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MissSCD -> Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 5:53:12 AM)
Greetings: I happened to make contact with my former Mentor/Master last evening. I recall talking with him for hours about the lifestyle when I began my journey. In the beginning, I tought I was a submissive, but found out I was Domme. We lost contact for a few months, and I missed him terribly. Some how I was able to sign into my old account on MSN and contact him. I was so lost without not being able to talk to him. He is a great friend. Now we will stay in touch. My question to you as a web site is who influenced your journey from the beginning of your quest of this lifestyle? He taught me a lot. He and my slave have taught me a lot about style and technique. You all have a wonderful day. Regards, MissSCD

LaTigresse -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 5:58:45 AM)
Every submissive and slave that I have ever known, been friends with, and/or had contact with. Because, I didn't need any help understanding how my brain worked. For the life of me, I could not understand how or why, someone would want to be on the flip side of all of this. It made zero sense to me. I could not understand how serving and submitting, to my bossy selfish interests, could be satisfying to a woman. I struggled with it for a long time.

dawntreader -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 6:05:57 AM)
i agree with LaTigresse, everyone i have come in contact with has been influencial to me, good and bad. However, to give credit where credit is due - i have to go back to the beautiful 24 year old that introduced me to D/s a mere year and a half ago. Without him, i am not sure i would have ever explored this side of myself and i will always be grateful to him~ j

juliaoceania -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 6:33:04 AM)
I would have to say that at the beginning of my journey the person that most influenced me would be my first dominant. I was afraid of the idea of being "dommed" before him although the concept was a turn on at the same time. We were friends through political activism groups and chat online for quite a while before we went into any private conversations. I knew he was compassionate and passionate before this topic of conversation ever had a chance to arise between us. So when he stated that he was a dominant, I was not afraid of that. I suppose it opened me up to the idea of romantic D/s and of loving affectionate sadomasochism. Even though I was very hurt by the ending of that relationship, and he could have ended it on a better note, we were able to come to a resolution in the end that was not bitter. I am grateful for the experiences I had with him, he showed me my submissive nature, and without that experience I doubt I would have ever sought a dominant the way I did eventually, and I would never have met my Daddy... all things have a reason and a season. Edited to add, this was not an internet only relationship.... just clarifying

bipolarber -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 6:57:38 AM)
That's a little like asking a cake which parts of it make it a cake... Was the eggs? The flour? The fruit filling? Was it the icing? When I think back to my early days inthe scene, and how I immersed myself with everything I could find: books, munches, parties, formal "class-style" demos... I could never point to one thing, one person whom I can say was the major influence on me. I will say that Pat Califia probably gave me the best information about the reality of BDSM... and that my first dominant, Dorathy, set the pace... but then there was Midori, and Molly Devon, and... and.. and... (you get the idea)

KnightofMists -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 7:02:37 AM)
Ironically.. the person that influenced me the most is the one that contributed to the most negative of my experiences of my life.

thetammyjo -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 7:11:13 AM)
No one influenced me from the beginning. But since meeting and getting to know Jack Rinella and his slave Patrick I can say that they have become one model of how well I hope we can manage our kinky family.

LATEXBABY64 -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 7:14:24 AM)
the Donald, babe ruth. Steve jobs. Bill Gates. Rupert merdock. james cagney, yep and more hard to put finger on one

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 8:09:01 AM)
Mistress Vixen, Henrietta, Charlotte, Flagg, SirC, Raven Kaldera and jonathon, and all the years of discussion in the DomSub yahoogroup that the idiotic SirWithLove started were the memorable names who influenced me most back when I started.

slavegirljoy -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 8:09:09 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MissSCD My question to you as a web site is who influenced your journey from the beginning of your quest of this lifestyle? Regards, MissSCD The beginning of my quest in this style of life started with my family, especially my father. If i had been raised in a different family, i doubt i would have turned out so submissive, or to be so sexually aroused by being whipped with a leather belt on my naked bottom or wanting to be disciplined or wanting to be told what to do or, etc., etc. The family dynamics i was raised with set in motion everything that was to follow. After that, i attracted, and was attracted to, men who liked being in a position of power and liked to use that power to control me in a sexually intimate relationship. The first man that i experienced BDSM with, my ex-husband, was the most influential in my learning about my masochistic sexuality, in teaching me about kinky sex and in helping me to realize my need to be in a power-based, kinky, intimate relationship. With him, i was able to learn to express and enjoy my kinky desires. i was still young enough to be very impressionable and i was eager to experiment with all kinds of sex and discover what got me excited and what didn't. Every relationship since then has helped me to further my exploration but, always from the point of reference that was established in that first kink-based relationship. slave joy Owned property of Master David

IrishMist -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 8:13:38 AM)
My late husband was the guiding force in my life; even after his death I still use things he taught me to this day. There have been others through the years who influenced me in small ways; but only as a means of challenging what I already knew or felt.

Rockbound -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 8:17:34 AM)
The many thoughtful posters on the old alt.sex.bondage board who presented their expertise and offered encouragement to those who once thought their BDSM fantasies were theirs alone. They showed many of us that our thoughts and fantasies were not unique, that there are many others out there thinking about the same things, and actually doing something about it. That old Usenet forum was a great learning experience for several years before the spammers destroyed it. The pioneers who posted innumerable helpful, informative and encouraging comments, articles, and stories had a huge influence in expanding the BDSM community.

SingleRarity -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 8:33:28 AM)
My Daddy has definitely been the strongest influence on my kink tendencies, but if I were to look outside of the relationship, I would have to go with our friends in the Chicago scene, followed closely by Damon Pierce and Claire Adams. I met them last weekend and simply watching the two of them react to one another is quite stunning. Her devotion to him is so clear, and they know one another so well, that often words aren't needed. Plus Claire is insanely sexy, and she actually came over and laid on top of me to help me get a better stretch. That was in a stretching class, btw. I'm also pretty bendy, and after watching Damon suspend Claire in some insane suspensions that utilize her extreme flexibility, I've become much more inspired, as has Daddy. I really need to get back into ballet.

Padriag -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 2:20:40 PM)
No one... there have been no mentors, no individual(s) who heavily influenced me. Like some others, I have been influenced to one degree or another by almost everyone I've encountered... even the morons who annoyed me. You live and you learn.

kyraofMists -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 2:30:42 PM)
My Lord has influenced me the most. His honor and integrity have inspired me from the beginning. His devotion and passion have moved me to tears. His commitment to family and those he loves makes me feel safe and comforted. His sadism sends chills down my spine; makes me shiver in fear and anticipation. I couldn't imagine my life without him. Outside of the lifestyle, my former therapist has influenced me the most. He taught me that changing feelings was possible by changing behaviors and thoughts. His influence saved my life. My Lord makes sure I remember those lessons and it has enriched my life beyond measure. Knight's Kyra

wisteriaV -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 7:35:22 PM)
I actually thought about this one. The one singular person that had/has made an empact is oddly enough my mom who will be 90 this coming February. She has me when she was 45 and this March I will be 45..I was born one week after she turned 45...She is my rock and my inspiration. She taught me to believe in myself and not compromise in anything.[:D]

laurell3 -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 7:42:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: KnightofMists Ironically.. the person that influenced me the most is the one that contributed to the most negative of my experiences of my life. Yeah me too, I learned so much about myself and my needs from a few very caring, talented Doms, but what made me pull my head out the clouds and stand on my feet and move in a forward direction of my own choosing was my foolish mistakes with some harmful characters early in the lifestyle.

marieToo -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/10/2007 7:50:00 PM)
For me it was a man I was involved with several years ago, and about half way into my ds experiences. The relationship didn't last very long and my experience with him oddly was a negative one, but through my interactions and time spent with him, I found the deeper core of my submission and realized that my previous experiences had only scratched the surface. After that relationship ended, I went away knowing exactly who I was and exactly where I belonged in all of this. The relationship ended on a very bad note. So, like KoM, the worst experience influenced me the most.

Prinsexx -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/11/2007 9:26:06 AM)
Aaran (who was really Pete), Anni, Beard, Chris, Colin, Connor, David, Dennis, Di, Dianne, Eleanor, Esther, Foxy, Frances, Francesca, Fran aka Luke, Hayley; Idelette, Jamie, Jason, Jay, John, Jonathon, Joop, Lu, Mayada, Meg, Max, Paul, Paul, Peter, Rachel, Robert, Ron, Roy, Simone, Stefan, Vince, Winnie and William and at least 1,000 who shall remain confidential..

Faramir -> RE: Who has influenced you the most? (11/11/2007 9:37:07 AM)
I wouldn't use the term "quest" as I understand it--I haven't been searching for an elixir to return with, so to speak. I suppose I might use journey, in the sense that I (hope I) have moved from a state of less self-knowledge to greater self-knowledge. If I had to name an outside, persuasive influence in that process, I'd point to C.S. Lewis, in an ethical, philosophical sense. However, Lewis remained tortured and in tension over the course of his life in his BDSM orientation. Reading through his process of repudiating his sexuality helped me decide how mine could be ethical and virtuous.

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