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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 10/12/2007 1:55:08 PM   
lordhedon


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Maybe its normal for that particular Master to beat a subs ass to a bloddy pulp ..but is it normal for you? If not tell the Master doing the beating about it.

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 10/12/2007 3:06:23 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Missokyst

It isn't always projecting old hurts when you are expressing something you don't enjoy.  Some times you just don't like it. 
Blood is ok if that is what you wish.  Beaten is ok if that is what you wish.  But both parties have to be on board.  Not just some guy saying you will take it because I want to break you. 
I am a masochist and I would pass on that guy in a heartbeat.
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ORIGINAL: MasterFireMaam

Sounds like to me your projecting your negative feelings and reactions about your father onto a relationship that reminds you of the abuse you endured.




Kyst you're just so damned enlightening and cute as well! Always a pleasure to read your posts.

EG

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 10/26/2007 11:07:18 AM   
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i like it hard but hmmmm i'll have to see the pic before i will go ahead and say i want it that hard....

i'm not into much pain but there is nothing like a good paddling to take the stress of my life away sometimes.....

~meticulous~

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 10/27/2007 4:46:59 PM   
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You are asking a lot to get into the head of a man who enjoys beating someones ass to a bloody pulp. It is like getting into the head of Hanibal Lector. I do like spanking - I do know I give some pain - but I also know it is mutually acceptable and if I go too far we will stop.

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 10/29/2007 10:14:26 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Steelonme

Well I have to start off by saying thank you to all for the responses and advice. Yes, I'm rather new to this particular scene. I used to play games with my ex wife who I had the utmost trust in. But now I'm seeking another I can trust and be willing to submit to. No this person has not done this to me yet and from reading your responses I dont think he is the person for me. He wants no limits or he sets the limits. Tells me I'm trying to top from the bottom. And when I say red pulp I'm not kidding. He sent a picture of a girls ass that was so red and bruised and just to the point of laceration it kind of scared me. Another Top who has been pursuing me on AOL for a few years before I met him here on Collarme, is into gags. So there goes any possiblity of using a safeword. If you like that sort of thing good for you but I must have certain limits that must be respected.


Suggestion... go to a toy store and get a "clicker".  It can be used as a safe signal even when gagged.
Just two cents.
Stefan

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 11/27/2007 2:03:26 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Steelonme

Lets look at this another way... If you are bleeding you are injured. If someone has injured you on purpose they have assaulted you.


I disagree.  I personally have had the blood bitten out of me and not felt abused.  I called for harder and got harder.  Not sure that I would like it now but if I agreed to it I would not find it abusive.

Abuse is what happens if it is NONCONSENSUAL.

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 11/29/2007 6:49:27 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Steelonme

Another Top who has been pursuing me on AOL for a few years before I met him here on Collarme, is into gags. So there goes any possiblity of using a safeword.


Actually it is possible.  You can hold something like keys in your hand and drop them as your "safeword signal." 

As for the original question, I have to agree that the time for negotiating limits and desires of both parties is before playing together.

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 12/1/2007 8:16:23 AM   
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edited due to farce

< Message edited by lowrider2 -- 12/1/2007 8:22:50 AM >

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 12/30/2007 11:57:03 AM   
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I think you answered your own question. He believes it is a way to break a sub. It is not a concept I endorse, but if it works for the partie(S) involved, so be it I guess

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 1/3/2008 11:35:15 AM   
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Steelonme, thankyou for this thread, it has been very helpful for me.

I too have issues surrounding corperal punishment, due to it being used legally way back when schools still did have it as part of their disciplinary techniques in the third world country where I grew up..!!( I was very obedient as school, but one teacher did not spare the rod for even the angels of the class...not to mention we all hated history for years to come.lol)

It triggers reactions that have prevented me from enjoying it now in play or accepting it as a discipline. I have asked my master that he patiently guide me through this land-mine so that I may "un-learn" certain negative connotations associated with being whipped or the belt or any other type of recollection that is stereotypically school orientated....( I have successfully over the last 2 years accepted and enjoyed spanking and giving spanks during intercourse, and the nerve endings that link the buttocks to the whole pervic area DO increase the pleasure of  penetration..)

If one considers that "pain" is just a signal to the brain that the body needs to prevent injury (too close to a flame, or bumping into something) and the multiple breakages those kids that are born WITHOUT any pain signals at all have, we are actually discussing here  a purely biological mechanism, which we westerners thought was fixed and unchanging...but it is not..(Hynotism used in hospitals for operations is blowing this all out of the water in the western world....acupuncture is a fascinating art that functions on the system of nerves and how they send signals...)

Pleasurable touch is also a question of intensity, and all people (the skin being the biggest organ of the body) enjoy or do not enjoy certain stimuli.
For example feet tickling can put some to sleep, and have others wet their breeches, and that is in no way seen as an assault, but can be considered by some as INTOLERABLE. As kids, how often did we extract secrets from another kid by tickling them .lol.

Pressure on this organ (the skin) is a question of intensity. Just as light on the retina's or sound on the earsdrums  and yes, sometimes watching the eclipse with naked eyes or going to a rock concert can cause permanant damage to some individuals.

But, listening to very loud music (or playing it) is the passion of some, despite the risk factor involved. To explore the very extensive nerve-endings under the skin,and the endless reactions that the skin sends back(to the giver aswell as the reciever) can be, and is for those who go on this journey, an endless source of fascination.
I was a masseuse by trade, before I became a slave, and the diversity of "sensitivity" of people is endless. I had clients that fell asleep as I pummelled their muscles, and others that spent the whole time cringing if I ran over the same spot more than two or three times...as their body would very quickly build up a  resistance to the massage that would send a signal to their brains, and they would ask me to stop or move to another spot....
Each person is as unique as a snowflake (fascinating to know that there are not two snowflakes with the same crystalline formation !!) and we are each,either in a solo fashion, or with road buddies, on an exploration of the workings of our flesh, and or mind, weither it be in TPE or SM or any of the other endless conbinations chosen.
Question. How many different meals can be prepared with :eggs, milk, flour, sugar, salt, ....you will be amazed.
happy cooking everyone. and enjoy the cake asmuch as the baking of it . as we each add our own spices, that make us unique.

(I am in not in any way aboarding the subject of domestic abuse  or street violence, as those are subjects that are quiet different from what I have tried to illustrate above. )

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 2/28/2008 1:40:40 AM   
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Your welcome Dichotomie! It's been a while since I posted here or did any reading of the forums. However this morning I came across in General BDSM discussion a thread on Hard Limits. Some very similar answers were posted in that thread but without the hostility that this thread generated in some folks ( ???????? ).

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 2/28/2008 7:38:13 AM   
Dmon


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I hate to be the one who comes out with the warning, but NEVER go with a master that won't respect you limits, or give you the ability to communicate with him. I know some one who left her master because she didn't want him to use a spiked paddle on her. He did anyways. She ended up with a broken wrist and more holes in her ass than she wanted. A master is supposed to push you limits, but never break them. And the reason for safe words, is incase the Top has gone to far. You meet a man who doesn't have that in mind, run like hell. 

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 2/28/2008 2:58:32 PM   
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I like my subs pulp-free.

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RE: Beaten to a pulp? - 2/28/2008 5:43:32 PM   
Steelonme


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ORIGINAL: MichiganHeadmast

I like my subs pulp-free.
    LOL!!!!!!!!!!!!

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