sappatoti
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Joined: 10/30/2006 From: the edge of darkness... Status: offline
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ORIGINAL: cuffnspankme *runs in and pounces all here, gropes bites and stuff* Ok, I need opinions here, am I too nice? Ok, some of you may remember that I was seeing a guy last summer and that he just stopped talking to me one day. Well his sister was really sick with cancer and work was getting stressful so he just cut off all contact with me. He could not deal with me and everything else. He was scared of how things were and where they were going with us. His sister died a few days ago and he got on here and talked to me last night about it all, explained and said that he wanted me to have closure on everything. So am I too nice of a person because I am no longer that mad at him. I am still hurt, but not mad. I can understand why he did what he did. I do not think it was right of him to do so and neither does he. I still care for him and think I could be his friend. *sigh* When it comes to dealing with situations like this, I truly believe that being nice and compassionate is the way to go. Sure, the guy could have handled the situation with you in a better fashion, but only he knows what his state of mind was at the time he made that decision. Given the luxury of time, he understands your side. I'd say you handled this appropriately.
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Never mind the man on the edge of the darkness... he means no harm... "Community, Identity, Stability." ~ A Brave New World, Aldous Huxley, 1932 If you don't like my attitude, QUIT TALKING TO ME!
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