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DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 8:18:52 AM

BIllCT

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Personally I can't stand submissives in the lifestyle, who are just, out right doormats!
I think submissive and Dominants shoul dbe able to voice their wants, needs,kinks, desires and more and have a sense of themselves and not have to take any shit.
Besides, submissives only serve a Dom of their choice not every TOm, Dick, Harry or Rossane Barr type ya know .
Hehehehe

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 8:24:20 AM

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Tell me about it; all they say is "WELCOME"... geeeeesh! *grins*

Hope your doing well this AM,

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 8:26:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Personally I can't stand submissives in the lifestyle, who are just, out right doormats!
I think submissive and Dominants shoul dbe able to voice their wants, needs,kinks, desires and more and have a sense of themselves and not have to take any shit.
Besides, submissives only serve a Dom of their choice not every TOm, Dick, Harry or Rossane Barr type ya know .
Hehehehe

very well said totally agree.

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 8:27:35 AM

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I kinda like the Betty Boop Bathmats, myself.

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 8:36:14 AM

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I once saw a profile,who`s name was "doormat".......

For every fiddle,it`s bow.

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 9:03:10 AM

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Then go and find your bliss.
Reposted:
I have found that the ones who have to SAY "I'm not a doormat" are almost always the ones most afraid that they really are, and almost always the ones who let themselves be taken advantage of in a way that does not fulfill them.

A doormat can be healthy, I know I was a happy fulfilled willing doormat in my previous relationship.

It's the ones who are afraid of the choices that shout so loudly against them. The ones who understand there is nothing to fear because THEY value their consent and take responsibility for their choices...being a doormat, or a master, or anything at all, is just one beautiful choice from another.

http://www.collarchat.com/m_916105/mpage_1/key_doormat/tm.htm#916126
Doormats

http://www.collarchat.com/m_759342/mpage_4/key_doormat/tm.htm#761465
Doormats- can we eliminate them?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_719413/mpage_1/key_doormat/tm.htm#719427
How do you draw the line between submissive and doormat?

http://www.collarchat.com/m_202748/mpage_1/key_doormat/tm.htm#202751
Doormat sub/slaves..what are their identifiers

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 9:19:44 AM

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If it wasnt for doormats where would all You D types wipe Your feet hmmmm ?

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 10:23:52 AM

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Why can't you stand them? Are they offensive to you?

"Doormat" has such a negative connotation. And yes, in some cases the connotation is relevant, but not in all.

Below is a repost of what I wrote in an older thread which was about eliminating doormats. I was a little irritated at the time and it shows, but I still feel basically the same. And for clarifications sake, my Master doesn't actually call me his doormat, but others have:

"I am proud to be my Master's doormat. I am proud to be anything he wants me to be at any given time. I enjoy when he puts his feet on me, whether to wipe them, rest them, or have them cleaned with my mouth.

Master says I'm only a doormat when I'm laying at the doorway, though. Otherwise, I'm a foot rest or any other component he wishes for.

Here's a great article on doormats:
http://www.humbledfemales.com/doormat.html

So often people have their own definition of a "doormat." It's always negative. I am an intelligent, thinking, feeling human being. I am whatever my Master wants at any given time. I obey him in all things. I surrender all my will and power to him. I guess that makes me a doormat. If so, I'm the happiest doormat around.

I think the term does something to people's egos, personally. I know my potential and capabilities, as does my Master. What anyone else thinks is secondary. People use the term doormat as though it's an insult, because they think someone who surrenders completely must not have a brain. Their ignorance shows, when such utilization of the word is displayed.

I wonder, when I say I am his toilet, why it is not so offensive. Or his bitch to fuck. Or his toy or object or property. "Objects" don't have brains (hey a doormat is an object) yet many a slave is proud to be her Master's object. I think we are inconsitent with our criticizms here.... "

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 10:30:45 AM

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Yeah, don't people with a different approach to life that you can look down upon suck? And what's up with people of other genders, nationalities, skin colors, affliations, political views, etc.?! Are they OUT to look stupid?

In short, I don't like people who aren't identical to me. How dare those bastards be doormats?! What's their angle?! They're wrong for being themselves! Freaking.. doormats.. freaking.. trying to.. get their doormat germs all over the place..

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 10:41:19 AM

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I think "doormats" are just probably way into Humiliation as a kink. So?

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/16/2007 11:03:12 PM

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I personally love doormats in rug or smart male human type. M

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 5:55:36 AM

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In general, like LA I too find that many women who say "I'm no doormat" manytimes are. But I also find that many men who say they don't want a "doormant" either do, or are pandering,

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 6:23:48 AM

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if I were a doormat, I would say 'oh you again?'

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 6:31:32 AM

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i can't see disliking someone just because they are a certain way you don't approve of. Instead of saying "i don't like doormats" You could say "i prefer not to take on a slave with doormat qualities" Then maybe intelligently explain why instead of just complaining or putting them down, making them the butt of your jokes. At any rate, even if a woman is a doormat doesn't mean you automatically have to take advantage of her. Maybe some do, be the exception.

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 6:59:35 AM

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I don't knock other people's kinks, whatever floats your boat.
I am a doormat sometimes for my Lady. : )
She can walk over me any time she wants, and I love it.

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 7:15:33 AM

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thank you for this repost ownedgirlie.

i love the site.....

Sir's doormat

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 7:40:01 AM

camille65

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quote:

ORIGINAL: BIllCT

Personally I can't stand submissives in the lifestyle, who are just, out right doormats!
I think submissive and Dominants shoul dbe able to voice their wants, needs,kinks, desires and more and have a sense of themselves and not have to take any shit.
Besides, submissives only serve a Dom of their choice not every TOm, Dick, Harry or Rossane Barr type ya know .
Hehehehe

Well some doms like doormats. Some submissives want to be doormats.
Others don't.
Why does this bother you in particular? For some, it is a perfect match of needs.

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 12:19:14 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: shyinini

thank you for this repost ownedgirlie.

i love the site.....

Sir's doormat

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 12:33:17 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuriousLord

Yeah, don't people with a different approach to life that you can look down upon suck? And what's up with people of other genders, nationalities, skin colors, affliations, political views, etc.?! Are they OUT to look stupid?

In short, I don't like people who aren't identical to me. How dare those bastards be doormats?! What's their angle?! They're wrong for being themselves! Freaking.. doormats.. freaking.. trying to.. get their doormat germs all over the place..

VERY well said!

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RE: DoorMats In D/s and BDSM - 8/17/2007 1:44:35 PM

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...is there a latin name for doormataphobia?

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