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SpankYouHarder -> RE: Moving on (8/20/2007 4:58:55 PM)
Sometime is harder to meet those that we chat with everyday on line than someone we see in our lives on a weekly basis. That person becomes an emotional support. Someone you tell the good, the bad the ugly. Someone who makes you feel better, makes you laugh, takes an interest in you. You think about them, worry about them, are proud of them and talk about them because they have become part of your life, a big part. Love, friendship the bond is there. Many do not understand this. When I miss someone but can not get a hold of them for what ever reason, I send e-mails. This is what you are missing and a great loss. I feel your pain. Years ago I lost my daily "person" who I chatted with, cammed with, talked to on the phone, when I found the truth about them. I went though the feeling of loss, not being able to share anymore and then came anger. It happens to many. I sugest you blog or join a chat group or better yet find a munch in your area and get out of the house and away from the computer for awhile. hugs Sir's sub.

WillowRain -> RE: Moving on (8/20/2007 5:46:57 PM)
Sometimes it's okay to just feel bad. A connection that was very important to you has ended and it is normal to greive in that situation. It is my beleif that letting yourself feel how you feel, is the best way to move through those emotions and not just stuff them away where they will fester and not heal. As much as you can, be kind to yourself. I know it hurts right now down to the center of who you are. When you are ready, reach out. Go have coffee with a friend in the lifestyle. Be with people who understand who and what you are. I'm sorry that this relationship didn't work out for you, and hope that your heart begins to gently knitt itself back whole.

desiresluv -> RE: Moving on (8/20/2007 7:44:32 PM)
The only thing that will help is time~I am sorry for your pain. I wish you happier days ahead..

amaidiamond -> RE: Moving on (8/21/2007 2:23:19 PM)
Hi all and thanks for all the advice :) I am feeling somewhat better today though it still hurts like hell, I msged him and told him that I know he doesnt wish to discuss the sending back of the collar but it has to be done, I need the new address however if it's not given I will send to the old on friday, i got the new one. I am already very active in the scene over here and attend several local munches in the area, also the fet fairs and play partys although I've been more socialising in the last year, I really liked the idea about non sexual play, im pretty sure i can't handle sex right now but the play part, cp and the like could actually help I think, have had an offer of a damn good spanking from a friend of mine which I will most likely end up accepting :) I doubt very much i'll heal fast but i'm starting to believe i will heal, I'm willing to accept in time the pain will fade, I guess it's just waiting it out. dia

amaidiamond -> RE: Moving on (8/21/2007 2:49:58 PM)
Just had to add that.....in response to Aquatic - I think it's too late for the ben and jerrys overdose.....I am turning into a tub of phishfood!

HalloweenWhite -> RE: Moving on (8/21/2007 3:50:28 PM)
"an offer of a damn good spanking", now there's an idea; I need to find someone to spank to help -Me- lol.

LotusSong -> RE: Moving on (8/21/2007 4:19:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond My question is does anyone have any ideas on getting closure, how can I move on.. I don't mean move onto another Dom, just, stop feeling so wretched, I've tried spoiling myself, distracting myself but every so often this horrid wave of pain comes back and knocks me for six. Comments greatfully appriciated, thank you Edited to clear the worst of the typos It's the loss of a dream you miss, the what could have been- not the Dom. Things became habit. Work on being your own anchor in life. Because when all is said and done, all we have left is ourselves.

BlueEyedSubinDE -> RE: Moving on (8/21/2007 5:29:43 PM)
For what it's worth, when my Master and I parted ways, I did a few things that helped me move on. He had gotten my nipples pierced, I removed the rings and let them heal up. If you want to keep them pierced, why not get new rings. At least you won't have the constant reminder of seeing something from him? The second thing I did was get my hair cut the way I wanted. He had insisted I let it grow long with out even getting it trimmed to even up the ends. So what have you given up, done or even not done, that you really wanted to? Finally, ok I will pause while everyone flinches, I had a leather collar, I cut it in half. It was done out of anger, but once I did it, I admit, I felt better. That is what gave me clousure. It was done, it was over. It hurt, don't get me wrong, but all of this symbolized control passing from him back to me, if that makes any sense. As I look back on it, it was as if it was a somewhat long un-collaring ceremony.

AquaticSub -> RE: Moving on (8/21/2007 5:46:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: amaidiamond Just had to add that.....in response to Aquatic - I think it's too late for the ben and jerrys overdose.....I am turning into a tub of phishfood! Well, as a favorite webcomic character of mine once said "If I'm going to continue with my slow sucide, I might as well invest in the best revolver." grins Just try to do some running or sit-ups as well. Maybe take up an activity like rock-climbing or a self-defense class. A work-out can really help with endorphins and achieving new goals may help you out of your funk.

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