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Lumus -> RE: Men afraid of successful women? (9/24/2007 2:06:08 PM)
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ORIGINAL: cyberdude611
You would think during a date you would be proud to tell your date the major accomplishments of your life, right? Well more and more women according to this article find they have to dumb down their accomplishments a bit in order to make sure their male dates dont get scared and run away.
One woman in the article says that her last boyfriend broke up with her because he "felt uncomfortable" living with a woman who makes more money than he does.
The income gender gap may be closing soon as more women than men are attending college and entering the workforce. Polls consistantly show women do not value men by the size of their wallet as much anymore. A poll in the article showed that 75% of women would rather have a relationship with a high school teacher who has a lot of time off, than a surgeon who makes a fortune but is always busy. Men as a whole may feel threatened socially by this type of thing according to social psychologists.
Although I know in a forum like this, this question/topic may not make much sense since power exchange is a "norm" to most here. But do you think men fear a woman who is successful? And to women here....whats your experience with this type of thing?
http://www.nytimes.com/2007/09/23/fashion/23whopays.html
I debated replying to this and read through the whole thread first. A few comments:
Personally, I don't care who makes more when it comes to myself and my partner, as long as the bills get paid. That's why we work, in't it?
On a broader perspective, I know men on both sides of the fence - those who can handle the woman making more, those who can't. We all know why that is...social conditioning. Laws have been drawn up time and again in the past few decades, and most are scrapped for the simple reason that reverse discrimination can feasibly rear up its head. That's what convinces me that no law or enforcement can 'force' social conditioning to recede - only social reconditioning can, preferrably at lower, small-community levels.
That's also from a North American standpoint, and, as such, I advise anyone reading to consider that while -we- might not like it, other cultures, older than ours, may have other ways. Imposing one social order over another rarely succeeds, and the cost [often measured in more ways than money] ought to be considered.
I would also point out that it doesn't matter what gender you are - if you're a leech, you're a leech, and that's not gender-specific, it's personality programming [also socially conditioned, so you encounter the same headaches and benefits as the aforementioned...]
There were also a few comments banded about regarding physical strength. I can think of several ways this doesn't apply; if you want to get into the physics of it, have a weight-lifting contest between a male midget and a six-foot woman. There are always physical constraints for everyone. Take the same example and add in the condition that the midget has hands, while the woman has lost hers in some freak accident...I'm thinking the midget will lift more...
Finally, I'd add that anyone, regardless of gender, who has to bend the truth to get accepted is hunting up the wrong tree.
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