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RE: Successful male subs: How did you do it? - 8/24/2007 4:08:08 AM

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ORIGINAL: pixelslave

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ORIGINAL: littlesarbonn

I agree, Pixel. It's why I post a lot less about significant issues in these forums these days. I got really tired of being either told I was wrong, or criticized for not toeing the invisible line. I've made the mistake too many times of taking the bait from a woman asking what I thought was a sincere question, only to be insulted and criticized in response.

Yes littlesarbonn,
It is indeed very frustrating in certain forums when one never knows if their posts will be welcomed or not. I also often feel as though I've been baited when I reply honestly to certain threads in the desire to contribute to an intelligent discussion of a topic relevent to all and of interest to me. Like you, it's part of why I don't post as often. I've also been very busy of late; leaving little time to read the forums, let alone to post in them.

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oooooo I love that idea! I learn so much from you guys - love when you post and can see your point. Wonder how we might make this a reality. Hmmmm

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RE: Successful male subs: How did you do it? - 8/24/2007 4:20:01 AM

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ok little research done - now would love some sub assistance.

Would be oh so helpful if one of you talented fellas would start a thread here on the topic of separate male and female sub forums. A petition of sorts if you will. A sample wording of an email that others can cut paste and forward to the CM admin and the adrdess info below might be included. And I suppose as well there should be a general feedback loop for discussion etc. too. If you are concerned about being flamed - feel free to write it up for me and I will post it under my name instead so I will take the heat.

Any questions regarding this board should be sent to the forum's administration through the - Collarme.com Support - service. Please open your letter with - "Collarme.com Forum - Questions."

If there are no takers that will be an answer of sorts as to whether this is something others are interested in supporting.

Ahh - the non profit ed in me just loves this.

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RE: Successful male subs: How did you do it? - 8/24/2007 1:17:32 PM

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Interestingly enough, chatrooms, and internet forums have not really been successful for me in making a meaningful, healthy connection and collaring with a Dominant Lady. It is most difficult for the Domme to filter out the frogs to get to an occasional prince and while I don't consider myself to be a prince by a long shot, I'm not a frog. I just don't seem to make a good impression in forums such as this one.

In fact the most success so far is still a work in progress. I was at a local group's social and educational presentation. I had recently returned a collar of consideration to a Domme that I met in a forum such as this. We soon determined that we were seeking different things in that relationship and remaining in it was unhealthy for both of us. I had gone to the local group's social solo and was not looking for a Domme. I was there to attend the mummification demonstration and learn a bit more about it. There were several others from a sister group also in attendance that night. As is usually the case, I remainded cordial and helpful during the social but didn't make any real effort to make any connections. Most of the folk were paired up already so the evening for me was educational but otherwise uneventful.

About two days later, I got an Instant Message from a Domme who had come to the social that night with her submissive husband. We hadn't really talked but had noticed each other from across the room (so to speak). After some pleasant talk, she informed me that she had been looking for a beta submissive male for her household as an enhancement. We have continued to talk for quite some time now and find that we have so much more in common than I would have ever dreamed. There are positives all around and we seem to match with what we want and don't want from this dynamic if it continues.

So, in this case I didn't do the searching for a Dominant Lady. She found me at a lifestyle social.

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RE: Successful male subs: How did you do it? - 8/24/2007 3:30:03 PM

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theres at least three people interested in it. Pixel who had the idea, you who ran with it,and I'll write it if no-one else will.
Though perhapse differing to pixel if he wants to compose it would be proper?

speaking of which, pixel, i have a feeling the forums would have been a better place to meet someone like you suggested for a large number of people in the personals.

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RE: Successful male subs: How did you do it? - 8/24/2007 6:04:47 PM

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Don't forget Littlesarbonne - I got the impression he was liking the idea too. And he is a very good writer. I did send a note to the mods and asked them to check this thread. But I am sure it takes a lot more than that to get a new forum developed.

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RE: Successful male subs: How did you do it? - 8/24/2007 6:46:07 PM

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With mine, I was actually part of a harem of male and female slaves. She wasn't a pro, but she wanted a poly house - although we didn't all live there. I had a separate place of my own. But she wanted one male and one female slave who could be her toys for public play. The ones who were chosen had to be groomed and trained properly, so not everyone wanted that - and you had to be able to handle the training. Not all could do it, but in the end, I was able to and was chosen as her prized male slave.

It was mostly about being able to do everything she pleased that wasn't a hard limit - and it helped to have as few hard limits as possible. It was very rewarding to be her prized slave, but the training was brutal. One thing she demanded is that her public play slaves did not embarass her in public - and the punishment for that was severe, more than what her regular slaves would be put through.

For the male, my anal abilities had to be excellent, and I went through 2-3 months of very painful training. I had to learn how to fully relax so she could insert anything she desired in me. I had to be stretched to be able to take both length and width - and that was the most painful part of the training process, as tearing was common. I was able to survive it though. And I had to be trained to be able to please a woman sexually so she always orgasmed first. For both, any failures resulted in severe punishment and believe me, you learned quickly after the first punishment.

But being put through all that and being used in public led to wonderful rewards - being allowed to play with the female slaves in ways the other males weren't allowed and to be with Mistress in the same fashion. I was as successful as I was because I was able to give her what she wanted more than any of the others. I was special to her - and all of that was what made my time with her so wonderful. I'm only no longer with her for personal reasons on her end, or I have no doubt I'd still be wearing her collar today.

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