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Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:22:54 PM

youngirl4oldrguy

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Well, many people have e-mailed me and basically said my profile was crap that it wasnt very "submissive" or i sounded way to demanding and i would just like to know how i should write my profile .

I am sorry for any incorrect spelling or grammer because i am not that great at that type of stuff.

Thank you for reading :)

RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:27:15 PM

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I'm no profile whiz, and I've never hooked up with anyone via the site. So I'm no expert.

That said, three things struck me:

-- The purple/pink letters on a black background strain the eyes.

-- The first four sentences all start with "I want...." That makes you sound demanding.

-- It's a little puzzling why you'd post a profile on a BDSM site and then be adamant about wanting just vanilla.

Hope this helps!

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:33:16 PM

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For me it was the "then dont e-mail me and waste both of are times" bit.
Very jaded, pretentious and not very respectfull.

Edit, what are you doing on here if your looking for a vanilla relationship anyway?

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:36:23 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: youngirl4oldrguy

Well, many people have e-mailed me and basically said my profile was crap that it wasnt very "submissive" or i sounded way to demanding and i would just like to know how i should write my profile .

I am sorry for any incorrect spelling or grammer because i am not that great at that type of stuff.

you post a profile on a ite alled collar me and say you want vanilla...hummmm ......and wonder why people say your profile is not very submissive..............right......lol

Thank you for reading :)

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:36:41 PM

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If you're here strictly for kink, you'd probably be well adviced to add a bit of that into your profile. There's absolutely nothing wrong with wanting some kink with your vanilla, but you'll probably avoid a lot of those nasty emails if you state, upfront, what you are seeking that's beyond vanilla and brings you 'here'.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:40:57 PM

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First off, the color combo is horrible. Secondly a lot of people here are kinky, if you don't want kink, that's fine, but you're a bit like a fish out of water. Third, You say nothing about what you offer someone else, why they should seek you, and only go on about what you want.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:47:36 PM

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I agree that you seem to be a tad bit demanding when what you really want is a vanialla relationship with some kink thrown in.   I also don't like the colors.

I would suggest that you have a light background with dark font, maybe bolded even, to make it easier to read.

You might just say something to the effect

" I am looking for a vanilla relationship with a touch of kink.   I am neither submissive nor slave but need more than just plain old missionary position."

Or something like that.   short sweet and to the point.

My 2 cents worth

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:51:14 PM

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You should write your profile any damn way you want to. There are no guide lines nor rules has to how you want your profile to look. I read your profile and found it a little odd. After all, being that you no interest in kink, what makes you think that your true love to be is here? In your case, I think you're better off with E-Harmony and Yahoo Personals. Your lack of interest in Kink has me wondering how you came across this website to begin with. Do you mind telling me? As on person admitted, he was originally looking for Dog Collars. Collarme.com popped up on a google search.

"iam just looking for vanilla sorry but iam not a submissive and i know that by now so please if your not willing to be vanilla i will not reply to you

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 5:53:15 PM

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here here fangs.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 6:03:59 PM

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In regards to the OP:

What's you're name? You know what, nevermind, it doesn't matter. I'll call you Cindy. You know what, Cindy, you want what you want. At least you know what you want and you can express clearly. Alot of the jackasses around here can barely get a sentence typed out so people can understand them. Who gives a damn about the color. Let the old fuckers get glasses if they can't see it well enough. And for those that say your not "submissive" enough, tell'em to kiss you ass and fuck off. You're here for what you want, it obviously isn't them and their lil feelins are hurt from it. Waa, waaa, waaa. Well too bad. Don't waste your time trying to figure out how to change your profile to attract people you clearly don't want. Alright, Cindy. Now have a nice fuckin day.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 6:11:14 PM

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I agree with Fangs--"any way you want to." Here we can be ourselves, and if some say otherwise, see if their advice suits you, and if it doesn't--tough cookies.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 6:11:33 PM

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just a suggestion - perhaps you should try sugarbabies.com or sugardaddies.com because that's what your profile screams at me right now

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 6:17:21 PM

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Your right, your profile is crap! go to a fetish personals, list yourself as submissive
then say your vanilla and looking for vanilla?!?
never had a B/f nor sex and come off sounding like a big baby!
obviosly your not here for kink, You start off snotty then get rude and pretentious.
Iwant, Iwant, I want....if you don't then don't
"I want someone to take care of me, I want.." you should have listed yourself as a dominant!
Now go stand in the corner, with your pants to your knees, rear exposed!
No! not that corner thats someone elses corner, yeah go to the other corner NOW!

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 6:48:15 PM

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Punctuation might help.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 7:49:34 PM

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I am 24 and I wear glasses, and the color combo is still offensive to my eyes. so there goes your old fuckers who need glasses statement

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ORIGINAL: MrDiscipline44

. Who gives a damn about the color. Let the old fuckers get glasses if they can't see it well enough.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 7:59:03 PM

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The whole not wanting kink kinda throws me, persoally. You outwardly state you are not a submissive. But you are on a site for BDSM, looking for vanilla. And you want a relationshp to center around you...
We are here to get away from those looking only for vanilla.
If you dont want to be submissive, then dont list yourself as one. You are being searched by men looking for a submissive.
I think FNF nailed it, you ARE in the wrong place.

But, good luck stranger things have happened

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 9:17:07 PM

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youre profile should represent you, so there's no right or wrong way to write it. if people don't like it, then they can take a hike. something you may want to add however, would be what you have to offer this man you are searching for, because if i was a guy reading it, i might be left to wonder...

good luck!

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/6/2007 9:47:34 PM

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If you are not submissive, then why do you put your question in the ask a master forum?

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 1:06:57 AM

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the girl did ask for advice so folks saying they dont like the color combo etc are answering her query.

i have no desire to look at the profile once i heard about the color combo, i am feeling queasy just thinking about it.

i hope you find what you are looking for, younggirl4oldrguy.

Black Knight your post is really funny.

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RE: Can you help me? - 10/7/2007 4:12:15 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: youngirl4oldrguy

i would just like to know how i should write my profile

Well Cindy, how did you write it for every other free dating site you're on?

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