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ORIGINAL: OmniDom

I have never been to a dungeon...

...and it wasn't because i was a bully... 

...If you don't believe me you are crazy.

You either have the natural gift of a dominant edge in life, which if used carefully, can convince others that your way is the best way, without violence, or you don't.

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ORIGINAL: OmniDom

my comment is plain and simple . Do not pass go.
I have never been to a dungeon, but the crowd is the same sleaze that hangs out at the local swingers club.

as for me, i have been a natural Dom, all my life. i was always the leader of the pack, and it wasn't because i was a bully, because I never have been. 
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is becoming part of a local BDSM scene  equal to becoming part of a cult? with code words, secret rules, sick rituals, and such. All you have to do is look at the cultish BS some of these pathetic wierdos ask you to read. and demand to "control" your communication, perhaps, to show trust. ok. but i question the motivation behind the request. do you know what a cult is? and not to mention the Church of Satan worshippers in regular attendance at those gatherings, who already have their secret hidden file about you all ready to fill up. if you don't believe me your scars are just ready to be given or haven't healed yet welcome to a needless hell created especially for you and your kneeble curiosity. If you don't believe me you are crazy.
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But, wait, you say, i am wrong, it is about control and free will and pavlov's dog, and this and that and the other thing. well, if you are going to believe that crap and merrily join satan's children, please....be....my...guest. and then later you can meet for brunch at the local nazi social club in the morning.  

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ORIGINAL: MissMagnolia

Ignore nothing. We all have our own idea's of what is correct and what isn't in any situation. It doesn't make any of us right or wrong. Take the responses given to the questions you asked and use what feels right to YOU, not everyone else.

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ORIGINAL: OmniDom

my comment is plain and simple . Do not pass go.
I have never been to a dungeon, but the crowd is the same sleaze that hangs out at the local swingers club.

as for me, i have been a natural Dom, all my life. i was always the leader of the pack, and it wasn't because i was a bully, because I never have been. 

and i would never "give" that away by joining a local bdsm scene, that is just insane. that scene is for the low life crowd. Many of the people here seem to be confused about BDSM. The Dominance and submission dynamic actually has nothing to do with BDSM. BDSM, like Co-dependency-which is also for the birds, allows for one purpose, and one purpose only; which is, to give a mental midgit who is prone to brutal and violent acts a "license" to inflict a perverted violent sociopathic "purpose" onto another individual who has come to believe for some unrealistic insane reason that they actually, and justifiably, deserve such treatment. i guess if I was a Muslim and i beat my wife for the hell of it, I might look at the BDSM farce from a more biased perspective.

how could anyone want to witness a violent and humiliating victmization of another human being, that is just sick. these "actors" of futility are the true wannabees. if you need to see this kind of morbid entertainment, youdon't need to go to a hell hole of "I'm better than you are, Ha-Ha" bulls***. you see these losers everyday on the street acting out there "scenes", the people who have a need to advertise that they are "different". there is a slut in every crowd. and that's all that scene is.
someone who is the real deal, has no need for a place to be "scene".

is becoming part of a local BDSM scene  equal to becoming part of a cult? with code words, secret rules, sick rituals, and such. All you have to do is look at the cultish BS some of these pathetic wierdos ask you to read. and demand to "control" your communication, perhaps, to show trust. ok. but i question the motivation behind the request. do you know what a cult is? and not to mention the Church of Satan worshippers in regular attendance at those gatherings, who already have their secret hidden file about you all ready to fill up. if you don't believe me your scars are just ready to be given or haven't healed yet welcome to a needless hell created especially for you and your kneeble curiosity. If you don't believe me you are crazy.
You either have the natural gift of a dominant edge in life, which if used carefully, can convince others that your way is the best way, without violence, or you don't. Shotgun diplomacy is for the weak. No amount of real life experience or book knowledge is going to get you there. all you are is a wannabe looking for a little fun that dark energy reality will imbibe you with, but it will only be fun until the initiation. If you give that control of yours to the  BDSM vulture "group think", you are heading to a place you will wish you never went to, and from a place you wish you could easily return to.
There will be nice people who are trained to whisper in your ear how wrong i am and once they over rule me in your mind. they will dig into you deeper and deeper and deeper. it is even more sick than i am describling. But, wait, you say, i am wrong, it is about control and free will and pavlov's dog, and this and that and the other thing. well, if you are going to believe that crap and merrily join satan's children, please....be....my...guest. and then later you can meet for brunch at the local nazi social club in the morning.  

Kidding but really are you angry or just confused??

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ORIGINAL: OmniDom

my comment is plain and simple . Do not pass go.
I have never been to a dungeon, but the crowd is the same sleaze that hangs out at the local swingers club.

as for me, i have been a natural Dom, all my life. i was always the leader of the pack, and it wasn't because i was a bully, because I never have been. 

and i would never "give" that away by joining a local bdsm scene, that is just insane. that scene is for the low life crowd. Many of the people here seem to be confused about BDSM. The Dominance and submission dynamic actually has nothing to do with BDSM. BDSM, like Co-dependency-which is also for the birds, allows for one purpose, and one purpose only; which is, to give a mental midgit who is prone to brutal and violent acts a "license" to inflict a perverted violent sociopathic "purpose" onto another individual who has come to believe for some unrealistic insane reason that they actually, and justifiably, deserve such treatment. i guess if I was a Muslim and i beat my wife for the hell of it, I might look at the BDSM farce from a more biased perspective.

how could anyone want to witness a violent and humiliating victmization of another human being, that is just sick. these "actors" of futility are the true wannabees. if you need to see this kind of morbid entertainment, youdon't need to go to a hell hole of "I'm better than you are, Ha-Ha" bulls***. you see these losers everyday on the street acting out there "scenes", the people who have a need to advertise that they are "different". there is a slut in every crowd. and that's all that scene is.
someone who is the real deal, has no need for a place to be "scene".

is becoming part of a local BDSM scene  equal to becoming part of a cult? with code words, secret rules, sick rituals, and such. All you have to do is look at the cultish BS some of these pathetic wierdos ask you to read. and demand to "control" your communication, perhaps, to show trust. ok. but i question the motivation behind the request. do you know what a cult is? and not to mention the Church of Satan worshippers in regular attendance at those gatherings, who already have their secret hidden file about you all ready to fill up. if you don't believe me your scars are just ready to be given or haven't healed yet welcome to a needless hell created especially for you and your kneeble curiosity. If you don't believe me you are crazy.
You either have the natural gift of a dominant edge in life, which if used carefully, can convince others that your way is the best way, without violence, or you don't. Shotgun diplomacy is for the weak. No amount of real life experience or book knowledge is going to get you there. all you are is a wannabe looking for a little fun that dark energy reality will imbibe you with, but it will only be fun until the initiation. If you give that control of yours to the  BDSM vulture "group think", you are heading to a place you will wish you never went to, and from a place you wish you could easily return to.
There will be nice people who are trained to whisper in your ear how wrong i am and once they over rule me in your mind. they will dig into you deeper and deeper and deeper. it is even more sick than i am describling. But, wait, you say, i am wrong, it is about control and free will and pavlov's dog, and this and that and the other thing. well, if you are going to believe that crap and merrily join satan's children, please....be....my...guest. and then later you can meet for brunch at the local nazi social club in the morning.  

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ORIGINAL: kittyinpink

I am very new to the BDSM lifestyle (in that I have no real experience), but have been trying to learn as much as possible.

I've been invited by a couple to visit a local dungeon with them and am very excited!  I'm not planning on playing at all the first time. However, part of me wonders if I will really bennefit from being there since I haven't actually done anything yet.

So to streamline this post: Is it still good for me to go even if I have no experience?  And for the future, would it be better for me not to play until I've had some experience with someone privately?

On a sidenote, some things I've been told for my first visit is to not touch anyone, to not play, and to expect other females to hate me (I guess since I'm 20).

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ORIGINAL: OmniDom

all the bizzarre shit you could ever think of because after this post, you are about to hear extremely bizzarre shit.

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ORIGINAL: MistressDelilah1


8.) Do not interrupt a scene; this mean physically or verbally. If someone wants you involved they will ask. If you have questions be polite and wait until the scene is over.