nella
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Joined: 12/30/2004 From: Norway Status: offline
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Sirrand, for me, this topic have always been dificult. i think i understand a little more of what you mean whit your last, long post, and some part of me agree. i have Aspergers syndrom, as sutch it is hard for me to understand the unspoken, unwirtten rules of a sosiety, and this have often made me an outcast. It had been mutch more easy if this sosiety had an agreement to what was a polite way to adress a Dominant and submissives and slaves. Had i known i should adress somtone as Sir or whatever it would ahve made my life more easy. But as there is no agreement, i have desided to do what seam to ofend the fewest pepole, and refer to pepole by their names unthil told otherwise. i grew up in an home where etiquette and always being polite was werry inportant issues, and often i feel disress at this forum, witch, exept for a few chat rooms is the only contact i have whit the BDSM comunity, becouse it seam no matter how hard i try, no matter how polite i try to be, it seam i insult pepole form time to time, and that is werry stressful for me, for a grew up being teatched that is somthing one simply do not do. So what i mean whit my rant is that while i might agree that i dont see anything wrong whit adressing somone as girl, sub or little one, i know many do, the same as i know some Dominants would prefer to be refered to as Sir or even Master from strange submissives and slaves, but most would be insulted. i dont think you basicaly did somthing wrong in the way you adressed the submissives you wrote to, but it seam you stepped into the etiquette salad and did a polka.
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