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batshalom -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/3/2007 12:21:41 AM)
RRafe. ~appreciative laughter~ That appeals to me on several levels.

agirl -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/3/2007 9:13:56 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zuki Why is it so hard to pee for my Sir? he wants me to pee for him while he watches but i can't even do it on the phone. my body just shuts down and wont let me "go". Will this get easier? i want to do it for him and it doesn't bother me to let him be there but my body seems to have other ideas No-one can say, specifically, why you can't pee for your Sir ...If M is sat on the end of the bath chatting about the weather or the price of eggs, I will pee without a second thought but if he's sat waiting for it to happen, it's a looooooong wait, no matter how much I would like it to happen. No-one can say whether it'll get easier....... My mind/body isn't any more receptive to peeing just because he wants me to than it was years ago. It's pretty obvious that I don't have the capacity to pee at will, just because * I want to*, where M is concerned......'though christ knows how much easier it would be if I could......lol. agirl

batshalom -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/3/2007 11:32:34 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: agirl 'though christ knows how much easier it would be if I could......lol. Mm hm, it's true. Santa knows too. He's always watching.

CalifChick -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/3/2007 12:45:21 PM)
I was with someone for a while who wanted to try some Golden Showers play. Good lord have mercy. I couldn't pee in front of someone if my own leg was in full flame and I needed to put out the fire. So I had him stand in the bathroom, not touching me, not talking, and I think he even held his breath so I couldn't hear him breathing (LOL), I turned on the shower and I closed my eyes and contracted and then pushed out hard (like doing Super Kiegels). After about a week straight of doing this twice a day (morning and night), we switched to eyes open, then he could talk, then the water went off, then he could touch me. Now I can pee anytime, anywhere, in any position. I could even pee if the entire Mormon Tabernacle Choir was in the bathroom with me and taking turns sitting on my lap! I am the champion pee-er! LOL Sharon

michelleryder -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/4/2007 3:31:39 AM)
I can't see why it's a problem we all have to do it so why the embarassment!

Kalari -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/4/2007 3:52:33 AM)
If you have not been with your Owner for very long, I would say that things will become much easier with time. Comfort and trust play a huge part here, as they do in most D/s situations. As a "little girl" sub myself, my Master would often come into the bathroom and hold my hand while I "went," and after only a short time of this it actually became easier to urinate while he was there. In my personal opinion, it all depends on your comfort level with your Owner.

lateralist1 -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/4/2007 6:57:01 AM)
I like a slave to be more open with me than anyone on the planet. Maybe that's what does it for a lot of Dom/mes. It's less difficult with most men of course. I think it very much depends on your relationship with your Dom. But we all start from different places and have different limits. I have real trust issues. But when I really feel totally in control I can relax much more. How about getting your Dom to do something really nice for you while you are on the loo trying to do what he wants.

zuki -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/4/2007 11:50:50 AM)
Thanks to everyone for all your helpful replies. i think it is just something that will come with time. i don't think i am embarrassed about going it is just a condtioning thing isn't it

RRafe -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/4/2007 7:06:44 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: zuki Thanks to everyone for all your helpful replies. i think it is just something that will come with time. i don't think i am embarrassed about going it is just a condtioning thing isn't it I'm more interested in the mental aspects of d/s than anything else. I look at how social conditioning affects people in the culture I live in. Poeple are taught as toddlers that basic body functions are somehow bad, and need to be controlled and hidden from the view of others. It's about the earliest form of restraint that we are conditioned to. Which is why I have put so many submissive women BACK into diapers. And why they find it so humiliating-and so many hard limit this sort of control.. Being forced to wet your pants, or have someone right there when you are doing it is breaking a base taboo. It tends to reidentify the dominant in the parent role- Only as the one who releases inhibitions, rather than inculcates them. When I look at conditioning, I strike at the roots-not just what Shows easily on the surface.

azropedntied -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/4/2007 9:44:34 PM)
A gallon a water , ropes and time and tickles like Rrafe says it will happen .Although i feel the Dom maybe trying to just break a barrier for you .Or it could be a way to get closer to you .or maybe he like to watch pee who knows well only him .Hey atleast he did not ask you to launch a ship for him .

girlygurl -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/5/2007 2:10:30 AM)
When my Sir and I are together, He doesn't shut the door when He pee's. Even from the beginning (11 months ago [:)]) He left the door open. I guess that made it easier for me to pee in front of Him. On occasion I get a little pee pee shy, but eventually everything comes out ok. To the OP... the ideas given here are all good ones. Have you thought about trying to pee without him asking you to pee? Then the pressure of peeing may be less for you. Next time you're up to it... take the phone in to the bathroom and when you're peeing call him... hey... you could even leave a voice mail for him. smiles baby steps. Or.... how about setting the timer on the camera and taking pictures of yourself peeing. You can take as long as you want, again, no pressure of him waiting for the tinkle tinkle... and oh my... won't he be surprised when he sees the pics! weeeeeeeeee girly

camille65 -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/5/2007 2:15:55 AM)
I'm a bit surprised that no one has mentioned 'shy bladder syndrome'. For some people it is nearly impossible to void when there is someone nearby or in a public restroom.OP do you have problems using public restrooms or open bathrooms? Or is it just in front of your dom? There could be a physical reason.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/5/2007 3:53:29 AM)
I have never been asked to do such a thing. I have a feeling it would be easy as when you get old as dirt these things become easier. The problem then is if they want you to hold it when you really gotta go. Nearing the age of depends and ok with it... [:D] "Id rather have a bottle in front of me than a frontal lobotomy"

lusciouslips19 -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/5/2007 3:56:04 AM)
ooops sorry

tatangel -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/5/2007 4:25:35 AM)
I used to be really creeped out about this in front of men, ANY man. I never had a problem with females, I guess because there were several women and one bathroom growing up. Then I met my husband. I originally met him in a play situation, and he was always ultracomfortable about doing anything( and I do mean anything) in front of me. Eventially I just got to the point that I could do anything in front of anyone as well. Perhaps it is just a time thing, as I know it took me months to be comfortable with some bathroom aspects. Hope this helps.

chellekitty -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/5/2007 6:20:28 AM)
the only time i am the least bit uncomfortable urinating or farting or having a bowel movement or any of those other natural body functions is when the other people around are uncomfortable...and when it can get me arrested...there have been many times when i have been waiting outside a gas station bathroom when i just wanted to drop my pants, squat and pee, but public nudity laws and all...and now there are no decent sized bushes on the side of the interstates in texas anymore so i gotta wait for rests stops (not picnic areas) and gas stations....this is why it's good to wear loose skirts with no panties....amongst other reasons... soooo....though i can conceptualize it being hard to go while someone else is watching or listening, i really don't understand...in fact, if i am going to be in the bathroom for a while, i ask people to come talk to me...lol.... i also think it would be fun to hold Daddy's cock while he pees....but i am a nasty girl....lol... chelle...

RRafe -> RE: why is it so hard to "go" (11/5/2007 7:30:30 AM)
I think it's a lot about upbringing. I've had girls who never even closed the bathroom door when they went. And that was on the first date. Knowing that it amused me to see them in there probably didn't hurt thier ability to cut loose either.[;)]

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