Redoubt
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Most of the posts sum up my thoughts on the situation in one way or another. If she knew you were expecting her. Taking no response as "yes" indicates poor judgement on her part, however - as her dominant partner, not setting your expectations correctly was your error. I think we'd all agree that submissives with a streak of brat in them will always attempt to find any loophole and exploit it. For me, it's a courtesy thing. If she can't reach you by text and needs an answer. Phone. If she can't reach you, leave a voicemail with a way to contact her back, if the phone network is down (can you hear me now?) email a message. If none of those options are immediately available, please try again later. In this situation, it would depend on the family member. If she sees her grandpa frequently (i.e. weekly), and she has plans with me (i.e. has been told flat out she is expected home by a certain time), I would expect her to raincheck with her family if unable to reach me and return home. If she sees her family member infrequently, then two or three attempts to reach me to inform me what was going on would probably satisfy me that she had taken into consideration her prior instructions. A 24/7 Master/slave relationship can never survive the curve balls of life if the slave does not have at least some reasoning on what is courteous, respectful and the "Right thing to do", however it is the masters role to ensure that this understanding is in place before letting her leave the house alone. If a situation comes up that seems ambiguous to the slave, then the slave cannot be held responsible for making a judgement that doesn't meet with your satisfaction. You sit him/her down, and you explain your thoughts and your expectations. You try to help them learn what you would have them do if you weren't there. You then check for understanding, ask for and answer questions... then hug her/him and let them know you understand they didn't mean to disappoint you. But to answer the original question, when a sub asks a dom/me for permission and gets silence in reply, they should not interpret the silence as yes. (and occasionally they should sometimes interpret it as "o crap, am i going to get paddled for asking?" )
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