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Being old problem - 10/4/2007 10:47:59 AM

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Why is it when you get old that people think that your discussting to be with. Younger subs/slaves don't want anything to do with a father figure. Older subs and BBW are looking for someone younger. What are older Doms to do? Is there a cut off age for Doms. The older Domme's don't seem to have that problem. What's a person to do.

RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 10:49:29 AM

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:00:57 AM

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There are alot of Sub/slaves out there that love older men. granted some are looking for the "Daddy Dom" if you are into that then great all the better for you. You just have to bide your time and rember that CM is a meat market. I have listed in my profile that I have 19 yrs exp and they see that and think I must be old when the truth of the matter is I started at the legal age of the state I resided in. They dont even bother to look at my age which is clearly marked. so dont worry they will come to you and you can always seek just be patient.

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:02:35 AM

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Older subs are looking for someone younger? That's...wrong, isn't it? I mean, almost every submissive I've known has been with someone older than he or she, and most of the profiles here that specify an age specify someone who is around the same age or older than them.

On the other hand, I find it not strange at all that 18-30 year olds aren't quite willing to be with someone who is that much older than they are.

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:03:35 AM

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so glad Daddy wasnt looking for a younger girl and picked lil ol'me at the ripe age of 42.
i've seen girls younger than me that dont look half as good as i do.
maybe you like the inexperience? age has nothing to do with that. dont narrow your chances, give older gals a chance. good luck .

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:05:05 AM

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Why is it when you get old that people think that your discussting to be with.

perhaps you are hanging out or listening to the wrong people...for you.

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Younger subs/slaves don't want anything to do with a father figure.

you are kidding, right? the Daddy/daughter thing seems to this slave not to be that unusual of an arrangement, here or elsewhere in the world.

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Older subs and BBW are looking for someone younger.

not all of them.

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What are older Doms to do? Is there a cut off age for Doms. The older Domme's don't seem to have that problem. What's a person to do.

this slave would suggest letting go of the chronological hang-up...it might be more of a hindrance than your actual age.

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:07:01 AM

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Maybe you are looking in the wrong places. The most common attitude I hear from submissives is that younger is bad, older is good to the point where young dominants are often SOL.

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:07:46 AM

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I'm older. I don't have the same problems. For some bizarre reason, I seem to attract a lot of young women. Legal age, of course. I think a lot of it has to do with how old you allow yourself to feel. I know that sounds like touchy-feely talk, but I really believe in that.

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:12:06 AM

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My Master is 51...I am 43(not exactly a spring chicken

) ...I sincerely hope you don't let yourself stay discouraged. There really are many women looking for someone JUST your age!...I wish you well ..truly

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:15:11 AM

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Why is it when you get old that people think that your discussting to be with. Younger subs/slaves don't want anything to do with a father figure. Older subs and BBW are looking for someone younger. What are older Doms to do? Is there a cut off age for Doms. The older Domme's don't seem to have that problem. What's a person to do.

You can throw in the towel or go down with the ship.

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:23:05 AM

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It not about right or wrong and blanket issues with preferences but simply about compatibility between two people.

Most have preferences, heck is not everyone who is reading this prefer being with someone dominant or submissive? I am of the older the better persuasion and one of my pet peeves is the ignoring of the difference of age as an important issue. Age is a significant issue and for people to blow it off or only go to the experience is the most important thing propaganda does not do anyone any service.

Most of us who have preferences are because they are well thought out and not superficial. Life stages and arcs are very serious things in a relationship. Age differences do not have to be roadblocks but they should also not be taken as irrelevant. It is cute to say and believe age is only a number but it is not. There is good and bad and compatibility issues with all ages.

If a person has preferences that person should respect other people’s preferences and not be dismissive of them because they do not fit into them.

Patience and commitment are important. It is finding the right person not just any person. I am guessing that most who answer back with an attitude toward much older people contacting them is because they were disrespectful of their preference and not just because of the actual age.

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 11:51:42 AM

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I prefer older men...granted I'm only 23 so I'm not really interested in being with someone TOO much older than me...but I'm sure, as I age that won't be a problem. Older men know what they're doing...they're more mature... I have friends who've had sex with men 20 years older than them, and I have to admit that they were sexy guys!

My husband is 29...I slept with people who were 30 when I was 19....

If age is the only hangup they have, you don't want to be with them anyway. You need someone who will accept you for who you are.

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 12:01:31 PM

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ORIGINAL: Dnomyar
Why is it when you get old that people think that your discussting to be with. Younger subs/slaves don't want anything to do with a father figure. Older subs and BBW are looking for someone younger. What are older Doms to do? Is there a cut off age for Doms. The older Domme's don't seem to have that problem. What's a person to do.

I'm looking for a Dom around my age or older. Given my advanced age there aren't too many who fit within that age bracket. I figure it just shows that there's a lot more quality than quantity at this time of life.

Just my thoughts.........

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 12:04:40 PM

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I seem to attract younger women,are they seeking a gravey train most are not...Maybe because most older men have a settled life and for the most cases no money worries,Of course I have had my share call me an ol' fart smiles...

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 12:07:05 PM

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Not sure where you got the idea that subs generally want younger doms, every time I have seen the question asked of subs, they generally were looking for older as the following posts indicate, but most are looking at men 5 to say 10 years older as their limit, so if you are targeting mostly those over 10 years your age difference you may be limiting yourself

http://www.collarchat.com/m_936101/mpage_1/key_subs%2Colder%2Cdom/tm.htm

http://www.collarchat.com/m_220984/mpage_4/key_subs%252Colder%252Cdom/tm.htm#247137

http://www.collarchat.com/m_1006387/mpage_1/key_subs%252Colder%252Cdom/tm.htm#1006387

I know for myself I am looking for someone close to my own age, and definitely not interested in those my sons age, I have my bottom limit at 43 and top of 58, with the preference being older than myself, distance from me is also a big consideration as I do not want to relocate, give my job which I have already invested 17 years in toward full retirement pension and also have grandchildren here I want to see grow up. I added this point in, because it is possible you are not necessarily being rejected because of your age , there could be other factors involved

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 12:09:11 PM

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I am the oddball ... I wanted a younger one ... so when I was 28 I met an 18 year old Dom ... and we have now been married for a year and a half ... but I am weird :\

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 12:09:28 PM

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Old guys ROCK!

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 12:12:47 PM

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Equilibrium problems?

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 12:15:08 PM

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Equilibrium problems?

lmao, maybe so.

or it is the chairs?

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RE: Being old problem - 10/4/2007 12:26:31 PM

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I prefer men my age or older. There have been younger men express an interest in me but I just wasn't interested. Most of the posts I've read where age was discussed, the female submissives expressed a preference for older men. All this to say, don't lose heart or hope. Good luck.

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