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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/25/2007 7:50:00 PM

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I would have to agree with Smilezz. Also, having the police do a check wellbeing on him will let him know that he is on the local police radar if he decides to do any harm to you.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/25/2007 7:52:30 PM

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The Skyway Bridge here in Fla is putting in a special "suicide lane" for jumpers, complete with valet parking. I think another company is trying to get the contract on the photography rights, kinda like they do when your on a rollercoaster. Skyway toll $1.00 Valet parking $5.00 The expression on your face falling as you discover Newton's second law of motion...PRICELESS

I have been on the skyway bridge. When we were there for vacation last month. A jump from there would do you in.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/25/2007 8:14:28 PM

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And you haven't asked to be named the beneficiary of his life insurance policy? What ARE you thinking?

Most life insurance policies are null & void in the event of suicide tho

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/25/2007 8:45:51 PM

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So what ended up happening? Did she call the police? Did she actually go over there (the worst idea ever), or what? Cmon, give us an update please.

Sounds like something my Ex did, except it was his justification for cheating on me.. his "girlfriend" threatened suicide if he stopped seeing her, but seeing her was causing damage to his marriage. Fast forward five years later, he lost a 17 year marriage, his girlfriend fucked him over royally and he has since admitted it was the stupidest thing he ever did. Never give in to the emotional blackmail, it will fuck your life up and the other person will just go on and continue to fuck up everyone around them, or at least those who will let them.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 7:29:21 AM

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K, I met this Dom (met like we started talking on the phone), and we've been talking for almost a month. He's a lot older than me, and he started threatening to kill himself if I don't move in with him. He says he's walking to bridges and he loves me and can't live without me. I broke my leg earlier this week and I'm 20, and he wants me to get two of my friends to drive me up to his house at 2AM. I don't want him to kill himself, and I'm all confused and stuff. I really like him a lot, that's not a question, and we're really compatible, but I just don't know.

He is obviously Stalker material and I really doubt he would kill himself. If lets say he is unstable enough to kill himself then you should count yourself lucky he didn't kill you.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 8:15:19 AM

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The bottom line is, you are not responsible for anyone else's emotional well-being. People who try to make you responsible for making sure they are happy are using you.

i have been married for 18 years to someone like this guy. Everytime i tried to leave the abusive situation, he'd manipulate me through guilt and pity. Finally, i am shedding myself of him and his tactics are scarily similar to what this guy is telling you... he doesn't want to live without me, he's not eating, not sleeping, he's so ill from the grief and sorrow...

You give into this guy, and you'll be me in a couple decades. Save yourself the heartache and the stress. Why not move back in with your folks for a week or so (claim your leg makes it too hard to take care of yourself, if you have to). The guy won't know how to find you or call you. A couple weeks of no contact and he will have moved on, seeking his prey elsewhere.

You are better off without him.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 8:33:20 AM

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We have so-called Gorean Masters on AOL that stalk their victims through roleplay and then progress to phonecalls with nonstop threats of killing themselves if the woman doesn't cooperate with their training, moving in, sending money--you name it. A girl I know relates the story of the phone ringing in the middle of the night, him threatening to kill himself and hearing a gunshot. She freaked.

The next day, he was on another screenname, stalking his next victim --Me. I didn't fall for the show either. She Immed me with the story and I told her, hmm, just talked to him this morning. Sometimes comparing notes is your best protection. I imagine he made the rounds of every female in AOL Gor and has a long list of who he can manipulate and who he can't. But, he always finds the next victim.

Take yourself out of the loop. He is a predator not a dominant and a desperate one at that. Do you need a needy, whiny, self centered man in your life? Nope.

Walk away and be glad he showed his true colors early.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 8:40:52 AM

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LOL, would it work if I said I would kill you instead if you didn't obey?

Get back to me, let me know how that is gonna work out for ya!!!!!! Tell me what you need to hear babe!!!!

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 8:50:23 AM

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ORIGINAL: theletter12

K, I met this Dom (met like we started talking on the phone), and we've been talking for almost a month.

My flag meter kicked in here.... He is Dominant and ready to kill himself if a submissive doesnt move in with him after less than a month of talking on the phone?
I couldnt take this seriously, even if it were happening to me. If he is much older than you, he has been in relationships before, and he hasnt died from them yet. Its a good manipulation tool, but it isnt terribly believable. And if he wants you to believe he can be Dominant, then telling you how much control you are going to have in the relationship (obviously, life or death) is not the way to start your dynamic. Think about it.
If you are seriously concerned, and I think it was already mentioned, call the police and have them go check on him. If he wants you to come live with him, you must know his address and all. A visit form the cops will have a dual purpose. If he is truly unstable enough to be thinking about hurting himself, that will be for his own safety. If he is not really in any danger, you will call his bluff.
Either way, is this the sort of Dominant influence you want in your life? An unstable older guy who falls so head over heels with you after a month of phone chats that he cant live without you?

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 10:25:17 AM

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He knows how you feel and he is using your emotions to his advantage. He probably knows that you were almost out the door. Your best bet, hand it off to someone who is more capable and equipped to deal with it. Definately manipulation/emotional blackmail at its best. I agree with most of these people, those who truly wish to commit the act of suicide do not usually advertise it, typically it is left a "mystery" with a brief note of explanation. There is often no hesitation in the act of suicide. Dont' let him pull you in that way.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 10:33:35 AM

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::Fast reply::

I cant think this thread is actually a serious one.

Well, as the OP just appeared, posted this question, then disappeared again, I'd agree. Just another troublemaker posting a provocative question for purposes most of us cannot be bothered trying to fathom.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 10:33:53 AM

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ORIGINAL: theletter12

K, I met this Dom (met like we started talking on the phone), and we've been talking for almost a month. He's a lot older than me, and he started threatening to kill himself if I don't move in with him. He says he's walking to bridges and he loves me and can't live without me. I broke my leg earlier this week and I'm 20, and he wants me to get two of my friends to drive me up to his house at 2AM. I don't want him to kill himself, and I'm all confused and stuff. I really like him a lot, that's not a question, and we're really compatible, but I just don't know.

Call the authorities whether he's serious or not. To me, it sounds like a manipulation tactic. I think having the police at his door will make him think twice before he manipulates someone like this again.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 10:58:37 AM

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Ok think about this:

if this guy isn't stable enough to take care of himself how in the world can you expect him to ensure not only your safety but provide your basic needs as well.

your young and your being taken for granted majorly....dont give in to it.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 2:51:16 PM

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I am posting this with absolute seriousness. I am one of the people who think that suicide is a personal choice, just as all of our other major life decisions should be. After all, who should know better than him whether his life is worth living or not? I don't think this guy is at all serious. His threats have emotional blackmail painted in giant red letters all over them.

You have absolutely no obligation to respond to this emotional blackmail. Consider it somewhat along the lines of him saying "If you don't come live with me, I am going to join the French Foreign Legion!" or "Unless you come and live with me, I am going to suck down chocolate milkshakes and cheeseburgers until I weigh 600 pounds!" or maybe "If you don't come and live with me and be my slave, I am going to get a tattoo of an anus on my forehead and ruin all my chances of future job interviews!"

Being a courteous human being, you should tell him that you hope he considers carefully before making permanent decisions, but you do wish him luck, and you hope his choice makes him happy. Then, change your number, and never allow contact with him again. No one needs that much drama in their life.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 4:06:06 PM

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Myrisa awesome to see someone else quoting RAH. He was my first foray into science fiction, (have space suit will travel) but I will always love him for Time Enough for Love. I still suffer a knee jerk reaction to look for a new Heinlein novel everytime I go into a bookstore.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/26/2007 5:33:42 PM

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I read a lot of his stuff growing up. It was him that first got me thinking along the lines of poly. *L* Long live Lazarus Long!

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/27/2007 1:31:51 AM

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ORIGINAL: SageFemmexx

We have so-called Gorean Masters on AOL that stalk their victims through roleplay and then progress to phonecalls with nonstop threats of killing themselves if the woman doesn't cooperate with their training, moving in, sending money--you name it. A girl I know relates the story of the phone ringing in the middle of the night, him threatening to kill himself and hearing a gunshot. She freaked.

The next day, he was on another screenname, stalking his next victim --Me. I didn't fall for the show either. She Immed me with the story and I told her, hmm, just talked to him this morning. Sometimes comparing notes is your best protection. I imagine he made the rounds of every female in AOL Gor and has a long list of who he can manipulate and who he can't. But, he always finds the next victim.

Take yourself out of the loop. He is a predator not a dominant and a desperate one at that. Do you need a needy, whiny, self centered man in your life? Nope.

Walk away and be glad he showed his true colors early.

Blessings and Be Well,

Doms are just the opposite of needy, whiny, and self centered. Listen to Sage. And everyone else that's written. Seriously, he's not a dom, he's, as someone said before me several thousand times, a preditor.

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/27/2007 9:12:13 PM

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You've only talked on the phone and he wants you to move in or he will kill himself? MMMK. Tell him to find a high enough bridge so he won't just threaten anymore.

Run away as fast as you can hes manipulating you. Geez, where do people get this stuff!!

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/28/2007 11:32:13 AM

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run bitch... RUN!!!!
would you tolerate that from a guy in the nilla world? hell no

bdsm is still just a relationship. nothing magical about it. just a relationship with a certain dynamic!

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RE: OMG WTF Do I do? - 10/28/2007 12:31:13 PM

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I've personally got no problems with someone taking themselves out of the gene pool if that's what they're truly going to do. What pisses me off is when they do it in a manner that inconveniences others...

Drop from the top of a building... chances are you might hit someone on the way down. Have you any idea how much that fucks up someone's day? Especially if it's a good enough height... could be that he takes a passenger with him. Greedy, selfish... totally not the way to go.

Bullet to the brain in your house? Have you any idea what that'll do to the resale value of the property? And let's not get started on the state of the walls in whatever room it was. In a word... Messy. Try to keep the spilling of blood to a minimum when indoors. It's just the courteous thing to do.

Now you really want to do it properly... write a nice note. Don't blame anyone. That's selfish and in most cases untrue, you whiner.

For the quick, quiet and easy... OD on pills... maybe somewhere pleasant, like a serene little spot in the woods somewhere. And if you're looking for a gory exit (and anyone contemplating anything involving guns probably is) feel free to go into the same woods... completely covered in something that'll attract bears. Big, hungry bears.

Note: Please excuse the mini-rant. The whole topic just irks the hell out of me when people exit this life in a way that shits on everyone else's day. Have a nice one.

As for the OP... Everyone's said it in various ways before. There's really no reason for me to beat a dead horse.

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