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Celeste43 -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:16:02 AM)

I belong to him 24/7. That doesn't mean I'm tied up with knots 24/7. But even when I'm doing the laundry which I don't consider an act of service he gets benefits from it. I cook dinner for all of us and he gets to eat it, and I always remember his likes and dislikes when I shop.

I took a nap before and that fit right in because he doesn't like how I get when I'm sleep deprived. Actually nobody likes to be around me when I'm sleep deprived.



came4U -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:17:32 AM)

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Do you not think though that 24/7 if independent and not working  would be physically and emotionally exhausting?


I meant that in the sense of two people, butlers, maids, no free time for malls, no girls night out, no computers... face to face and constant 24/7, where one party leads on a constant basis, the other follows. The only thing even close to that in reality, is prison.



goodpet -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:17:53 AM)

i live 24/7 as a slave.  i am ALWAY a slave to Sir.  it is a lot of work mentally, emotionally and physically, and welll worth it.

We live together, just bought a house together in March. i have a professional job i go to 7am to  4pm  every M-F. i help my son with college costs, and talk to my married daughter about work, friends, life and husband issues. i pay the bills, manage the household, do the laundry, make the bed, tend the garden, arrange vacations, coordinate travel to kink events, go sailing and camping, and take the dog for a walk every morning. our vanilla friends see us a (male dominated) but very  "normal" couple.

Being a slave 24/7 just means that i am His slave all the time. He is in charge and had final descision on all things. He controls our house and life with just a word, a signal, a gesture. i obey.   the Master/slave relationship never stops.. no vacations, no time off.   even when we have our weekly meetings where i am fee to talk as i need to, i am still slave and talk with respect.

24/7 does not mean i am chained to the bed 24 hours a day. nice fantasy and fun for a weekend but not reality.  We are a reality based Master/slave household. 

it does work.




AllisonsBoy -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:18:49 AM)

My thoughts on 24/7...I have recently entered a relationship in which she definitley is in control.  By that I mean; she controls all of my orgasms.Therefor, to take part in my most primal urge, I need her permission and direction. 
If she says to post on collarme.com then I do...If she says not to cum today then I don't.
After her direction, I go about my normal day. 
Except she is always in the back of my mind with regards to obedience for what she has directed me to do or not to do.

It is really fun and challenging at the same time.  I am very thankful for her.



DianeB269 -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:19:18 AM)

24/7 relationship = a pest living in my house.


Diane



AquaticSub -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:19:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: came4U

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Do you not think though that 24/7 if independent and not working  would be physically and emotionally exhausting?


I meant that in the sense of two people, butlers, maids, no free time for malls, no girls night out, no computers... face to face and constant 24/7, where one party leads on a constant basis, the other follows. The only thing even close to that in reality, is prison.


What the heck? I serve him 24/7. And sometimes he is best served by me getting my little butt out of the house so he gets some alone time and I get to have a girl's night with my friends. And obviously I have frequent access to a computer. Just because he owns me every second of the day doesn't mean he wants me to stop being the Aqua he fell for.

Edited to add: There isn't one way to live a 24/7 lifestyle. As I'm typing, he could decide he wants to have sex and grab my hair. And then I stop typing, do what he wants, and when he is done with me I go back to typing. Or I could get him a snack. Just because he has me to use whenever he wants doesn't mean he wants to use me every second of the day. Right now, he wants to play a game on his computer. So I do whatever the heck I want.



LadyPact -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:20:59 AM)

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ORIGINAL: kyraofMists

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ORIGINAL: LadyPact

My definition of 24/7 varies a bit from the general opinion.  To Me, 24/7 is a state of mind, not a physical location.  It means that, to My submissive, he has a mental state of My Dominance to him at all times.  I am never (insert real name here) to him.  I am always his Dominant.  This shows in the manner he conducts himself, the way he thinks, and the things he does, whether I am with him or not.  This is what I think of as mental or spiritual 24/7.  It is the part of him that knows he belongs to Me, whether he is in My physical presense or not.


I really like the way you have explained this.  It is very similar for us as well.  It is a state of mind, not a particular physical activity or location.

Knight's Kyra


Thank you, Kyra.  I appreciate that coming from you.



kyraofMists -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:22:45 AM)

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ORIGINAL: came4U

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Do you not think though that 24/7 if independent and not working  would be physically and emotionally exhausting?


I meant that in the sense of two people, butlers, maids, no free time for malls, no girls night out, no computers... face to face and constant 24/7, where one party leads on a constant basis, the other follows. The only thing even close to that in reality, is prison.


Again, for you it would be prison.  For us, him leading and me following all the time is heaven.  It would be hard to not interact that way.

Knight's Kyra



RRafe -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:25:06 AM)

Vanilla life interteferes. Most folks who do consider themselves 24 7 have told me that they get to play a role about ten percent of the time-the rest is dull boring old regular stuff. That's been my excperience as well.



AquaticSub -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:27:14 AM)

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

Vanilla life interteferes. Most folks who do consider themselves 24 7 have told me that they get to play a role about ten percent of the time-the rest is dull boring old regular stuff. That's been my excperience as well.


Perhaps it's all a question of mindset. Vanilla life doesn't interfer because we don't have a vanilla or d/s life. We just are what we are and our d/s dynamic weaves into every aspect of our lives. Even when I'm 300 miles away, visiting my parents I'm still his Kitten. I still have rules in place.



RCdc -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:27:34 AM)

I am confused came4u
Are you suggesting that 24/7 Ds relationship excludes everyone else in life?  That is like saying that any relationship doesn't exist 24/7 if you go on a cooking course or night out with friends.
 
Peace
the.dark.



came4U -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:28:34 AM)

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Again, for you it would be prison.  For us, him leading and me following all the time is heaven.  It would be hard to not interact that way.


exactly!

That is my opinion on it and how it would feel. Right now I need space and free time, so that is my opinion of 24/7 'right now'. 

This subject is debated well, 24/7 in this scene, to some 24/7 comes with weekends off to visit parents, to others the Dominant might do all the groceries and not let her out of the home.  To each his own.

thus, I should have put 'IMO' up in previous statements. 

You sweet girls, do it your way.  Currently, I am too distant and bitter to see what you do as my way, but I do understand, appreciate and adore your lifestyle choice, for you. 

Sorry, for misunderstanding.



SirDraco7 -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:32:21 AM)

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

So firstly what is your definition of 24/7?
 
Secondly do you think it really is possible to live the dynamics 24/7?
 
And if you do live this 24/7, how do you manage it?


Good questions.  I've experienced many such..  issues with this throughout the years due to misunderstanding.

My defination of 24/7 is that my girl is controled and owned by me 24/7.  I could wake her up in the middle of the night for sex and play and bondage and she would obey(sleeply lol).  I would have say over all aspects of her life that she has given me control of.  that is 24/7 to me.
She could be at work, or with her family, or out with friends and still be controled.  A simple call from me and she would obey me and come home should I told her.(within limits and circumstances of course)

24/7 does NOT mean she's with me 24/7.  it does NOT mean she's naked and chained all the time.  It just means I own her all the time.
Yes it is possible to live 24/7, at least the way I define it.  It can work with family, friends, work, kids.  The big thing is that understanding needs to be developed between both.  They need to know what is expected, what is desired, and what the rules and guidelines are.  You can be in a vanilla setting and with vanilla people and still be living and acting 24/7 d/s.  The only change is that orders and commands might not be able to be given at such times, instead relying on preset rules and guidelines as well as defering to the Dom's opinion of such things.

I don't live it 24/7, so I can't answer it.  But I know I would adapt and flow along life changes that might happen.  It might be difficult at times, but as long as I keep having control, and she keeps giving it it's still 24/7.

24/7 can't exist without honesty and trust. 

just my thoughts on the subject. 



missturbation -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:36:06 AM)

Thank you all for your replies so far. At present i am trying to multi task (disaster zone lol), cleaning, washing, writing reports, keeping up with two threads i started (that'll teach me to do 2 at once) but i will read theough your responses later today x



RRafe -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:36:46 AM)

Shrugs,I like to have the freedom to turn it off and rest. I feel like the slave otherwise.

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub

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ORIGINAL: RRafe

Vanilla life interteferes. Most folks who do consider themselves 24 7 have told me that they get to play a role about ten percent of the time-the rest is dull boring old regular stuff. That's been my excperience as well.


Perhaps it's all a question of mindset. Vanilla life doesn't interfer because we don't have a vanilla or d/s life. We just are what we are and our d/s dynamic weaves into every aspect of our lives. Even when I'm 300 miles away, visiting my parents I'm still his Kitten. I still have rules in place.



kyraofMists -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:37:39 AM)

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ORIGINAL: AquaticSub
Right now, he wants to play a game on his computer. So I do whatever the heck I want.


I think this is a good point.  Whenever he is preoccupied with other things and does not need me at that time, I take advantage of it to do the things that I want to do.  My free time is arranged when it is convienent for him.  I have learned to work around what he needs from me. 

Knight's Kyra



DomN8USlave -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:38:08 AM)

24/7.  Why do we have to put labels on stuff?
Everyone's relationship is unique.  There really can be no "set" rules except for safe, sane, consentual. 
i have been a slave for 7 years (Oct. 22nd) and i attend to my Master's needs and desires every day.  i also work and take care of his children.  Submission is a state of mind.  i FEEL submissive and i have my dominant force around me 24/7.  i know my place but Master is always there with a slap on the behind, or a look, when we cannot be totally open around family.




kyraofMists -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:41:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: DomN8USlave

24/7.  Why do we have to put labels on stuff?


Because if you never labeled anything, then communication would be extremely stunted.  Having labels is not bad, you just have to make the effort to understand what other people mean by their labels.

Knight's Kyra



YesMistressIrish -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:43:35 AM)

24/7 to me means:
 
We would be 2 mature adults living in the same house with the D/s Dynamic being the foundation, the underlying agreement. It is a wonderful and special Dynamic, fullfilling and fun.
It means we would have full lives with friends, jobs, hobbies, and play time.
 
It also means I get the final say and take into consideration My slaves needs, duties in vanilla life, family obligations, etc.
 
 Our most basic needs get met, and our wants are organized by priority.
 
Anywhere he/she is and no matter what they are doing, they know they are mine and put me first.
 
Also, I am looking for a wonderful adult realtionship with lots of laughter, fun, conversation, loving, etc. I am very independent, and seek someone who does not need micro-managing, and who would only need to be reminded 'who's the boss' by my look, my physical touch, and protocols which are simple.
 
My mom did this in her marriage, so it's an easy thing to understand, and I would love the same thing being the Domme, of course.

 
I don't want someone chained up in a room, ready to do only my bidding 24/7.  I wouldn't treat my dog like that, and never a human being! What a pain in the ass that would be! lol
 
Irish



mmb1 -> RE: 24/7 - no way!! (9/3/2007 8:43:39 AM)

I'm not even going to go into women's liberation etc, seems to get me into trouble but................what is the difference between or better yet, what has to be the difference between 24/7 and let's say a 1950's household??  There is little difference.  You care for a man, he cares for you in different ways, what is the main difference? 



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