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luvdragonx -> RE: Why do sub/slaves not want to be called what they have declared they are? (8/10/2005 11:18:46 PM)
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Ok, I wasn't going to jump in here, as it seems so many have handled it beautifully thus far, but now I'm here.
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I have tried very hard to read every profile carefully, only a few times have I sent introduction letters to those who have been owned, mostly by accident or because I wanted to congratulate them on their writing skills. I am well aware that some Dom/Masters impose that rule, I have done that myself. So the question was not for them. It was for wannabes. Putting sub/slave at the top over time evolved into a test of their commitment. There commitment, to what they said they thought they were.
If they gave me grief for writing what they said they were, at the top of my letter, then it was an indication that they may not have understood how important to achieving their desire in finding a good Dom/Master, it was to correctly identify themselves. New sub/slave wannabe may not understand what they were making a commitment too. Nor what commitment the Dom/me/Master was taking when the Dom/me/Master took them at there word. With some rare exceptions the wannabes have no resources and the Dom/me/Master has to foot the bill for what ever happens. It behooves the Dom/me/Master to find some way to penetrate the mind and heart of the wannabes. My first inclination was to just ask, but then I realized they didn’t know for sure themselves. So what was I to do but devise a test to make them think and maybe react. How badly did they want to be my sub/slave? I just didn’t expect the vehemence of the reaction. With further refection I realized that the owned slaves of the community were setting the standard and the test results were invalid. So back to the drawing board, but first I had to find out why the vehemence. So I thank all for the data. Still not sure of the underlining reason for the hostility, but maybe enough info to devise another test. Anybody want to help.
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I know others have already let you have it with 'But I'm not YOUR sub'. So try this on, if you please.
I personally don't get violently offended necessarily when someone contacts me and addresses me as 'sub'. I am put off, however, because whoever is initiating contact is presuming a lot. Presuming that I don't have a proper name that distinguishes me from the other thousands of submissives out there. Presuming that I won't care that you won't bother to use a unique identifier when communicating with me, especially if you initiated contact. If you found my profile to be interesting and unique enough to email me, you can find me interesting and unique enough to call me by the name I have on file, until we enter into some other agreement.
I can then presume that you are the same kind of 'wanna-be' you speak of. There are countless 'wanna-be' doms who insist on using said titles. Many of us don't respond well to demands on addressing a complete stranger as Sir or Master. They have done nothing Domly or Masterly in our eyes. Yet they insist on us using the title. Are they then committed where we are not? Would you suggest to all new submissives to immediately revere any man who says 'I am Dom' just because he says he's one? Is that your answer to finding a good Dom/Master? I guess any woman who allowed you to call her 'sub' without issue is an automatic yes from you?
If you feel there's some litmus test for separating the 'real' subs from the 'wanna-bes', you'll be looking a long time. The overwhelming negativity to your approach should tell you something - it ain't workin'. It won't work. Pushing people's buttons just to see their reaction is a sure fire way to get your head bitten off, you shouldn't be surprised.
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