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echowolf429 -> real life dominatrix (7/2/2004 8:19:30 PM)

is it possible to find a real life dominatrix or are most "pros"? if so how do i find the woman who is in it just for the enjoyment.
echo



sarbonn -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/2/2004 9:15:16 PM)

There are many real life dominants who are either pro dommes and non-pro dommes. In my experience, I've learned that there's really no difference in generating attraction from either type; you just have to be pretty honest about yourself and be willing to jump through a bunch of hoops necessary to prove you are as sincere as you claim to be.

Right now, I would suggest attending a few munches and getting to know people. Avoid actually trying to hook up and just get to learn who the people are. Familiarity breeds a certain sense of comfortability, and you can build from there.

If I took my own advice, I would be going to munches now. [:-]



MistressDREAD -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/3/2004 5:11:37 AM)

echo
every single
solitary person
on here is here
for their personal
enjoyment.
what your
job is echo
is to go about
finding the
person who
fits into your
opinion of
what enjoyment
is.



Sundew02 -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/3/2004 6:47:23 AM)

We all are seeking here. Depending on how narrow your search will determine what is available. The one thing I will say is the male of few words might be desired in the flesh, here silence is not golden. Remember you are expecting information to be available to you about the dominant, they also expect certain things from you. At least a moderate about of words to allow them a view of your mind set. As to your search for a Dominatrix, that is a very narrow search. Myself I am a Domme. As I have not checked out how others have listed themselves, I have no idea how many are Pro. Here on the boards is a good starting place to see and talk to Dominant females. If your cute butt is nailed to your area you will have an even more difficult time finding someone. But it is something that needs to be mentioned on the comments side of your profile. Munches and local D/s groups are wonderful resources, but if you are new or unwilling to go out in your community D/s, then check out not quite so local D/s. You might need to do a bit of traveling, but it will at least give you a starting point. Sundew



iwillserveu -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/3/2004 8:08:58 AM)

hint: If she says she is a dominatrix not a domme or domina or some other variant she either a) is a prostitute with a whip (nothing wrong with that as long as everyone knows), b) an experienced Domme/Domina/whatever who is looking for newbies who don't even know that much, or c) a predator preying on newbies and only concerned with your wallet.

A few more hints to identify c) (and accidentally a) but if that is not what you want...):

She is looking for "generous" gentlemen
She is "29" (OK, that one is arbitrary. Many "real" dominas are under 30 but few fakes admit to being 30 or over.)



proudsub -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/3/2004 8:56:54 AM)

quote:

is it possible to find a real life dominatrix or are most "pros"? if so how do i find the woman who is in it just for the enjoyment.
echo


I'm sure there are many here who are just in it for the enjoyment. It migh help if you put a little more about yourself and about what you are seeking in your profile. Also the blue background in your profile makes it hard to read. Good luck in your search.



MistressZanthia -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/4/2004 2:54:48 PM)

Wow, if I was just in it for the enjoyment, I'd have them lined up around the block and my bills wouldn't get paid, because I'd have no time to work, I'd be too busy being a hedonist. LOL.

Another do-me sub, not wanting anything more than to be serviced, and what does he offer in return? Pleasure? Wow!!! Hmm... last I checked my substantial toybox full of toys cost money, is he going to get me new ones when I break something on his inconsiderate ass? Doubtful. Is he going to hang around and be an honest companion contributing to a real relationship and household, or is he just looking to get his jollies and move along?

Boy, think about it, NO ONE WANTS TO BE USED FOR WHAT THEY CAN DO FOR YOU. As a lifestyle and Pro Domina, I can tell you I certainly don't.

If you're looking for a freebie with no cost to you... that woman in it for the enjoyment, try offering something more in return than a fleeting bit of pleasure. Or pay a professional, at least that way you'll get your money's worth.



MzDarkside68 -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/5/2004 2:41:39 PM)

There are many out there such as myself who are into the lifestyle simply for the enjoyment of it. However, nothing in this life is free. I know for a fact that if one wishes to capture my interest he must be prepared to at least take me to a nice dinner. My rules, in abiding by the Safe, Sane Play, state that I must first meet the potential submissive and get to know him on a not so intimate level.

I can usually tell a lot about a person after meeting them for a drink and simply chatting with them face to face. However, I have met a few in my time and excepted an invitation to meet for either drinks or dinner and after meeting them in person decided that they were not for me. Any good domme will be honest with you from the start and not string you along leading you to think that perhaps she may be interested in playing with you. Most Dommes know from an initial meeting if they share enough common interest with the potential sub to explore the next level. Many times things can go sour for a sub after an intial play session. As there are many who say they are indeed lifestylers and are actually wannabees.

Professionals know their roles well but if you wish to serve one on a more personal level then perhaps.. finding one who does it for the enjoyment would be more suiting to your taster. As I said earlier everything comes with a price so be prepared at least to buy her a pair of new panty hose if she needs them.. in other words do not show up to meet a Domme with not enough money to pay for dinner and drinks.. otherwise lol you have forfieted the game before bad weather arrives lol.
Be Well and Good Luck
Darkside



iwillserveu -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/5/2004 5:03:45 PM)

Pros have overhead. If you want a woman to like you for you then search as you. (Everything is sincerity; you fake that and you got it made.[:)] If you figure out how to look sincere, tell us sincere guys, please.[:)])



ShadeDiva -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/5/2004 9:26:33 PM)

LMAOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO Iwill

~ShadeDiva



LadyAngelika -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/5/2004 9:40:30 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: MistressZanthia

Wow, if I was just in it for the enjoyment, I'd have them lined up around the block and my bills wouldn't get paid, because I'd have no time to work, I'd be too busy being a hedonist. LOL.

Another do-me sub, not wanting anything more than to be serviced, and what does he offer in return? Pleasure? Wow!!! Hmm... last I checked my substantial toybox full of toys cost money, is he going to get me new ones when I break something on his inconsiderate ass? Doubtful. Is he going to hang around and be an honest companion contributing to a real relationship and household, or is he just looking to get his jollies and move along?

Boy, think about it, NO ONE WANTS TO BE USED FOR WHAT THEY CAN DO FOR YOU. As a lifestyle and Pro Domina, I can tell you I certainly don't.

If you're looking for a freebie with no cost to you... that woman in it for the enjoyment, try offering something more in return than a fleeting bit of pleasure. Or pay a professional, at least that way you'll get your money's worth.


So well said! I just had to say.



UtahGoddess -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/6/2004 3:59:32 AM)

((((((((((Zan)))))))))))))))

Glad to see you here! [:D]

This thread echoes many late night conversations we have shared. For once....I can add nothing to it! LOL

Well said and Welcome aboard!

Sandi



MistressZanthia -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/7/2004 12:28:51 AM)

Thanks Angelica, I appreciate I am not alone in my thinking. [;)]

And Sandi, I love you. But you know this already. Thanks for the welcome! *hugs*



MistressSaphire -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/7/2004 3:04:58 AM)

echo, as said before, going to the munches and just getting to know people is a good start.

personally, as a Bi Dominant, I rarely take on subs, and If I do, I do not want it to be with the flavour of a one night stand as mentioned by Mistress Zanthia.

I do not consider Myself as a pro by any standards, but i will serve u made a point as well. Alot of younger 'domme's' do it as a way to get what they want. I may be 20 but I still know what it can be like. If subs offer Me their wallet, then I am not interested. but as Mz Dark side points out, you need to get to know them on a non- intimate level.

Ok so I don't have much to add rather than what has been said, just reinforcing what has been hopefully noted.

Mistress Saphire



LadyDragnWarrior -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/8/2004 10:31:50 AM)

iwillserveu:

I take great exception to your post. What you have written may be the experiences you've had but does not apply to all. I am a Dominatrix. I am not a prostitute, I am not preying on newbies nor am I out trolling for money.

I would suggest that you add "in my opinion" or "my experience has been" in the future.

LDW



iwillserveu -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/8/2004 5:32:56 PM)

One who takes offense when none was intended is an idiot. I guess you got so upset you replied before reading much.

For your information about my post, I said there were three possibilities:

a) was neutral (or did you miss the part about nothing being wrong with that?)
b) was good
c) was the predator.

You are upset I mentioned three possibilities for a non-pro Dominatrix and claim to be different. Don’t keep us in suspense. what is the type you are? Attack the argument and I will stand corrected. Taking offense and not doing anything is, well, not helpful.[:)] In short, don’t get mad, prove me wrong! (I promise I won’t be offended even if you don’t add “IMO” or “in my experience”.[:)])

As always everything is IMO and based on my experience. (I tried using someone else’s opinion and experience and it did not work out well. [:)])



LadyDragnWarrior -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/8/2004 6:44:28 PM)

Re-reading your post and mine I do not see the words "offended", "neutral", or "upset". You are making assumptions. And, by the way, I am none of the three types you mention. Nor am I an idiot.


"We think very few people sensible, except those who are of our opinion."

- Francois de la Rochefoucauld




quote:

hint: If she says she is a dominatrix not a domme or domina or some other variant she either a) is a prostitute with a whip (nothing wrong with that as long as everyone knows), b) an experienced Domme/Domina/whatever who is looking for newbies who don't even know that much, or c) a predator preying on newbies and only concerned with your wallet.

A few more hints to identify c) (and accidentally a) but if that is not what you want...):

She is looking for "generous" gentlemen
She is "29" (OK, that one is arbitrary. Many "real" dominas are under 30 but few fakes admit to being 30 or over.)



MstrsDoris -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/10/2004 9:40:22 PM)

It appears someone has his balls twisted. As a seasoned, lifestyle, Dominatrix, I had no idea I was in the catagory of being a prostitute. That comment was rude and totally uncalled for. Someone should wash that boy's mouth out with Lava Soap. I don't know the reasoning behind such a comment but I am far from being what was inferred. I am not a kitten with a whip nor did I fall off the turnip truck yesterday. To top that, I am proud of my young age of 57, soon to be 58.

Mistress Doris

http://www.prettyfeetandtoes.com



ModeratorThree -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/10/2004 10:31:00 PM)

I think that maybe there are a few here that would benefit from reading the boards before jumping into conversations.

iwill did not call you a prostitute, re- read his words.. he was providing examples of what has sometimes been common place on the other side of CollarMe.

He did not mean to insult any of you, you just chose to read a few sentances and immediatly presumed he was speaking of "you".


Take a deep breath ladies and welcome to CollarMe, after you have been here for a bit you will understand iwll, well maybe not understand him.. but have a better understanding of him.



Mod3



iwillserveu -> RE: real life dominatrix (7/11/2004 6:38:52 AM)

LadyDragonWarror,

Get ready for a long post. MstrsDoris please read it too.

quote:

Re-reading your post and mine I do not see the words "offended", "neutral", or "upset". You are making assumptions. And, by the way, I am none of the three types you mention. Nor am I an idiot.
-LDW

Let's read the posts "offended" "nuetral" and "upset" are my words, true. Lets see if I used them correctly.

quote:

I take great exception to your post
maybe you are not offended, but I really don't think being offended by my using "offended to describe that sentence is the way to go.[:)]

quote:

a) is a prostitute with a whip (nothing wrong with that as long as everyone knows)
nuetral is how I would describe this. Since I'm quoting me I ask who better to interpret my words than me? I added highlight to the part about nothing wrong with that because I emphasized it in my previous post. So, you are better at intrepreting my word than me? (No emoticon, answer that one please.)

quote:

I take great exception to your post. What you have written may be the experiences you've had but does not apply to all. I am a Dominatrix. I am not a prostitute, I am not preying on newbies nor am I out trolling for money.

I would suggest that you add "in my opinion" or "my experience has been" in the future.


Perhaps "upset" was too stong as you could be playful or something. Was I wrong to think it was a major concern of yours? (Again, no emoticon. Answer that please.)

Again, I mentioned three possibilities. I think one is nuetral, one is good and one is bad. I accept your definition that all are bad. OK, now give me the good ones please. Actually nevermind the "please". Please list them in a clearly identifiable manner such as "d) one who gives flowers to sick children e) one who gives soup to the hungry f) well you got the idea"

MstrsDoris,

As for focusing on the prostitute with a whip part: I gave three possibilities not one. Why are you focusing on one only?



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