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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/21/2007 7:40:25 PM

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i feel that counseling and being able to vent without judgment is the best way to deal with things when You are bipolar. if You are having issues as You have stated, i would try to calm Yourself in some way... just walking does wonders!

You may also look into information pertaining to bipolar disorder, there are many things that will better help You to understand Yourself and the effects that the disorder has on You. i am not being disrespectful in any way to You by saying this...but, it seems when You wrote this that You were in a 'manic' state.

btw... i am also bipolar!

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/23/2007 5:34:43 PM

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There are" pompous judgementals" in all lifestyles...you just made the point.
I said being with a married man not cheating with a married man.
Read closer..maybe slower?
Not everyone who is poly is a cheater..as a matter of fact it takes real honesty.and genuine integrity to be poly.

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/23/2007 6:01:20 PM

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There are" pompous judgementals" in all lifestyles...you just made the point.
I said being with a married man not cheating with a married man.
Read closer..maybe slower?
Not everyone who is poly is a cheater..as a matter of fact it takes real honesty.and genuine integrity to be poly..

Where exactly in the OP's description of the relationship did you see a resemblance to poly? Just because more than two people are involved does not qualify a situation as poly. What the OP described was cheating and I really don't see anything honest or integritous about that. Am I judgmental?.....damn straight I am. You are too, or were your judgments that the husband is a "jerk" and the wife "insecure" something else? Respond more carefully....maybe slower?

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/23/2007 11:59:15 PM

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He is a jerk for a lot of reasons.
I mentioned poly because poly is what relationships that involve more than two people are called.
A Master can do anything he wants to do as long as he has a willing sub(s)
As for the wife?
You sound like you would understand her much more than I.

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 1:27:52 AM

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Greetings

I too am bi polar II For no reason not even surgery should you be taken off your meds. If it is the surgeon doing it, tell him to call the Dr who prescribed the Bi Polar meds and talk to him. One Dr. does not override another Dr medical treatment. I take Bi Polar medication plus medication for several other medical reasons. It is always that my bi Polar meds are considered the most first.

Your moods and depression can cause eben more medical problems so staying level is very important. We can never be totally level all the time at least I never have reached it but I am a rapid cyclier sp? my moods can bounce 3 times in 5 minutes.

Just ignore the wife the rest of the groups will soon tire of her and learn of both of their bad character just keep yours good.

Good luck

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 3:14:31 AM

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He is a jerk for a lot of reasons.
I agree, but I'm judgmental that way.
I mentioned poly because poly is what relationships that involve more than two people are called.
No, they're not. Only specific types of relationships involving 2 or more people are. The one described here is not poly, it's infidelity (cheating).
A Master can do anything he wants to do as long as he has a willing sub(s)
I don't call this man's behavior "Masterly", nor do I call putting up with it "submission".
As for the wife?
You sound like you would understand her much more than I.
NO, I really don't understand her much at all, but then again I'm not insecure or jealous and anyone who I am in a relationship would have no need to run around BEHIND my back without my consent.

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 4:49:50 AM

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He is a jerk for a lot of reasons.
I agree, but I'm judgmental that way.
I mentioned poly because poly is what relationships that involve more than two people are called.
No, they're not. Only specific types of relationships involving 2 or more people are. The one described here is not poly, it's infidelity (cheating).
A Master can do anything he wants to do as long as he has a willing sub(s)
I don't call this man's behavior "Masterly", nor do I call putting up with it "submission".
As for the wife?
You sound like you would understand her much more than I.
NO, I really don't understand her much at all, but then again I'm not insecure or jealous and anyone who I am in a relationship would have no need to run around BEHIND my back without my consent.

And BANG, Mistoferin hits the nail square on the head!

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 7:14:39 AM

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Greetings A/all
I hope Im not in the wrong thread but I have some concerns and i need to vent.
I recently met a subbie who seemed intrested in Me till in total honesty i told her i was bi-polar and she ran without even discussing it.
I would appreciate any feedback from others concerning it.
I believe in total honesty.
Im on meds to help and yes at times its hard to stay on them.
Have others had a hard time telling others?
Respectfully,
MsD

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 12:01:53 PM

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Twist what I say anyway it suits you..
My point got through to others.
And, to Patins'a post..You are right.
Time has a way of weeding out the assholes in ANY group.
I am just concerened that she is off her meds and has to read
other people "short stroking it "over her mistakes.

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 12:23:20 PM

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You know what Code99?
I am sorry to hear that happened to you, but it may not have been the
real reason she took off,there may have been something that made her personal warning buzzer go off.
Was she simply feeling that you had withheld vitaly important info from her?
Maybe she feels you should have listed it in your ad?

If so,,how about next time you direct your potentials to a site that explains bi polar.
Or better yet ,you explain it but do it right away...

For whatever reason..I think it would be in your best interest to be up front
if you (obviuosly) believe it alters others perceptions of you.
It's not like you need to jump into a scene right off ,right?

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 2:04:26 PM

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Code99 I am sorry to hear that. I have noticed the few people I have met that don't know about bi-polar tend to not want to listen and if they do, it is hard to get them to understand that when you are on medicine things aren't like that anymore and in the rare cases they are they may not be as extreme as they once were. If she left without even wanting to understand the condition then I would say it is her loss. I used to not tell people about my having bi-polar because you always hear how people talk bad about people with mental illnesses. Then finally I just said screw it and I am open about how I have bi-polar and to my surpise...(maybe the area I live in is weird, I dunno) most of the people I have talked to around her either have bi-polar or knows someone who does. So, I don't feel so out of place as I once did when I didn't tell anyone about it. I hope you find someone that understands bi-polar and wants to be with you no matter what condition you have.

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 2:13:01 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Code99

Greetings A/all
I hope Im not in the wrong thread but I have some concerns and i need to vent.
I recently met a subbie who seemed intrested in Me till in total honesty i told her i was bi-polar and she ran without even discussing it.
I would appreciate any feedback from others concerning it.
I believe in total honesty.
Im on meds to help and yes at times its hard to stay on them.
Have others had a hard time telling others?
Respectfully,
MsD

as others have said, it is her loss in running without trying to find anything out about how well your illness is handled.

i've had a relationship with a wonderful woman who had bipolar disorder....it was difficult for her because she had to make the decision between treating the bipolar or treating the very bad chronic pain she had. she wasnt able to treat both, it left her a zombie. she chose to treat the pain.

it was difficult to deal with *her* sometimes also, but she *was* able to hear reason when she became really manic, and we were there to comfort her when she became depressed also.

i miss her terribly.....

kitten, who cant believe she's been gone nearly 6 years now....

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 2:16:26 PM

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I think that anytime others don't understand something, they run from it. I know how hard it is to have, I have been diagnosed just in the last week (though I suspected it). Just the amount of crap I am having to go through to get pills/therapy would drive someone to the edge. I have had to tell 4 or 5 perfect strangers about everything from my messed up childhood, abuse, rape, suicide attempts and more (including my new med. dr telling me how dumb I was to get raped at my age) I still don't get that one. To top it off, I am still not done and have three other docs to see in the next month.

If it bothers someone that is their issue, not yours. I am very blessed my Master is not only supporting me, but loving me through the whole thing. He just wants me back being happy, which I haven't been in almost two years (not totally). I decided I am at a point in my life where I have all I want, except a baby, and it's time I started enjoying my life in that way. Once all of this is under control, then we are going to try to have children.

You will find someone that will look past that and see you for the special person you are. Just stick with your meds because the last thing a sub/slave wants is to be tied up helpless when you have an episode (some do get violent). Give them links to websites or anything you can to ease their fears and help them to get informed.

Best of wishes,
SB

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 2:59:55 PM

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To the OP - Talk to your Psych as others have suggested, To me taking a bo-polar person of meds cold is a crazy idea, I've worked with a lot of metal ilnesses and it just doesnt make sense to me.
To the others bashing the girl for going with a married man - She knows that she should not have gone with a married man, she stresses quite clearly that it was her fault and a mistake and she also states that she believed he was seperated, in this post she is asking for help to deal with a stressful situation that she is in, even if that help be a few words of support. Yes we all know cheating is wrong and yes we all know that these things have consequenses however how is bashing the girl going to help her already see-sawing mental state?

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 4:30:35 PM

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rape, suicide attempts and more (including my new med. dr telling me how dumb I was to get raped at my age) I still don't get that one. To top it off, I am still not done and have three other docs to see in the next month.

Best of wishes,
SB

sleazybutterfly, the quote you mentioned from your doctor about being raped at any age was dumb...that concerns me. That doesn't seem like anything a doctor should say. I don't know where he was coming from with that. Also, having children while being treated for bi-polar can be tricky, be sure to tell the doctor that you are planning on becoming pregnant, so they know what meds they can put you on. Good Luck.

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/24/2007 8:31:46 PM

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I am bipolar Level 2. I am 47 and was diagnosed properly last year when I went to see a very exclusive pshcye. He is an expert.
I thought my life was over because I could not work. This doctor helped me tremendously, and never would think about taking my meds from me.
I cannot make a judgement call against your doctor. I am concerned about your confusion.
I am one to say what I think and it gets me in trouble from time to time.
I think you are in way over your head with this married man, and it has caused you to become depressed. You need to get your life back under control first.

Regards, MissSCD

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 7/25/2007 3:27:05 AM

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Thank You A/all for your posts,I appreciate the comments very much.
Respectfully ,
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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 3/30/2008 1:54:09 AM

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I'm sorry that people run from you due to bi-polar but they have good reason to when it comes to relationships. Not many people can handle all the emotional DRAMA the comes with bi-polar. In fact, the studies I have read say you have lesss than a 20% chance of making a LTR work. My EX was a case in point she had rapid cycling bi-polar and we lasted almost 3 year and I was her longest relationship. (Most dating sites have one thing to say about people with bi-polar - RUNNNNNNN!!!)

I put up with the mania, depression, begging to go off meds, spending sprees, hypersexual moods when she wanted a lot of other people, taking care of everything when she was unable to, physical and emotional violence, extreem needyness, paraniod delusions, and even the call at work when she said "I'm in love, but not with you!"

Her next partner lasted almost 2 months. Then she wanted to see me again. Two days later he was saying that she told him I assulted her and molested her. We had not even kissed. We had held each other and told each other we loved each other still. She also accused me of stealing her $3,000 in savings. She just forgot where she put it and later blew most of it in a manic spending spree.

I still miss her and still love her but I don't want that back in my life.

To the OP get back on your meds and stay clear of the people you say are trying to destroy your rep. Maybe they are or maybe they are just telling their side of the story and you are taking it too personally. I don't know you or how bad your paranoia can be. My EX had it bad at times.

To the lady who is upset by the cheating. I understand totally. What my EX did ripped my heart out. However, there could be other factors due to the issue with bi-polar like the hypersexual manias. We don't know, so give the OP a break please.

If anyone needs someone to talk to about bi-polar or alternative meds for bi-polar hit me up.
God bless you all who suffer from it and your families who share that suffering.

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 3/30/2008 12:52:45 PM

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Having a relationship with a married man isn't a bad thing - if he and you have the consent of his wife. Then it isn't cheating.

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RE: venting about bi polar and personal life.. - 3/31/2008 10:03:20 AM

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Unfortunatly...one of the symptoms of bi-polar/manics depressives is their *minds* tell them they do not need meds...

At some point in their lives, if they are fortunate...they accept the *fact* they have to take their...meds.

I got to watch my younger brother struggle most of his life with THAT symptom of the illness...it was painfull to watch...

He died in bed one night....all alone, way to...young. I was robbed ...of a good man/brother...

Good luck...

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