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RE: Having the Master sit down and "talk" to ... - 7/31/2007 7:25:00 AM   
Grlwithboy


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RE: Having the Master sit down and "talk" to ... - 7/31/2007 7:39:48 AM   
AZDarkKnight


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Status: offline 		Funny enough,within My skillset isn't the ability to read another mind and as someone who wants to make sure His girl is happy, then I want to have communication. As has been said before, each person and couples dynamic is different and so I can only speak from My personal viewpoint, but if there is someone troubling a girl that I care for, then I wish to know about it.. Maybe I can offer advice, teaching or just help her to focus, but I do feel that leaving it starts to create an emotinal gap that may only widen over time until the point she is sitting there without the love for Me.
There are times that orders need to be given, but I like to think that there is also time where things can be discussed. My apologies for jumping into the subs arena!

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RE: Having the Master sit down and "talk" to ... - 7/31/2007 11:23:31 AM   
labrat18610


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Status: offline 		Sir MikeSD, Sir;
I think you may have hit the nail on the head. I've always been in male/male realtionships-some master/slave, others not. If I said to any one of my partners that I wanted to have a warm, fuzzy theraputic discussion about our relationship, I'd get this answer. "What the f***  is wrong with you? ".
I did notice that most of the replies saying that this type of discussion was a good thing were from male/female or female/female realtionships.
Strangely, I don't recall any of the Masters barking orders at me. It was a snap of the fingers and a hand gesture. If I did something He didn't like, it was an instaneous whack. He rarely said anything. I knew not to do that again. There were no heart-to heart theraputic discussions. This is not to say that we  were both deaf mutes, we conversed, but it was in no way a therapitic "now, now" type of session.
Maybe, Sir, you're right.
Rick

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RE: Having the Master sit down and "talk" to ... - 7/31/2007 1:14:19 PM   
beargonewild


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Status: offline 		This reminds me of when I was collared and my former Master's complaint was I didn't talk enough and didn't express myself enough. Quite often he'd want to have one of those "heart to heart" talks to keep up on how our relationship was progressing! He would frequently question me on issues when he felt that were out of kilter, wheres I'm used to only voicing concerns when I believed there was cause for concern. This proved to be a case of us both operating on two different levels of communications!

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RE: Having the Master sit down and "talk" to ... - 7/31/2007 2:11:36 PM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: labrat18610

I think I may have given the wrong impression about the Masters and my relationship to Them. I have always sought out a Master who had a stong sense of entittlement. And I would not have kissed His ass if I didn't love Him.. Of course, we  were two people living under that same roof. We did have warm and tender moments. The bedroom is where  the Master showed his affection for me. Yet, the thought of having a heart to heart  theraputic talk  with the Master is totally foreign to me. His reaction to such a "talk"  would have been 3 words, "Deal with it". As I've said, I noticed lots of  whiny  slaves' complaints that "My Master doesn't sit down and talk to me." In the words of the Master, "Deal with it.".
Rick


This is fine for you, Rick, if that's the dynamic you are comfortable with.  Other people are not comfortable with it.  Deal with it.

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RE: Having the Master sit down and "talk" to ... - 7/31/2007 2:20:18 PM   
loverly


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Status: offline 		i cant imagin a relationshop with my Master where i wasnt allowed or asked to share everything..all my thoughts and problems and wishes and needs.... including asking for input on all i have happening with me... isnt it a duty of the Master to be there for his slave and help her understand and improve and move forward in her life so that she is "all she can be" ? and wouldnt that then include helping to guide her and give her the answers when possiable? i believe so ...it is why a girl gives herself totally over to her Master .. she trusts Him to have ALL her best interests taken to heart by Him as she is THE most important thing in HIs life!.... of course there are Those that dont even know the meaning of a Master/slave relationship and will never enjoy the intense closeness of this type of coupling.. these are the same ones who think slaves have no feelings or right to thoughts.. and believe i am sure that BDSM is all it is about.. that and sexual pleasure ..... and oh yes.. its ALL about THEM!  .... oopsie! wrong! lol

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RE: Having the Master sit down and "talk" to ... - 7/31/2007 10:59:05 PM   
labrat18610


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Status: offline 		The more and more I thought of Sir MIkeSD's comments about male/male realtionship, the more it made sense to me. While you can't paint every guy with the same brush, the men who were my Masters just wouldn't have had a heart-to-heart threaputic session about our relationship. I guess  it's a guy thing. Their attitude was "There's nothing to discuss. It's my way or the highway". Those were the men I sought out and loved. And quite frankly, that's when I was happiest. Probably, that's why  all those posts about having those sessions seemed so foreign to me. They're from a male/female or female/female point of view. A view that is not built into me.
Thanks, SirMIkeSD.
And thanks to all who responded to my question. I'm still learning.
Rick

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RE: Having the Master sit down and "talk" to ... - 7/31/2007 11:02:21 PM   
Estring


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Status: offline 		I don't always sit down and talk with my slave, sometimes I am standing up. Some Masters enjoy talking to their slaves. I am one of those that do. 

< Message edited by Estring -- 7/31/2007 11:03:04 PM >

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