NightWindWhisper
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Rather have this lost in the originating thread which is intitled "Did I break my...." (10-06-07) and considering that my concern is abuse I decided to do this as a new thread. See the above mentioned post if you wish to understand the origin of the question of the OP. I am very saddened by the callous disregard and brutality espoused by many here. We are kinksters—and hopefully open-minded. We are a community and if we have nothing good to say most of us don't say—rather than thread crap. Most of this thread is bullying and painful to see and I'm sure to be the recipient of. See my notes at the end of my answer, if you care to: In answer to Hermione83's simple question, and in opposition to jeorgejames68's description of his anus: "mine is nice and round, reasonably tight and firm all around!!!!," I will say that the average anus, especially when a person is in a semi-fetal position does feel, upon palpitation to be more firmly ensconced by muscle and rounder on the bottom (the edge nearest to the penis or vagina). In this same position the anus does feel more oval and softer at the top, and does indeed feel more oval rather than "puckered round." Some people are more flexible than others and if a person stands, and her arms are long, the anus then does feel more round than oval in that position which might account for differing opinions. Furthermore the lower part of the ridge seems to maintain a firmness when relaxed, while the upper part becomes markedly softer. I have seen, felt, washed and inserted fingers into many an asshole. It is not uncommon, due to poor nursing care, to have a patient develop fecal impaction. In this case "balls" of fecal matter ranging from the size of golf balls to small peaches become "stuck" in said person's rectum. They are removed by inserting a gloved finger, and essentially rolling them out. Proper functioning of our elimination system is every bit as important as other systems. Warning signs that would require a visit to a practitioner would be significant bleeding that does not stop quickly; continued bleeding upon defecation; pain that continues or worsens during defecation or a lack of bowel control. If any of these are present I would suggest finding a Nurse Practitioner. Avoid a gynecologist—they don't do assholes. Proctologists do not exist anymore, the term is archaic, and these doctors are called colorectal surgeons. If your Nurse Practitioner decides you do have a significant problem your Practitioner would refer you to one. Hermione83, I'd be surprised if you did any severe damage. I suggest that you buy a butt plug that has a flange so it can't "slip in," or one that has a longer handle. The anal region is one of the most enervated areas of the body—and anal play is enjoyed my many--male and female. I'd hope that any problems would have lessened significantly or gone away by now. People are right in referring you to a Practitioner in this litigious society however it is your right to decide not to go to one. Women and men who are doctor avoider/phobic do indeed sometimes die because of their fears, so when a person says "I'd rather die than have a gynecological exam," well—I believe that. And I have actually gone with several women for exams, both gynecological and non, in cases where a support person makes all the difference. But people of Collarme, phobias are a valid medical problem and here in this community I have always been happy to see positive input—not vicious and bullying responses. I am surprised. Further Collarme is an appropriate place, either for a person who is extremely shy, or who might suffer from social anxiety or other mental disorders—just as much as it is an appropriate place for those who desire a Poly, dominant, or slave lifestyle. I do not judge others here, and am saddened when I see others who do. It demeans our community. A person with anxiety, extreme shyness, or even a social disorder like agoraphobia may well find a partner with the experience and sensitivity and patience to develop, over time a good sexual relationship. Many dominants would enjoy the slow journey into your awaking sexuality. I find embarrassment to be delightful. The following are bits and pieces that I cut and pasted. The people who wrote them might as well have taken a small baseball bat and smashed her with it—psychic and emotional trauma is no less destructive than physical abuse. The following remarks, in my opinion are abuse. For these people I suggest that you read the book "Odd Girl Out," to learn about how our society perpetuates this form of abuse. I suspect that most of the people who wrote this are good people who fell into a momentary bully phase. One hears about how anti-abuse we are and should be. Well, to my perception the following statements in that thread are abuse: wondering if you even have a sense of dignity Sheesh !!! Get a grip on yourself Try a Christian site, they might be more helpful than we are. ROFLMAO. This has got to be in the running for the most bizarre thread ever on Collarme. tiz tremendously funny isn't it? PMSL, OP, you're abnormal. Trust me, you are (note: PMSL = Pissing Myself Laughing) If you are not ready or secure enough (or mature enough) to see a gynecologist, you certainly aren't ready to be in an adult relationship. So much for your IQ and your research! Now take all these nice people's advice and visit your gynecologist, beg nicely for her not to "Rape" your vagina...or curl up and die!!!!! No hermione you need psychiatric help because of your prior posts in which you acknowledged this and because of your obvious need to only seek attention feeding the attention whore mentality. stop acting like a 5 year old who has just discovered where babies come from. I keep picturing an indignant girl furiously typing at her pc while half of her ass is hanging off of the chair. Not a pretty picture. You think once your future husband gets a look at your mess of an ass on your wedding night he will even care if your hymen is broken or not? What the hell are you thinking? I have recently been diagnosed with bone cancer and it has cheered me up no end to find out that someone has more serious medical problems than me! I do believe she inadvertantly added a "!" in front of her IQ get immediately to a psychiatrist, because despite your self proclaimed intelligence, you are clearly in lala land and no one here can help you. stop behaving like a 2 year old. something like this is really just an appetizer for the serious insanity
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