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Begging... - 7/11/2005 3:51:01 AM

KittieSummers

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Occasionally, my Mistress tells me to beg Her; for sexual pleasure, for orgasm, for a certain privalage...it differs. I have felt ver awkward doing this and I asked my chain-sister about it. She is a lot more experianced than me and has been a slave as well as a sub. she says it always feels wierd when you beg, you feel like you're repeating yourself, like you can't possibly be turning anyone on, but yet your Owner loves it. I am posting this to find out if anyone sle feel sthe same and is there any way to overcome the awkwardness?

In this case, I believe, practice will not help. My chain-sister has been doing this about three years and she still feels strange too. Still, it pleases Mistress so if no-one has any suggestions, no worries! Please, just share your experiances and...um...make me feel less stupid about it?

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RE: Begging... - 7/11/2005 5:22:03 AM

EmeraldSlave2

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Similar to you I CAN always beg when ordered to- but it feels awkward.

Unless someone creates a real NEED for me to beg, whether it's making me starve or in pain or deny me going to the bathroom, then it won't feel real to me.

It's not necessarily that hard or need to go to those extremes to create the feeling of NEED in someone, but it does take a bit of effort.

Otherwise they will have to deal with your awkward and half-meant pleas.

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RE: Begging... - 7/11/2005 5:39:16 AM

Youcantmakemeeee

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In my case, I will not beg for release. This has been a problem with most of my previous Dom/mes and some of them never understood. Let me explain why I won't and you can judge whether you understand or not. My very first relationship ever was with a boy from high school. I began dating him my freshman year (he was a senior), and we dated on and off for the next five years. We had sex the first time when I was 14, and we both knew I was too young. So, we agreed to stop for a couple of years. Well, in the five years that I dated him, we had sex twice, TWICE! And the first time was when I was 14! Anyway, being this age and him not having sex with me caused some negative feelings about many things (i.e. sex and myself mainly). When I did finally have sex with him the second time, after years of pleading, I was so self concious that it wasn't fun at all. I didn't cum. From that time on, begging and cumming physically won't happen due to the psychological impact that time had on me.

When I've told this story to past Dom/mes, many said that I just needed positive reinforcement, and therefore, they set out to try and change this in me. I can't tell you exactly what happens, but it's not good. I close up. I won't let the good physical feeling to build anywhere close to cumming. And those that have still insisted upon it didn't last long as my Dom/me. Not that I said, "Because you are making me do this and I don't want to, I no longer wish to be with you." I've never said that. But, subconciously I began pulling away, which eventually led to them not wanting me anymore.

So, now I make sure that any prospective Dom/me knows this about me and accepts that it's one of my limits. I will beg for a lot of things if so desired, but that is one I just won't and can't do.

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RE: Begging... - 7/11/2005 7:37:07 AM

Synocense

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I'm on the same page as emerald. What I am begging for has to surpass a want and become a need before anything convincing comes from my mouth.

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RE: Begging... - 7/11/2005 5:01:53 PM

mossy

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i agree.
Begging is very awkward,,,,unless it is for a need, just reciting words, i'm not very convincing. Although i try,,,,it's from my head and not my heart. i'm sure the listener can hear that. So next time, i'm going to try a new psychology with myself. Finding a way to make the begging come from my heart,,,no matter what it is for. Not sure it will work, but it's worth a try.

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