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RE: Younger Owners - 10/18/2007 2:13:37 PM

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Mistress is 33 and i am 50 ish. W/we have a great relationship. W/we travel to lots of events, are active in O/our local community and i adore serving Her. she even taught me to write like this.

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RE: Younger Owners - 10/18/2007 9:46:58 PM

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hey you two goofballs, didn't the Mod already say let it go?

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RE: Younger Owners - 10/18/2007 10:09:23 PM

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Some people are a little slow on the uptake.

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RE: Younger Owners - 10/18/2007 10:11:59 PM

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i am of the opinion that age does not need be an issue ... maturity and wisdom often transcends years.

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/11/2008 8:20:09 AM

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The sad thing is that in this lifestyle, while many of us feel that we have broken away from the norm, or "traditional" ways of looking at things, many of our views are still molded and shaped by society. Take for instance many of the assumptions that simply because a person is younger, they won't have any clue of the musicians you refer to, or that they are soooo emtionally inferior to one who is older (while it hasnt directly been put in those words). I for one find it annoying that as a younger Dom I am often simply relegated to being a number. BUT, I have actually found this to be more of a problem with online situations where such a number is visible in black and white. It makes me wonder of the reaction of some if their age stereotypes were suddenly dashed to pieces....say if they met someone in person who was emotionally and materially stable, acted more mature etc. etc....only to find out that this person is 10 years their junior. Wouldnt that be a kick in the head....

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/11/2008 2:38:06 PM

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Age is more than a number...it's the life experiences you've lived thru and the wisdom you've gained along the way. I'm attracted to Dominants with substance to their souls...you can have an old soul at any age.

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/12/2008 12:45:34 AM

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Children, please.

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ORIGINAL: silkncarol

Age is more than a number...it's the life experiences you've lived thru and the wisdom you've gained along the way. I'm attracted to Dominants with substance to their souls...you can have an old soul at any age.

*nods head in agreement*

Even though I'm ... *ahem* ... older ... I don't have many of the life experiences most women my age have. I don't consider myself "immature", just someone who has not lived as much of life as I probably should have at this point. I've encountered younger men who have had more life experience than me and in that mental state of being that is so important in a D/s relationship, I find they are stronger and above me in a sense. It's difficult to explain how I feel. Just that the D/s dynamic can work with a younger man - at least for me. :)

So in answser to the OP's question, no there aren't necessarily any problems submitting to a younger Dom/me. But, quite obviously, I don't think there is a blanket answer for everyone. Each has to make that discovery for themselves.

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/12/2008 1:32:39 AM

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ORIGINAL: peterK50

Is there any problems specific to submitting to a younger Dom/me? I'm referring to someone at least 10- years your junior.

back to the original question:

i'm pretty old & i used to have a rule that one shouldn't fool around with anyone younger than one's children...then my children aged...yes, it's probably true, as one person stated, that i simply haven't grown up...the thing is, though, i'm perfectly fine with that...i have been with younger people almost exclusively in the last 15 or 20 years, although there have been a couple of notable exceptions...the thing is that people my age tend to be waaaaay too old for me...i enjoy being around younger people & always have...my current owners are in their early 40's & i'm 20 years older than they...i have no problem submitting to them, because they are not an age...they are dominant people who provide an atmosphere where i crave to serve them...we have many things in common outside of our kink & can converse about a wide variety of topics...he has said that he has always enjoyed older women, particularly submissives...i often call him Daddy & think of him as Daddy or Sir...i see no irony in that, because to us, he is my Daddy...he controls every part of my world, from where i live to my finances...he has the maturity & life experiences to be able to do this...

each of us matures in different ways at different stages in life...i have met young people who are mature & responsible & i have met older who are not...so for me, it has less to do with one's age, & more to do with one's soul...

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/12/2008 1:35:01 AM

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Daddy is 28 and I'm 37. It works just fine. We're both at similar places in our lives, career and experience wise. We share common interests and common ideals. At this point, the age is really a non-issue for us, and I'm glad I didn't dismiss him just because of a number.

And the best part, I look 10 years younger than I am and he looks a few years older, so it's always fun teasing people when they're trying to figure out how old I am or which one of us is older.

I've never been attracted to men that are older than me, and can't imagine how some women can have relationships with men 10 and 20 years older than them, but you know what, it's not up to me to question it. How does that saying go? YKINMK... If it works, it works, if it doesn't it doesn't. But it's not up to anyone else to decide what works for me except me etc.

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/12/2008 1:58:43 AM

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ORIGINAL: silkncarol

Age is more than a number...it's the life experiences you've lived thru and the wisdom you've gained along the way. I'm attracted to Dominants with substance to their souls...you can have an old soul at any age.

IMO that is exactley why this is murky water,experiences and wisdom are not necessarily learned at the same rate for all .Different folks, different experiences different wisdom gleaned...IMO it all adds up to age, in great part actually is just a number, of course as proved earlier on this very thread to all rules there are exceptions and those exceptions sometimes prove the rule.....go figure ,this stuff is complicated and I am old so I am in need of sleep..

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/12/2008 7:12:34 PM

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Okay, who felt the need to drag up an old thread instead of starting a new one? Especially one with such unpleasantness in it?

Personally I need someone who is at the same life stage as I am, with the same generational memories and experiences. But I need a full relationship not just a d/s one. For a part time get together on occasional weekends and play, missing those things might well work. Doesn't work for two people sharing a life, at least not my life.

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/13/2008 11:19:42 AM

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There is something very hot about being dominated and trained by a lady half my age.

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/14/2008 2:18:19 AM

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Well, i had the chance to "play" with a very gutsy little lady half my age lately. We agreed to take it as far as it goes as She is a newbie and needs experience and so do i had a need to make some indications along the way to the little Lady into being a better Domme. i was happy to experience Her as a Dominant personality and She was happy to experience a sub first hand. We had a great couple of weeks and i enjoyed every bit of it. i believe She left satisfied but i would prefer to have something permanent and with an age difference as we had that could not be possible. i have gained a great friend in Her.

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/14/2008 7:30:33 AM

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There is something very hot about being dominated and trained by a lady half my age.

You know, I get tons of email from men in their 20s saying how hot they find it being dominated and trained by a woman twice their age. So, I guess it all depends where on the fence you're sitting (especially if it's on the sharp pointy bits. Mmmmm). My preference is for men in their late 30s to early 50s. It's not an "age thing," it's a life experience and maturity thing. I have friends in their 20s who are fun to be with, but their immaturity still comes through on a regular basis. It's not something I want to deal with in a long-term relationship.

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RE: Younger Owners - 7/14/2008 7:51:43 AM

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Older, younger... is in the perspective.

I do feel there is a cutoff.
21 year old as a Dom?? I would imagine it would be difficult for an older person to submit to someone who has little expierience in real life.

Veses if the Dom was 31 and the sub was .. say 45... That 10 year differnce in age for the Dom is huge!!
Think about it. At 21, what the heck did you know about Breathplay or reading the emotions of a bound person?? Let alone what hole the dildo goes in??

I personally detest comments like this.

When I was 21 years old I knew quite a bit about breathplay (yes, from experience) and I have to say, I've never met anyone who knew what a dildo was and didn't know what hole to put it in. If anything, statements like that say more about the person making them than the people they're directed towards.

Of course I realize that at 26 I'm not considered 'mature' either ...

Do you think that dominants wake up one morning at around 30 years of age and just suddenly have all this experience without ever having been given the opportunity to explore? Osmosis maybe? I dunno. Thats how it sounds though. As if the ten years between 20 and 30 are a magical time.

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