ownedgirlie
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Hello LadyHibiscus, and thank you for your post. quote:
ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus Ownedgirlie, I see where you are coming from with your opinion, and I hope that I haven't caused you--or anyone else--any inadvertant offense. When I say "we're all adults here", I am speaking for my interpretation of the D/s dynamic. I know many who treat their submissives as "children" or creatures that they are "training and molding". From my POV, this is diminishing the other person, and saying "oh, they're just kids, they don't know how to control themselves/behave/get through the day without my constant guidance and correction." I am not at all offended, so no worries. We share different beliefs on this particular topic, which is simply evidence of the diversity amongst contributers to this site. I do not equate training, molding, and punishment with being treated as a child, since my view of such activities is not limited solely to youngsters. I also do not equate the occasional need for punishment as someone who can not control him/herself without constant guidance. I see so many different forms of people on this earth, each needing different motivators to grow and develop. While a form of correction may be optimal for one, it should not at all serve to berate what is optimal for another. quote:
We ARE all adults here. As adults, we all have different needs and desires that we are trying to achieve through our actions. We have chosen our roles. We know what we are and are not doing. We are not children guided by the impulse of the moment. In my household, we move along, we fuck up, we fix it. Other folks are going to do things differently. So, some people out there are going to feel improved, relieved, or whatever by some kind of "punishment". It's not something that works for me, and it certainly won't work for anyone that wants to be a submissive of mine. But let's not say that we're less than rational, conscious adults who are making our own choices. Ah, yes, your words here reflect an agreement that various tools work for various people (adults). Stating, "I'm an adult, therefore I do not do punishment" sends (to me, anyway) an entirely different message, so I appreciate your clarification. Thank you :)
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