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male submission - 10/25/2007 4:02:15 AM

lateralist1

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I would like answers from male submissives only.
Do you see submission as a weakness in yourself or a strength?
Do you consider yourself a wimp?
Thankyou in anticipation of your answers.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 4:50:19 AM

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It takes a very strong man to submit. When W/we play and Mistress does CBT, the tough Doms cringe. i am also a chastity slave, that also is not for the weak. so it is definiely a strength.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 5:07:31 AM

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I see my submission as a strength not a weakness. It's not easy to reveral your true-nature in a way society does not always understand or support.

Do I look like a wimp?

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 5:31:39 AM

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i would say that submission to your partner can be either, depending on where it comes from, and how you express it.
Being submissive in general, as in a natural deference to anyone who tells you what to do, is a major weakness/liability.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 6:15:18 AM

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I find power in the ability to please.

I find strength in surrender.

I find reason in requirement.

I find ability in adoration.

I find optimum pleasure in obedience.

I find that those whom might consider me weak or a wimp just need an ass kickin.

But I'll probably ask for permission first, just so I get something out of it too.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 6:48:26 AM

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Thankyou to those who contributed so far.
PeterK50 what do wimps look like?
petdave thankyou for the generalisation which I agree with BUT I didn't ask for a generalisation I asked specific questions which I wanted personal answers.
I woild love to hear your personal answers.
Yes chia there is power in the ability to please because you have the power to give and then to take the gift away.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 7:31:09 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lateralist1

Yes chia there is power in the ability to please because you have the power to give and then to take the gift away.

Though you are correct, and yes, submission is often viewed as being powerless,
when quite the opposite can be true. My statement refers more to the complete
fulfillment and uplifting I feel when I know that I have pleased another. I feel the
power of accomplishment, which feeds the hunger and craving to please that
I desire personally in my submissive nature. Quite the rush when I'm a good boy.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 11:12:31 AM

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I'm glad you like being a good boy chia. I'm afraid most subs of my aquaintance enjoy being naughty boys so they think that they will get the discipline they crave.
Really they don't understand me at all.
And I do understand the pleasure you get from service.
I have always worked in the service industies. I get a lot of pleasure out of helping people. I just happen to be a dominant person so I do it in a dominant way.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 11:15:31 AM

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Recently, being a submissive has made me feel foolish. Not wimpish. Not a weakness. Just kind of stupid.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 12:20:14 PM

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littlesarbonn In what way stupid? Do you mean all the stupid protocols surrounding this lifestyle? If so I agree with you. We are adults trying to make relationships that work.
I don't want anyone to call me anything other than Ma'am as a gesture of respect or my name. I am not and never will be anyone's Mistress. It's taken me a very long time to reach that conclusion. I'm a dominant woman who likes some aspects of BDSM and kinky sex and who is trying to find a submissive man who I think rocks and who thinks I rock to do it with.
That's it end of story.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 12:57:26 PM

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I have never thought of it as either a strength or a weakness. It is a part of me that I am proud of and that I have no control over- for me it is like breathing. Or having brown eyes. I have strengths and weaknesses in various aspects or acts of submission, but I see my submissive nature as neither.

Do I consider myself a wimp? Hardly. 6' 2", 230 lbs., former Bouncer, toter of heavy furniture, and practicing pain slut. Usually it is the Doms who leave the room when Mistress begins to play with me at a party.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 12:58:47 PM

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I actually feel stronger when I submit.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 1:13:25 PM

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Casting off the shackle and chain of social indoctrination and cultural demand is not a weakness, dismissing societies mandate is not a weakness either, its simply painting a bold picture of self...with broader brush.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 1:35:38 PM

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As previously stated it takes a great deal of strength and trust to submit to someone. Many of us physically would be able to over power a domme but to fight the culture conditioning and heritage of our fore fathers who said that made it a Male dominated society, it does indeed take alot of strength.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 2:09:53 PM

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I do it cause I want to do it.

take from that what you will.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 2:52:45 PM

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*shrugs* It's not really a weakness or a strength...it's how I relate. It has bits and pieces of both. It can be a terrible weakness if one doesn't use good judgement.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 2:55:50 PM

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I think a man is his strongest when he learns to accept his submissive side. I grew up in a tough, military family. My dad is a former Marine who did two tours in Vietnam. He was an instructor on the firing range while in the Marines. So if there was an environment to keep my submissive side a secret or feel ashamed of it, that was it. I struggled with the whole "am I a wimp" thing and "I must be a real pussy to feel submissive to a woman" thing. I have been collared in the past, but I was always self-conscious about it deep inside. It can be a real confliction. But the older I got, the less I started giving a shit what people actually thought of me. I am submissive, but that doesn't make me weak. I am proud of my submissive side and I'm one of the lucky few that has a wonderful Mistress that not only accepts and embraces my submissive side, but encourages it. She doesn't look down on me or think of me as weak. She doesn't want a doormat, and I am so far from being one...lol. She will be the first to tell you that I can be mouthy, a real smart-ass, and feisty as hell. On the surface, I don't appear to be submissive, but when She turns on that certain tone in Her voice, I immediately bow down to Her like a well-trained Rottweiler. She is my ruler, She is my goddess, and She is the only one I will ever bow down and submit to. Just because I am submissive doesn't mean I bow down to every dominant I come in contact with. But that doesn't mean I won't be polite and courteous to another.

So, to sum everything up, embrace your submissive side, my friend. When you find the right Lady to give your submission to, you will feel an enlightenment beyond your wildest dreams. I post my declaration of submission to my owner every chance I get. I even made a license plate for my car declaring who I belong to. Submission is a beautiful thing...there is freedom in enslavement.

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 3:48:05 PM

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RE: male submission - 10/25/2007 3:52:20 PM

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