ExquisiteFeline
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ORIGINAL: yuyu777 what's your moral standard when you are in a D/s relationship My moral standard is as it always has been since i was mature enough to have a real moral standard, D/s does not change a moral standard, unless of course the Dominant is enforcing morals that are not within the principles of the sub. In that case if the ideals of the Dominant are not inline with the submissive, it could be demoralizing and debilitating upon the psyche of the sub, and therefore trust is broken. quote:
ORIGINAL: yuyu777 Is it the same as the "usual vanilla world standard"? There is a saying, "Same, same, but different." D/s to me is an 'enhanced' vanilla relationship, but that is the nature of the relationship i am in, being 24/7, only there is a defined and understood power dynamic. The legacy that D/s has given is a deeper sense of trust than i have had in other relationships, due to the nature of my Master. His behavior clearly keeps me secure, he will assure me if i ask of certain things that make me insecure, but i try not to voice every little whim, as this undermines his gift, and his nature of being an integral and respectful person. The dynamic that we have repairs the damage that has been created in previous vanilla relationships, no one else has given me the security, as he has, and yet he has never promised me a thing. The rock of his self understanding, and his unshakable consistency gives me the assurance of his dependability, this therefore opens doors to explore things i have never before. i guess it is what kind of 'morals' you are referring to, and i assume it is about integrity, hence that nature of you proceeding question. i am able to explore things i once considered immoral, or was afraid of, due to the BIG, uncompromising morals being a firm infrastructure. quote:
ORIGINAL: yuyu777 Is there anything else other than dishonesty as your deal breaker? There could be many deal breakers, but most would shake down to the foundation of dishonesty, for if someone said that they were something that they are not, then they are dishonest. Many people are dishonest to themselves, for they have an idea of who they are, and in reality they may not understand themselves at all. Overstepping limits could be a deal breaker, but that comes down to honesty also. If someone calls himself a Dom or a Master, but clearly oversteps the limits, then they have been dishonest with their self proclaimed Mastery, self understanding and the understanding for their sub. Honesty, and respect are irreplaceable fundamentals to any relationship, being D/s, vanilla, friendship or even business. For me once trust is broken, (and even a small thing can crack that) it is difficult for me to believe in the bona fide of person again, i am patient, i am kind, i realize everyone is learning and growing but the integrity of the connection is compromised. As i become older i compromise less and less for people.
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