struggling....at that point it becomes intensely pleasurable.

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ORIGINAL: AugustusSeizeHer

1. You either -
.. agreed to be used by multiple partners (in which case do as your bloody well told and shut up - as long as it's safe with condoms, no skin abrasions, no coming in your mouth, etc) Yes, I've noticed that those who share their property as a matter of course are usually VERY safety conscious.
or
.. agreed to be used - and didn't think of being used by multiple partners (in which case call "yellow" or whatever else is your "half way" safe word (you DO have one don't you?) and discuss the issue like adults) I *don't* have a safe word because we don't need it. Master and I have discussed in advance what is acceptable and what is not acceptable. Sometimes we come up against things we either haven't discussed, or things that we may reconsider. That's when conversation comes into play.
or
.. specifically excluded being used in that way (in which case it's a deal breaker, pure and simple: cry out long and loud "red" or "mercy")

Have I missed an option here? How about they talk it out like adults and do what is best for both of them, not just the 'master' who wants to put his pecker into another sub?

2. There are many people on this planet who ache to have more than one partner. And you're getting encouraged to do so in the context of (I assume) a safe and loving relationship. This is bad because...??? I suspect that your Possessor als fucks others as or when the desire arises. This sounds like it could be a dominant being decent and fair. Ewwww, and Ewwwwww...

3. Perhaps your idea of Service is to bring coffee and home made cookies to your Possessor's guests? Where in your actual or implied contract does it say "coffee and cookies served nicely" only? Being a fuckable toy used by visitors is something that many people dream about. Listen hun, if that's your dream there are probably enough real Dom(mes) around here who could arrange that for you....

4. And will someone PLEASE explain why it's OK for a toy to be beaten, flogged, caned, tied up, tormented and tortured by others, but sticking a cock in a cunt or inserting a finger in an orifice is the End Of The World As We Know It? What is the big deal about sex that gets so many BDSMers in a boring vanilla-styled funk? As long as it's safe, what DOES it matter? How can a subby be a slut without being used by multiple people? What part of the word "slut" don't you understand? LOL. Why does a 'subby' need to be a 'slut'? I think you are confused.

Just my penny's worth.

Sorry if the tone makes me seem abrupt - not a lot of time today to "soften" what I've written. I'm not really such a meany.

Oh OK. I am. LOL.

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ORIGINAL: tigerstyle

Speaking for myself...

Because I can.

And because I find male sexuality far more interesting than female sexuality, although, being straight, I have to interact at the remove of a sexual object to be shared. [snip]

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ORIGINAL: thedarkarchon

because degrading you gives him a fat boner