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Profile advice sought - 10/21/2007 6:35:29 AM   
youngsubgeoff


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Im looking to improve my profile. I was wondering if any Dommes out there could please give me some advice or ideas?
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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/21/2007 8:21:02 AM   
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I think your profile is very nice, and sweet, and had I been your age - and looking in your area - I would probably have found it an interesting one.

However, there are two sentences I'd drop...
quote:

I do not tell all here. Only after I get to know and trust someone do I tell them more about me.

and
quote:

PS, I am not here to pay your bills.

The first should be clear to anyone and the second just makes it look a bit agressive. If there is anyone who doesn't seem sincere you don't have to answer their mail, after all...

Good luck!
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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/21/2007 10:52:46 AM   
MsLilac


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Hi

Okay, you need to understand that this is just my perspective, and may or may not be conducive to your search.

I assume your name is Geoff? Is your nickname ‘G’? I am not sure if this is your nickname, or you being elusive. If it’s not your nickname, I politely suggest that you fill it in as Geoff, as it looks evasive, which would put me off. Admittedly, this is just me being nitpicky though.

Generally, it is ok. I would try and make it flow a little more. I like that you talk about your interests, and not just kinky interests. For me, there is a touch of negativity, I’m guessing you were in a relationship where you felt stifled, if so, it is apparent, to me at least. You don’t need to say “I want One who will feed the flame in my soul, not try to extinguish it”. I don’t know many people looking for a relationship who actively seek to extinguish someones ‘flame‘. People who are like this will make themselves apparent pretty quickly. I would possibly omit the second half of that sentence.

I like that you state what you seek, this is obviously important, but what do you have to offer? Maybe you can find a balance that you are comfortable with between the to.

I would talk about yourself a little more, not in a rambling way, but large portion of your profile is taken up with obvious, or needless statements.

The biggest hurdle when I was looking, was seeking someone with compatible expectations. Of course you can only really do this by getting to know someone. But a good way to filter is talk a little about what ‘the lifestyle’ etc, means to you personally. It means so many things to different people.

You also don’t mention what you actually seek. At the moment, it is looking opportunistic. If you are open minded for all kinds of relationships and commitments, then say so.

As for the ‘p.s’, there really is no need. It just comes of as defensive and negative. If you really feel the need to stress that financial submission is a limit, then there are far more constructive ways of doing so. It currently sounds sarcastic and aggressive. Depending on the context in which you mean it, then something along the lines of ‘I request that I am not petitioned for financial gifts’. Or ‘within a 24/7 relationship and household, I feel the financial burden should be equally divided’. I wouldn’t use this directly, but I am sure you see what I am getting at. You are making your point (if you feel that strongly about it) without being aggressive, and alienating potential interest.

Anyway, good luck with your search (you are doing well by this post alone  lol). I give you my personal view, take it for what they are worth to you.

Best wishes.

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/21/2007 1:13:17 PM   
youngsubgeoff


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Thank you both.

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/21/2007 1:44:36 PM   
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Being honest, the worst thing about your profile is your pic. I guess it was taken with a webcam, because it kind of has that fishbowl look to it. The poor color is not flattering either. Unless you really are pink. (in which case you would match my outfit) I love pics of men doing what they love to do and are good at. The self assurance and confidence is sexy. If you are in a band you have pics of yourself playing, right? Or get a friend to take a nice flattering pic of you.

Otherwise your profile is pretty good. I've read your posts on the boards in the past so I know you can express yourself well and have a good attitude. Make sure that comes across.

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/21/2007 2:08:21 PM   
youngsubgeoff


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LOL, no, Im not pink, just very very Irish. As for band pics, the only one I have is of me with a huge snarl on my face. But thank you for the advice. Im still trying to find the charger for my regular camera.

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/21/2007 4:08:25 PM   
PrettyOHDomme


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I actually remember looking at your profile, since you're relatively local to me.

I'll be brutally honest: the fishbowl pic scared me away. Now that I'm looking at you a little more closely, you're probably fairly attractive. I was also bothered by the "not try to extinguish it" comment. It makes you sound a bit bitter.

In general, I enjoy reading your posts...keep doing what you're doing, and I'm sure you'll find someone soon.

Irish is good, by the way. Irish skin marks up beautifully.

-Miss Ellen

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/21/2007 4:23:09 PM   
youngsubgeoff


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Thank you all very much for the comments. I really appreciate the help.

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/22/2007 2:15:46 PM   
youngsubgeoff


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quote:

ORIGINAL: PrettyOHDomme

keep doing what you're doing, and I'm sure you'll find someone soon.


-Miss Ellen


Ill take that with a grain of salt...

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/22/2007 2:41:11 PM   
MistresssAria


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Take out the word "dudes" lol..........and in this sentence "Im a guitarist in a Metal band..." there should be an apostrophe in "I'm".   ;:)

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/22/2007 3:48:40 PM   
youngsubgeoff


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honestly, if someone is that picky about my grammar and spelling... not to mention the way I talk, I honestly dont care. Im just being me.

< Message edited by youngsubgeoff -- 10/22/2007 3:51:34 PM >

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/22/2007 4:05:01 PM   
MissMagnolia


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You say you want a Domme to expand your limits and that you'd like someone who shows interest in you as a person. Maybe you could add a little more of what you have to offer to the Domme you're looking for?

Other than that, the only thing that puts me off is that you have no strings housework in the dislikes section lol.



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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/22/2007 5:23:09 PM   
youngsubgeoff


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the thing about that, I hate being ignored. Probably why Im a musician in the first place, lol. Other than that, thank you for the advice. Definetly something I should think about.

< Message edited by youngsubgeoff -- 10/22/2007 5:24:28 PM >

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/22/2007 10:45:47 PM   
MistresssAria


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I suppose it's just me being jaded........I get so many messages that are basically "like your profile let s chat we hav alot the same interests msage me at [ ]"

I hit the delete button on those!  If it were "Hello, I really enjoyed your profile, I feel like we have many of the same interests.  I would love to go over these things with you." - that makes a world of a difference to me.

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RE: Profile advice sought - 10/23/2007 12:05:01 PM   
youngsubgeoff


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lol, gotta love trolls, especially when theyre IQ is about 3 1/2

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RE: Profile advice sought - 11/5/2007 4:58:01 AM   
youngsubgeoff


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ok, any other ideas?

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RE: Profile advice sought - 11/5/2007 5:09:18 AM   
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Much better pic. You aren't pink anymore.

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RE: Profile advice sought - 11/5/2007 5:56:26 AM   
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Hi Geoff,

I just look ed at your updated profile and it looks great.  I didn't realize you were in Akron.  I am in the Cleveland area.  I am not sure you are familar with all the goings on in the lifestyle in the area and surrounding areas...I would be happy to help you.  I find that meeting people in person and networking is the best way to find a Mistress. 

Are you a member of PRS, Cyprus, SMART? 

Lets talk!

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RE: Profile advice sought - 11/5/2007 6:03:49 AM   
youngsubgeoff


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I am a member of cyprus as a matter of fact, just went to a munch last night. Still too young to join SMART, but they pointed me towards cyprus.

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RE: Profile advice sought - 11/5/2007 6:31:35 AM   
MsIncontrol


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Geoff,

You can blame me for that too young for SMART.  I am the founder of it and made up the 21 and over rule.  The point at the time was because we were meeting in a nighclub...all of this was 12 years ago...you were in 2nd grade!  LOL.  I am meeting with some folks tonight regarding SMARTFEST and I will see if we can open it up to those 18+ if they are members of Cyprus.   I mean, if you can die for your country...you should be able to get beat in public if you want. :-)

I am just a wee bit too old for Cyprus..but I love Nauti...she is fab-u-lous!

Tina

< Message edited by MsIncontrol -- 11/5/2007 6:32:16 AM >


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