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ORIGINAL: caitlyn

collarme needs more profile catagories

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ORIGINAL: sirrand
ES2 I am I wrong or do you just not like me? I like you and your feisty comments. Bob we may have taken this as far as we can I don't know maybe not enough of our community has spoken.

Sir Rand

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ORIGINAL: Isolde

Simple answer: I'm a submissive, not your submissive. I only respond to that title when it's used by my dominant. Any other dominant addressing me as such appears presumptuous and disrespectful, as if they're assuming they can demand submission from me when I haven't given it. Any dominant other than my own should refer to me as a person, not a submissive, and therefore use my name.

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ORIGINAL: sirrand
As I said further down I thought maybe a category called ‘I'm not till I am’ would not get your vote. I maybe old fashioned, but when a Dom/Master ask a girl 'Are you a submissive or a slave' and the girl's answered in the affirmative that was a declaration of intent. It also was a silent agreement between them both that they were interested in each other. In the mating dance of Dom/Master sub/slave this was the first step.

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“This is the crux of my argument;
The Dom/Masters, that I have talked to, think it is disrespectful for a declared sub/slave not to recognize their rank. It seems a little petty either way to me. My position is I write it down at the top so the recipient understands I have read at least that much of their profile. Since they also object to my sending an introduction letter, and carp about me not reading their profile when they didn't even write much of anything. I feel I am acknowledging their wishes.”

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So you don’t think that if I were to address you as sub or slave that I as a Master was not acknowledging your desire to be either. And that I was also declaring my interest in helping you attain that desire that you needed to help you be whole or you wouldn’t be declaring yourself on collarme.

I feel it is not a presumption on my part but common courtesy and an acknowledgement of your deep need. Am I wrong?

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ORIGINAL: Synocense

When I read the replies to this post, I got the sense we were starting some sort of equal rights movement all over again. "I am a human being first and foremost...." "I am submissive, but not YOUR submissive, sodontEVENstartbossingmearound!" Ok, Ok, we get the picture. I don't feel my name and/or identity is being replaced when someone calls me "sub" or "slave" or "girl" - but that is because I can identify with each of those roles at some point, on some level. For those of you who do not define yourself as "sub" or "slave" have a legitimate beef with being called such. Those who do, good grief, lighten up, please. It's hard for me to believe someone would use these terms as an intentional personal attack. I can think of better words. *s* I don't liken it in any way with someone I am not married to calling me "wife" - to me it is something assiciated and particular with our chosen lifestyle.

: ) Syn "A rose by any other name...."

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ORIGINAL: sirrand
It just seemed odd to me that once stepping into ‘the life’. that one would want to revel in every aspect of it from going nude all the time to being called sub or slave. I suppose I misjudged the level of commitment of quite a few of the purported sub/slaves.

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ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM
You know, nella I am not very well versed on Aspergers syndrome but if there is a way I could help to change that for you, I would be willing to try. Some good work is being done by well renowned hypnotists on DNA. Myself I work with the vibratory rate of the cells. Both have some relief for your particular syndrome.

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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2
To me the really TELLING statement is the one you made which is:

"I suppose I misjudged the level of commitment of quite a few of the purported sub/slaves."

You USE the word "misjudged" which means you felt you DID INDEED previously judge something, by whatever definition YOU consider judging, and then inexplicable say later that you very much NEVER judge anything as it's not your place.

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ORIGINAL: tedibare

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ORIGINAL: Isolde

Simple answer: I'm a submissive, not your submissive. I only respond to that title when it's used by my dominant. Any other dominant addressing me as such appears presumptuous and disrespectful, as if they're assuming they can demand submission from me when I haven't given it. Any dominant other than my own should refer to me as a person, not a submissive, and therefore use my name.

here here, i feel the same way... being submissive has nothing to do with everyone in the world, it has to do with one... sorry if that makes me "not a TRUE submissive" but if someone on the street or gods forbid, at work, called me slave, sub or slut id be royally ticked off... i have a name and untill i give one that power over me, i expect it to be used...

tedi

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ORIGINAL: tedibare

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ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM
You know, nella I am not very well versed on Aspergers syndrome but if there is a way I could help to change that for you, I would be willing to try. Some good work is being done by well renowned hypnotists on DNA. Myself I work with the vibratory rate of the cells. Both have some relief for your particular syndrome.

This is a whole other topic, but I'd be interested to see any literature/references you might have to back up this statement.

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I has many meaning to me but sometimes it means think what your saying.

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ORIGINAL: tedibare

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ORIGINAL: ElektraUkM
You know, nella I am not very well versed on Aspergers syndrome but if there is a way I could help to change that for you, I would be willing to try. Some good work is being done by well renowned hypnotists on DNA. Myself I work with the vibratory rate of the cells. Both have some relief for your particular syndrome.

This is a whole other topic, but I'd be interested to see any literature/references you might have to back up this statement.