hisannabelle
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Joined: 12/3/2006 From: Tallahassee, FL, USA Status: offline
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greetings breatheasone, in my experience, and as others have mentioned, topping from the bottom is usually when you are domineering and/or using manipulation in order to get what you want. this does not seem like that. the protocol on what's acceptable and what's not in terms of surprises really depends on your personal relationship, though - some would require that a submissive ask, some would not be bothered if something was sprung on them as long as the situation was in their power to stop, etc. maybe a good way to figure out how to approach this would be to raise the issue of what is and is not acceptable in this case in general, if you are not sure. i am not sure if you could do that without tipping your hand but it is one idea. :) personally, for us, i think he would love it if i sprung a surprise scene on him; he would not be upset that i hadn't asked first, as long as he was still in control of stopping the scene, etc. this isn't something i've ever done, although we have discussed a few times whether or not it is acceptable and he has expressed an interest/encouragement for it. respectfully, annabelle.
< Message edited by hisannabelle -- 9/26/2007 1:54:43 PM >
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