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iammachine -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 1:13:17 PM)
<FR> I hate the "we need to talk" card just as much as the next guy. I am very inquisitive by nature, if a can of worms is open I totally need to dump it out and see how many and what kind of worms they are. You say "we need to talk," I say "whaaaaattttt iiiiiissssss iiiiiittttttt!!!!!!" On the other hand, I've been guilty of saying "we need to talk," myself. I try to make it more of a point of "I want to talk, but I don't have time/can't talk about it right now, so I just want to give a heads up so we can make sure we have time to later!" Anyway, I'm sending good juju your way.

mnottertail -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 1:26:17 PM)
I believe her husband is in the military, why don't we just crank her ass all kinda up? What the fuck do you think it's about for fuck's sake. Ron

Bearlee -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 1:38:40 PM)
Ugg...I don't know either of you (hell ANY of you), but it just sounds so ...passive agressive; like he's trying to cause you to be upset! It could turn out to be a 'joke'...and all he wants was to mind-fuck ya or even get some 'free time' with you, like one suggested. Edited to add: A friend of mine was complaining that she cannot talk with her husband regarding the death of her (adult) son (happened a year ago...not his son...he tells her it's time to let go and move on). I suggested to her that his behavior could be because he's worried about her health, because he doesn't want to say things that cause her to cry, or because he doesn't KNOW how to comfort her or is afraid of loosing her. Lord knows why men do the things the way they do them. I suppose he might not even have a clue what he has done to your day! Still, I'd be both freakin and pissed at how he'd set me up for a completely LOUSY day! ugg... As far as this thread goes...what does this say about your trust in him? I'm not being rude or mean; ...I'm just curious. And I hope, if he IS in the Military that he isn't going anywhere... <sigh> Good luck, kiddo; let us know B

eyesopened -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 1:40:02 PM)
Of course it would worry and upset me because generally speaking men never need to talk. Something is bothering him. Geez it could be he found a lump, it could be he found the oil in your car just as black as coal, could be he snooped in one of the um's rooms and found something he wished he hadn't.... rats... i know that didn't help any. Your hint is... He still loves you and you didn't do anything wrong. That means that whatever it is, it's not about you or your relationship, it's about HIM, something that is bothering Him and He needs your involvement. Good luck and here's hoping its about NASCAR

SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 1:42:14 PM)
maybe he seriously wants to talk about buying you that bass boat you been craving? (id be freaking out too in your shoes tho), but then im nuts like that too[:)]

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 1:47:41 PM)
Ok, here's that southerner in me coming out. Just brace yourself and suck it up.... BLESS YOUR HEART! (hugs) Hang in there, and remember to come let all of us who are living vicariously through your angst know what happened. I almost feel as if I could crawl right up inside the closet with you, knowing how bad it feels to worry all day. Hang in there ladybug.

SeeksOnlyOne -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 1:52:00 PM)
GASP!!!! when a southerner says bless your heart-run for them thar hills......its gonna be bad!!! hehe

ownedkitten -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 2:06:08 PM)
Yup, that's definetely a panic inducing phrase for me as well. I hope that it's nothing serious, Ghita. hug Please keep us updated if you can, I'll be thinking of you.

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 2:07:49 PM)
Yikes! I re-read my post and wanted to clarify something. When I said "suck it up" I meant the ensuing southern slang. I hope it didn't come across that I was in any way telling you to suck it up and deal with things! That was most defnitely NOT what I meant to convey.

mnottertail -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 2:08:18 PM)
Ah, man he wants a rim job and he forgot to wash is all. Ron

freyjasdottir -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 2:08:54 PM)
UGH, I hate that phrase no matter who says it. I think the worst is when its from my dad, I just want to drop dead right then and there before he gets a chance to talk to me.

BlackKnight -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 2:20:11 PM)
err well we need to talk

Cuckme4Life -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 2:24:18 PM)
Dont ya just hate that whole mentality of "We need to talk" and having the rest of the day to ponder it? Personally I think he should have just waited until you both were home and then open up to his concern. Leaving you on pins and needles for the rest of the day doesnt help your anxieties if you are prone for such attacks or possibly other health issues like high blood pressure. Hopefully it will be something silly he worked himself up over rather than anything really troublesome. Keep us all posted please???

Bearlee -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 2:27:59 PM)
RooooOOOOOOooooonnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnnn!!!!!!!!!!!!!! <wipes monitor, keyboard, front of shirt...>

WinsomeDefiance -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 3:09:32 PM)
Ghita, honey. Come out of the closet and talk with us!

laurell3 -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 3:15:39 PM)
I know I'm evil and wrong, but I occasionally like to throw the words "we need to talk" into a conversation just to get a response and then let him know it was a joke....it may take some additional time for him to realize I'm not the "we need to talk" type of girl :P

littleone35 -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 5:24:37 PM)
i always say well if we need to talk let's do it right now. I have to admit i am guilty if that but only if i get a voice mail and i really need to talk to someone. I think voice mail is evil but can be useful. Ghita be strong and like the others please tell us what he had to talk about (if its not too personal). I would say not to worry cause he loves you and you did not do anything wrong but i know you are gonna worry anyway. Just remember he loves you. Matt's littleone

DiurnalVampire -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 5:31:37 PM)
I have done the "We have to talk" thing to Angel. It had nothing to do with his having one something wrong. Honestly, it had very little to do with him at all, it had to do with what I wanted and needed and I had to tak ot him baout where things were going. It wasnt a BAD talk, and it happened to have made a very positive change in our relationship. However, I didnt want to lay everything out for him on a voicemail, and I didnt want him to be shocked by the serious talk. So, he got a "we have to talk" mail. Sometimes, its just becasue whomever is caling jus doesnt want to leave details, or CANT. Fretting about it all day s going to make the actual discussion harder, becasue you are going to work it up to be worse than it really is. DV

Bearlee -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 5:37:15 PM)
She's young, maybe he is too. Maybe he did this as a set-up to Collar her? Oh yes, I know someone said they were married; but...Collared? Wouldn't that be just like a man? LOL

devotedsylph -> RE: "We need to talk....." (9/19/2007 5:49:30 PM)
I'm a worrier so yes it would eat at me all day. I've had to ask Master to please not do things to me like that because I will worry myself to the point that I will be incredibly upset by the time 'talk time' comes. I don't think it's fair to say "We need to have a serious discussion 8 hours from now". It's a HORRIBLE thing to do to someone! sylph

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