BeachMystress
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Joined: 4/3/2004 From: Naples Island- Long Beach CA - Southern California Status: offline
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I see this as a training issue more than anything. Yeah, this isn't the fun side of training but it sounds like it needs to be done. You need to talk with her about the issue. And I don't just mean mention it. You need to sit her down and discuss what you feel she does, what you feel it does to the relationship, your feelings about it AND her feelings about it. While it is all great to call your partner a fuck toy, the reality is that you're dealing with a human being. You need to open a dialog. Then, the next time she does the behaviour, it is time to sit down and talk about it again. This isn't something to save up for some other time. You correct behaviour as it happens. You need to not get angry about it. You need to solve it. Understand that this is probably something like sub drop.. aka hormones. I especially think that because you compared her behaivour to premenstrual. If it is hormones, she isn't being bad or bratty. She may need extra help to achieve her submissive headspace at this time. Keep in mind the best way to solve something like sub drop is coddling from the person who caused the drop... You may find that some special cuddling and appreciation the next morning, coupled with daily rituals may even things out a bit. Hey, it's worth a try.... Also, you need to get therapy or such to help you with your anger issues. The fact you ever worry about hurting her is not normal. It is a positive thing that you're aware of it without acting on it, but some help could teach you ways to channel your anger more positively.
< Message edited by BeachMystress -- 8/14/2007 11:54:11 AM >
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