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In your experience what was it that made you feel "... - 8/16/2007 2:31:11 PM

TheLadyDesires

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I have had a recent experience with a sub that was unique. he kept begging Me to "take him" he was not meaning psycally he was meaning mentally. So here is My question. In your experience wether it be in your head or in real, what was it or will it be that will give you the feeling of being "taken"?
What would need to be done or said to make you feel you are no longer your own but have given over to your Mistress/Master.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 2:43:08 PM

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Eventually I'd just tell him to go dig a hole in the yard and come back in when HE felt taken. I won't pander to someone's endless inner hold of neediness.

But seriously, on the general occasion of someone needing mental seduction- it's all about keying into what works for them. For me it's much more simply taking the lead and forcing me to be passive that seduces and moves me. For others, who knows.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 2:47:34 PM

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Well, communicating to them is a good start.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 2:47:46 PM

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Greetings -

I'm thinking back and there are 2 things that stand out after 5 years. The first is simply His presence - the honesty and control He took from the first date. The second that really cinched it and made me feel it more than anyone else ever has was the afternoon i was told to speak in third person - in all honesty it was very difficult and not something that i like to do on a regular basis but at that time it really re-enforced that i was His.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 2:53:18 PM

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i remember, for me it was the first meet with Master for training... as soon as i entered His domain.. He quickly removed my clothing and jewelery... seemingly simple yet it made quite an impact.
also... when my own body refuses to orgasm for me... (no matter how hard i try or what i tell it) :-) but does so anytime Master wishes it.. and with just a couple of words... for me... thats when i realized it had transended i do this because i choose to to was no longer the truth, no longer something i do... it became because i need to ... as primitive as my need to breathe.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 3:08:52 PM

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To feel 'taken,' I need to feel that I am the only one he is thinking about, the only one he wishes to be with. Once I know I am his focus, that I am the one who holds his attention, then I feel taken. And afterwards, when I feel him reach for me, especially as he sleeps.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 3:18:27 PM

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That is not something that is easy to articulate for me. It isn't necessarily one single act or statement either.

In general, it is when he cuts off all other options other than the one he wants me to take and there is no other choice than to take that path. It can be anything as simple as the food I eat to as complex as getting me to manage my emotions in the way he wants. With many things it is pretty simple and takes little effort on my part. With other things it takes significant effort to alter my behavior, thoughts and feelings to take the path he wants.

My life is no longer my own; it is his to do with what he will.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 3:46:56 PM

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When I keep doing stuff I don't really want to do (or stop doing stuff I want to do) because He wants me to. I register my view, and then do it how he wants it (or not) without feeling any lasting discontent. And, then there's when I can't do my own 'stuff' until he frees me up to do it. And, when I run everything by him to make sure its ok.

What would need to be done or said to create this feeling? I dunno, really. I guess its the idea that he's paying attention to the details like whether or not I have on a seat belt, how much coffee I'm drinking, and what I have in my apartment and that he persists even when I -mildly- resist a suggestion or forget.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 4:30:28 PM

cwytch

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"taken" for me was a simple touch..one that felt like nothing i had ever experienced before and cannot get enough of..

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 5:36:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheLadyDesires

I have had a recent experience with a sub that was unique. he kept begging Me to "take him" he was not meaning psycally he was meaning mentally. So here is My question. In your experience wether it be in your head or in real, what was it or will it be that will give you the feeling of being "taken"?
What would need to be done or said to make you feel you are no longer your own but have given over to your Mistress/Master.

for me,
it's the voice and the eyes..
He has a very sexy sounding regular voice too ( use to be in radio ) but it's when he uses " THAT" voice...
" LOOK at me, cyn" < in THAT voice > and everything else fades into the background..
He prefers eye contact..when logistically possible.... and chooses his positions ( and the ones he puts me in ) so that he keeps me connected to his emotions and reactions by watching his eyes. He is also a very visual person and likes me vulnerable and open to/for his viewing .. my overly-sensative modesty(hated being naked and exposed ) was one of the first things to go, long ago....and that sets my mind the moment he tells me to shed my clothes for him ( or does it himself)..

Putting his hands in the back of my hair and clenching tightly..< is attention getting and the emphasis on his words " you are MINE" ..

so ya..for me its the voice..eyes..and his words.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 5:56:07 PM

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It's many things combined together...

But if I have to think of one, the first that pops into my head is... when I take and bare all that he wishes me to for the moment and when he takes me to that special hight of emotion and sensations... and then he takes me in his arms and just holds me tightly... is when I know I'm his.. taken by him with all that I am.

I can't wait to move and feel it again. (although as I said, there are other things that make me feel that way too) :) :) :)

'violet'

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 6:27:02 PM

Neala

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For me...it's when a Dom uses that stern voice...and leaves me no other option. There is no give in his voice..no chance of getting out of it (so to speak). It doesn't have to be a physical touch or anything...just knowing that he won't back down from his stance. Yummy!

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 6:31:19 PM

DiurnalVampire

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My boy's nicknames make them feel completely taken. Regardless of who they are in the outside world, when my boys are with me they are my little pets, and have names accordingly. My Angel used to get upset if I used his real world name with him, unless we were out in public, because he lived for the times when I caled him Angel and made him mine. Kitten hated his name, but he knew it was his dislike of it and yet my enjoyment of it that proved he was property. He answered to it happily, even if he didnt think it was a good nickname.
The other boys and girls I have had have expressed similiar feelings about the names.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 6:45:22 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheLadyDesires

I have had a recent experience with a sub that was unique. he kept begging Me to "take him" he was not meaning psycally he was meaning mentally. So here is My question. In your experience wether it be in your head or in real, what was it or will it be that will give you the feeling of being "taken"?
What would need to be done or said to make you feel you are no longer your own but have given over to your Mistress/Master.

Lots of things give me that thrill of being Hers. Many times it is small physical things, such as her laying her hand on my tigh when we're in the car, just a gentle motion that says "You are mine". I particularly like when she gets a handful of my hair and kisses me, it's not at all a rough thing, just a move that tells me deeply "YOU ARE MINE!"

But the submission, being given over to my Lady's desires, is something that comes from within me. I decide every time she commands that I will obey. And there are times I struggle with that a bit inside. That yielding is like the point on a rollercoaster when the car ratchets up the last little bit to the top of the big hill. I close my eyes and go forward down that impossible plunge knowing she will catch me.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 9:43:07 PM

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There are so many different things. All of them are really hard to put into words. I would guess that the things that make one feel 'taken' are somewhat unique to the individual.

There are not a lot of things I truly do not want to do. There are a lot of things I am disinterested in or simply dislike--but not a lot that is gut-wrenching. When he makes me do those things that are gut-wrenching and hard, it makes me feel 'taken.'

For example, I am really creeped out by tongues and saliva/spit. It's hard to explain why. It just...ugh..makes me queasy. Sometimes, he will make me sit still and lick my face everywhere, even though he knows I am on the verge of throwing up/screaming/crying. It amuses him that I have such a strong reaction to something so 'normal'. It's an easy way for him to get a lot of reaction and my reactions are what he really enjoys.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 10:16:06 PM

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When Master tells me i'm His...He'll say, "you know you are mine....no matter where you go, what you do you are mine"...He says..."I OWN you ...you know you are trapped dont you candace"? Its awesome to hear this...and i love Him for it.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/16/2007 10:57:30 PM

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I know I felt Owned when I realized I was able to and did trust him with my life. This does not happen instantly but rather over time where he proved to me many different ways he was who he said he was and he meant what he said.

This continues therefore I do not become bratty or attention seeking....well except when I am in a silly mood but he enjoys those moods.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/17/2007 8:33:44 AM

slavemaia

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TheLadyDesires

I have had a recent experience with a sub that was unique. he kept begging Me to "take him" he was not meaning psycally he was meaning mentally. So here is My question. In your experience wether it be in your head or in real, what was it or will it be that will give you the feeling of being "taken"?
What would need to be done or said to make you feel you are no longer your own but have given over to your Mistress/Master.

The "feeling" of being taken is different than the actuality of being owned. What i mean is there are definitely times when i "feel" taken - a certain look, tone of voice, Him physically grabbing me and pulling me in the direction He wants me in. But the being taken, being owned is constant. The only thing that has ever stood between me and feeling owned/taken is my own resistance/reactance to being owned. It took me a long time to understand the difference between authority and control. Being owned means Chairman has complete authority over me. How He chooses to express that authority is His option. How He chooses to express His control is oftentimes what leads me to "feel" taken.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/17/2007 9:05:16 AM

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I feel taken when someone is able to capture my mind, body, spirit and heart.

When the majority of my thoughts center around that person, when their voice echoes in my ear, when their words send shivers up my spine, when their hands leave fingerprints on my body, when I feel I need them, more than even want them.

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RE: In your experience what was it that made you feel &... - 8/17/2007 10:06:28 AM

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All of the above.

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