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YesMistressIrish -> BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:20:48 AM)
This is what I wrote to support here on cm: Please add these categories to CM: BOTTOM: As you know, so many, many men say 'submissive' when they mean BOTTOM. So, they lie to get close and hope to be topped. BOTTOM as a category has a huge base here on cm. Certainly much bigger than submissive? TOPs: For all the bdsm fun. they will look for bottoms and not subs. Cm is unintentionally forcing men to lie. Let's give all those bottoms and dommes a break and add the category: BOTTOM Let's save hundreds of hrs and allow people get to rt much faster because the men get to say who and what they really are. For women also, of course, but it's mostly men who have to lie here. We really need to have these options for profiles and their own forums! Irish What do you all think of these as an added category and forum titles? *Irish*

phoenixinchains -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:31:38 AM)
i think the idea has merit, and should enclude the (furries?) people that liken themselves to creatures. but i'm not in the position to make those calls, and that's probly a good thing[:D] phoenix

RRafe -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:34:42 AM)
I agree. Far too much pressure on this site to "submit" or "Dominate". When all that a lot of us want-is really just some fun.

phoenixinchains -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:37:23 AM)
and how about some big icon for those who are here to do that cyber-stuff, and an icon for us that aren't in to that. this feature could save me a few head-aches when i go to answer my mail... phoenix

YesMistressIrish -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:38:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains i think the idea has merit, and should enclude the (furries?) people that liken themselves to creatures. but i'm not in the position to make those calls, and that's probly a good thing[:D] phoenix *Phoenix,* *Thanks for responding.* *Why don't you start a forum titled 'Furries' on the General bdsm forums?* *Do you think the category of Bottom would be helpful for everyone here?* *Miss Irish*

phoenixinchains -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:40:38 AM)
me not furry

YesMistressIrish -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:43:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe I agree. Far too much pressure on this site to "submit" or "Dominate". When all that a lot of us want-is really just some fun. *Exactly RRafe!* *Many people could be 'Bottoms' or 'Tops' until they figure out what they really want to be, or stay in one of those two categories if they prefer to do so?* *Do you think Support here on cm might make the change if enough people write them?* *Irish*

PairOfDimes -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:44:10 AM)
Yes, I think it would be great to divide up the boxes that are checked into both authority (dominant, submissive, switch, neutral) and sensation roles (top, bottom, switch, neutral). Of course, the precise nature of how you approach BDSM belongs in the profile text--that's why we get to write in answers.

YesMistressIrish -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:45:36 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains me not furry [:D]

RRafe -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:45:59 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe I agree. Far too much pressure on this site to "submit" or "Dominate". When all that a lot of us want-is really just some fun. *Exactly RRafe!* *Many people could be 'Bottoms' or 'Tops' until they figure out what they really want to be, or stay in one of those two categories if they prefer to do so?* *Do you think Support here on cm might make the change if enough people write them?* *Irish* You should just say so in your profile-I do. It does keep the castle realm crowd at bay. I think we already have enough catagories-maybe we just need to be more honest?

phoenixinchains -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:46:48 AM)
all though, i'd love to be a fly on the wall if there were an official CM meeting about this issue... i dealt with a few unsavory types and used my block feature, but i've not been so discouraged as to lose interest in the site. on the other hand, there's always room for improvement.... phoenix

YesMistressIrish -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:48:08 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: phoenixinchains and how about some big icon for those who are here to do that cyber-stuff, and an icon for us that aren't in to that. this feature could save me a few head-aches when i go to answer my mail... phoenix *Phoenix, That's a great idea! A whole category for 'Cyber Only' or 'No Cyber'.* *It would be just dandy to keep the cyber wankers on their own site altogether*. Edited because I have been up almost all night brainstorming with Dommes and subs, making plans and having fun.

SunNMoon -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:55:34 AM)
I love the idea of adding in top and bottom since there are people that just like playing with the stuff. Great idea. And while adding categories I think there should be trans switch. It bothers me that that’s not an option. I just feel like it’s forcing people who are trans to have to pick, just like top and bottom. I also believe one should be honest in their profile.

YesMistressIrish -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:57:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe quote: ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe I agree. Far too much pressure on this site to "submit" or "Dominate". When all that a lot of us want-is really just some fun. *Exactly RRafe!* *Many people could be 'Bottoms' or 'Tops' until they figure out what they really want to be, or stay in one of those two categories if they prefer to do so?* *Do you think Support here on cm might make the change if enough people write them?* *Irish* You should just say so in your profile-I do. It does keep the castle realm crowd at bay. I think we already have enough catagories-maybe we just need to be more honest? RRafe, Don't we wish people would just be more honest? That's why I think 'Bottom' needs it's own category. *When you said 'castle realm', did you mean fantasy life? I don't know much at all about it. Please explain.*

phoenixinchains -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:58:47 AM)
and where is says "seeking" something to click that communicates you are a couple looking to bring more people into the relationship and create a polyhouse, not looking to join an existing one... phoenix

RRafe -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 6:59:37 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe quote: ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish quote: ORIGINAL: RRafe I agree. Far too much pressure on this site to "submit" or "Dominate". When all that a lot of us want-is really just some fun. *Exactly RRafe!* *Many people could be 'Bottoms' or 'Tops' until they figure out what they really want to be, or stay in one of those two categories if they prefer to do so?* *Do you think Support here on cm might make the change if enough people write them?* *Irish* You should just say so in your profile-I do. It does keep the castle realm crowd at bay. I think we already have enough catagories-maybe we just need to be more honest? RRafe, Don't we wish people would just be more honest? That's why I think 'Bottom' needs it's own category. Uh huh, but there would still be those twits who think "I am the mighty Dominant-I can mold her into my prefect slave." Solves very little in the long run. I still have girls who seem to think I could be the big bad master-just because I know how D/s works. Knowing a thing and desiring it-are two entriely different things. Some people refuse to see past thier fantasies.

Viridana -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 7:06:26 AM)
My vote goes for this. As a bottom I can't put myself in any other category than submissive, but I'm not submissive at all.... I'm just a bottom.

YesMistressIrish -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 7:26:54 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: PairOfDimes Yes, I think it would be great to divide up the boxes that are checked into both authority (dominant, submissive, switch, neutral) and sensation roles (top, bottom, switch, neutral). Of course, the precise nature of how you approach BDSM belongs in the profile text--that's why we get to write in answers. *Because I am a Domme I am thrilled to have 'Domme' as my category. I change my journal to reflect what's going on every week, so all the bases get covered. Even when we clearly say things in our profile, it often gets ignored and that's why I think we need a Bottom category. Irish*

YesMistressIrish -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 7:40:26 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SunNMoon I love the idea of adding in top and bottom since there are people that just like playing with the stuff. Great idea. And while adding categories I think there should be trans switch. It bothers me that that’s not an option. I just feel like it’s forcing people who are trans to have to pick, just like top and bottom. I also believe one should be honest in their profile. Trans choices and poly creators like someone else said. Both are important.

MistressDolly -> RE: BOTTOMS (10/22/2007 7:45:29 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: YesMistressIrish This is what I wrote to support here on cm: Please add these categories to CM: BOTTOM: As you know, so many, many men say 'submissive' when they mean BOTTOM. So, they lie to get close and hope to be topped. BOTTOM as a category has a huge base here on cm. Certainly much bigger than submissive? TOPs: For all the bdsm fun. they will look for bottoms and not subs. Cm is unintentionally forcing men to lie. Let's give all those bottoms and dommes a break and add the category: BOTTOM Let's save hundreds of hrs and allow people get to rt much faster because the men get to say who and what they really are. For women also, of course, but it's mostly men who have to lie here. We really need to have these options for profiles and their own forums! Irish What do you all think of these as an added category and forum titles? *Irish* I'm sure they must have contemplated this idea in the past... I wonder why they haven't taken action yet. It is a fantastic idea.

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