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nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 8:37:14 PM

steamynotraunchy

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All submissives out there owe it to themselves to read this. You know how every DAY you're getting mail from same nasty bastard masquerading as a "dom" and wanting to treat you like some 5th class citizen and doormat?

Well understand something. There are submissives and there are subordinates. A submissive is one who wishes to submit, who is unresistingly or humbly obedient. A subordinate is one who is under another, of less importance, subservient and inferior.

A true dom wants to love, support, understand, cherish and protect a submissive. A masogynist (woman hater) with mommy issues wants to subordinate, punish, inflict pain and generally keep a woman down.

Therefore, when you're approached by one of these woman haters, just block them, set them straight and block them. They're not even doms. They ARE THE WANNABE'S. And whatever you do, don't take their hate for women on. It has nothing to do with you and they have nothing to do with D/s.

I hope this makes a difference in someone's life cuz I've had it with these douche bags

RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 8:53:41 PM

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Somebody had a bad experience.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 9:00:21 PM

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More "twue" Dom bullshit.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 9:09:20 PM

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This is my mantra: Block, Delete, Ignore!

On the flip side, there are also some submissives who are manipulative, backbiting, jealous, drama queens, and those who play head ganes...it takes all kinds!

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 9:10:11 PM

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A true dom wants to love, support, understand, cherish and protect a submissive.

Absolutely true and correct!

It is important to learn from bad experiences. And if you can help someone else avoid some pain, why not?

Steamy's post is nothing less than the truth. All submissives and slaves need to realise that they do not have to be treated like rubbish. I've talked to a lot of subs- male and female- who think they have to do whatever a dominant says just because he or she is a dominant. Just like any other relationship, we should seek those with whom we are compatible. Seeking what we need does not lessen our submissive-ness.

Don't let anyone make you believe it is un-submissive to seek a dominant who is compatible with your limits. Does it make sense for a devout Catholic to go with an atheist just because the atheist is dominant? (just and example) Like any other type of relationship one human can have with another, we should seek what we need and want in a partner. Dominants look for what they want in a sub. Subs have the same right.

And let's not forget that we are all just people before anything else. Dom or sub is simply PART of who we are.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 9:39:13 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: steamynotraunchy
A submissive is one who wishes to submit, who is unresistingly or humbly obedient.

Not all subs fall into this category. Many masters enjoy resistance and dislike humility. Many subs are not very oriented towards obedience, but more service, control, pleasure or such.

quote:

A true dom wants to love, support, understand, cherish and protect a submissive

Except the ones that don't.

quote:

A masogynist (woman hater) with mommy issues wants to subordinate, punish, inflict pain and generally keep a woman down.

Well except there are many great masters who punish, inflict pain and want to keep THEIR woman down.

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I hope this makes a difference in someone's life cuz I've had it with these douche bags

It's good to have another example that not all subs are strong/smart/make all the right choices all the time.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 9:49:29 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: steamynotraunchy

A subordinate is one who is under another, of less importance, subservient and inferior.

oooooh yeah...

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A masogynist (woman hater) with mommy issues wants to subordinate, punish, inflict pain and generally keep a woman down.

Ain't it great?? I love this type. They're actually a rare find. :)

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 9:51:25 PM

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did you read what I wrote???????? They are not submissives. They are subordinates. My point exactly. This was a message to submissives.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 10:05:00 PM

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sounds like "STOP" using "under consideration"......

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 10:08:41 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: steamynotraunchy

did you read what I wrote???????? They are not submissives. They are subordinates. My point exactly. This was a message to submissives.

The problem here is that you are creating a narrow definition of submissive and expecting others to accept it right off the bat. There are very few hard and fast rules here. Almost everything comes in some shade of gray.

Your friendly neighborhood sadist (who doesn't have "mommy issues", just issues with women in general

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 10:10:10 PM

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ALL submissives? you know ALL submissives, their kinks and desires? "True Doms"???WOW!!!

That's a message to yourself, you have no right or business to tell ANYONE what they should/ought to be doing. Stupid girl.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 10:21:08 PM

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You dont seem to understand that there are plenty of submissive (yes submissive, not subordinate. I cant even fathom why youd consider using that word in this context) women who WANT the "douche bags" you are so sick of. Not all aggressive dominants are women haters. Ive known some very sweet Doms who spoke to their girls as if they were the lowliest shit ever, but were extremely respectful to me.
Dont go telling others how to act, or what they are. You dont seem to have had a great experience, and we are sorry for that. However, assuming thta your shitty expereince is shared b y others, or even seen the same as others, is pointless. Not all Doms wanta caring, nurturing, loving relationship with their submissives. Not all girls are looking for one from their Doms.

DV

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 10:22:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: MissDirtyPanties

ALL submissives? you know ALL submissives, their kinks and desires? "True Doms"???WOW!!!

That's a message to yourself, you have no right or business to tell ANYONE what they should/ought to be doing. Stupid girl.

Jump in MisDirtyPanties.......welcome to our boards. You fit right in !!

Sir's girl

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 10:33:24 PM

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while i understand where youre comming from and agree to an extent, its not a good idea to make such a general statement about a group of peoples. somewhere out there, there is a woman who WANTS to be treated like the lowest subhuman piece of filth on earth..and while neither you, i or most of the subs on cm are that woman, undoubtedly she is there and just waiting for this self proclaimed dom to message her. kink takes all kinds; just when you think youve got the whole list of em down, someone pops up with something so out there that youre mind cant possibly fathom how someone could derive any pleasure from it, but yet, they do.

to everyone else; theres no reason to be nocking her down or calling her names(looking right at you ms. panties). im sure everyone here can say that theyve had a run-in(or 5) with someone so truly horrable that it makes you question whether you really want to be in this lifestyle or not, i know ive gotten multiple messages from people who have no business calling themselves a decent human being, much less a dom(or sub, as the case may be).

cheers!

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 10:43:46 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: MissDirtyPanties

ALL submissives? you know ALL submissives, their kinks and desires? "True Doms"???WOW!!!

That's a message to yourself, you have no right or business to tell ANYONE what they should/ought to be doing. Stupid girl.

Calling someone stupid is mean... and speaks volumes about the kind of person you are.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/21/2007 10:53:38 PM

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I can understand your frustration... but you can't narrow-down everyone into just these two categories. If it's your opinion, fine.. you're entitle to your own ideology and psychological profiles.. but don't try to so 'loudly' throw them into everyone's faces and expect everyone to agree.

I don't disagree with you that there are those nasty people online who annoy me in emails as much as you, and many others. I don't build their psychological profiles and may not agree with you on that.

Do what's best for you... ignore the idiots and even suggest to your friends to do the same... but coming out to the forums and telling all the submissive that they should read it and who they should ignore or not... That's just obnoxious of you.

Best of luck
'violet'

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/22/2007 4:48:35 AM

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Steamy...I can understand your frustration and sympathize with you. I no longer keep my profile active because I got tired of getting emails--and I am no longer looking. I see your post as only trying to look out for new subs that might think the actions of one Dom are the actions of all. They are not. Each sub must make her own choice as to what is accepting in her relationship...just as each Dom searches for what he needs. It doesn't make it right or wrong. As you can see it is not hard to ruffle the roost around here...so take it with a grain of salt. Even if some disagree with your opinion, it doesn't mean it is right or wrong. This is just a place to express yourself~and I hope you continue to feel free to do that. Best of luck..

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/22/2007 6:25:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: steamynotraunchy

A true dom wants to love, support, understand, cherish and protect a submissive.

Dominants wield power. Submissives submit to power. Everything else is style.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/22/2007 6:30:25 AM

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A true dom wants to love, support, understand, cherish and protect a submissive.

Absolutely true and correct!

More like absolutely irrational and illogical. Dominance is about power. Period.

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RE: nasty "doms" - 8/22/2007 7:23:23 AM

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Gimme a beat!

Sittin in the movie show

Thinkin nasty thoughts

Better be a gentleman

Or youll turn me off

Thats right, lemme tell it

Nasty, nasty Doms, dont mean a thing

Oh you nasty Doms

Nasty, nasty Doms, dont ever change

Oh you nasty Doms

I dont like no nasty girl

I dont like nasty food

The only nasty thing I like

Is a nasty groove

Will this one do?

Uh huh, I know... say...

Having plagarized that, there are certainly Doms who cherish their subs and all that stuff. One should not cultivate an antagonizing attitude for every case out there.

Ron

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