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Need for paddling. - 11/12/2007 11:16:10 PM   
mckennesaw


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Status: offline 		I am wondering how many dom/sub relationships are centered around spanking. Last week, I had an overwhelming need for some relief, so a lady acquaintance I have recently met suggested that I let her paddle me. I agreed, so she brought a large wooden paddle, and told me to strip naked and bend over and grab my ankles. She told me that I would be getting 10 hard swats to start out with, but I would earn more if I moved or one of my hands came off my ankle. The paddling really hurt, since I had never been paddled before, so I ended up getting 14 swats. No restraints are used, since the idea is for me to restrain myself. I found that this kind of paddle therapy really eliminates my stress. She now plans to give me a good paddling every week.
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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 12:01:32 AM   
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Status: offline 		it can definitely be a great form of stress relief though you should have more than one way to "release" this negative energy. Enjoy the one a week though ...sounds like great fun

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 6:42:12 AM   
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I am wondering how many dom/sub relationships are centered around spanking.


Not mine. In fact in 7 months he hasn't spanked or paddled me once.

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 7:57:45 AM   
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Not mine. In fact in 7 months he hasn't spanked or paddled me once.

GASP!!!....omg... thats just sadistic !


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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 8:24:46 AM   
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Not mine. In fact in 7 months he hasn't spanked or paddled me once.

GASP!!!....omg... thats just sadistic !



Hee, AMEN to THAT.

A good spanking tends to settle me quite nicely.

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 8:29:34 AM   
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Status: offline 		Certainly our life is not centered on that type of thing but we both feel that we enjoy and need it in our lives together.

For me there are times that I will ask to be spanked to relieve stress mostly from having types of bad shifts at work so I certainly understand what you experienced. Spanking in all the ways to do it is a wonderful thing in my life.


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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 8:30:28 AM   
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Not mine. In fact in 7 months he hasn't spanked or paddled me once.

GASP!!!....omg... thats just sadistic !



No lol. I'm not really into spanking or paddles. I love my whips, needles and knives and luckily so does Sir.

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 8:34:45 AM   
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ORIGINAL: missturbation

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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Not mine. In fact in 7 months he hasn't spanked or paddled me once.

GASP!!!....omg... thats just sadistic !



No lol. I'm not really into spanking or paddles. I love my whips, needles and knives and luckily so does Sir.

Oh...ok then...I retract my earlier "gasp"...lol


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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 8:49:18 AM   
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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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ORIGINAL: missturbation

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ORIGINAL: breatheasone

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Not mine. In fact in 7 months he hasn't spanked or paddled me once.

GASP!!!....omg... thats just sadistic !



No lol. I'm not really into spanking or paddles. I love my whips, needles and knives and luckily so does Sir.

Oh...ok then...I retract my earlier "gasp"...lol



EEK, but now I add my *GASP*  but that's just cause needles and knives make me squeamish...;) 

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 8:55:15 AM   
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EEK, but now I add my *GASP* but that's just cause needles and knives make me squeamish...;)

Master says He and I will explore that one day...I CAN'T wait to play with needles and knives with Him!


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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 9:02:25 AM   
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Status: offline 		Needles squick me out too - big style. But freak that i am i just love it.
Knives, i space as soon as i see one lol. The feel of the trickles of blood running down my back etc - yummy yummy yummy.

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 1:54:48 PM   
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Status: offline 		They may not be entirely spanking-based, but I generally don't have sex with my dominants. Thus they are pain-only relationships as yours seems to be, where we meet primarily for the purposes of administering various torments. I gather this is not unusual.

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 1:57:38 PM   
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Status: offline 		No i have a sexual relationship with Sir too. I do love my pain though

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 2:01:28 PM   
TheScrivener


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Status: offline 		Spanking is a nice play element, but I've found some people are a little too focused on it.

It's one of many flavors to be enjoyed.  But it's not a big thing for me.


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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 2:04:49 PM   
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ORIGINAL: mckennesaw

I am wondering how many dom/sub relationships are centered around spanking. Last week, I had an overwhelming need for some relief, so a lady acquaintance I have recently met suggested that I let her paddle me. I agreed, so she brought a large wooden paddle, and told me to strip naked and bend over and grab my ankles. She told me that I would be getting 10 hard swats to start out with, but I would earn more if I moved or one of my hands came off my ankle. The paddling really hurt, since I had never been paddled before, so I ended up getting 14 swats. No restraints are used, since the idea is for me to restrain myself. I found that this kind of paddle therapy really eliminates my stress. She now plans to give me a good paddling every week.


I've never centered a relationship around paddling...I have centered scenes around paddling/flogging/spanking but then, I have also done scenes where it did not come into play at all.  I've been going over a scene in my head recently wherein no paddling was involved.

I do see it as a good stress reliever for someone that appreciates that type of stress relief but I would not want a submissive to focus only on that as her primary stress reliever.  I would not want a submissive to focus on any one thing as the only answer to almost anything.  While there are some areas of my relationships where there are few answers, for most areas there are always other ways of coming at the same thing and I want them to be open to that.

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 2:57:49 PM   
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Status: offline 		raven says:
i often wish, and petition Sir, for more spankings, paddlings, any kind of impact play! it's the catharsis, for me. i love being able to release all of my worries, fears and stresses and simply let myself fly, i crave it both psychologically and physiologically.

having to hold your own ankles, that's "psychological bondage" and it's another layer that's wonderful, knowing you *could* let go ... but why don't you? that's a lovely mindfuck


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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 3:48:44 PM   
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Status: offline 		Impact play is a major stress relief for me.
I would not a relationship built around impact play altho it would play an important part.

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 4:03:54 PM   
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Status: offline 		I love a little hand to rump fun when the time is right, and can enjoy some heavier implements too, but I learned the other day that it can mess me up a little if I'm not in the right headspace for a nice wooden brush.  I wasn't feeling sexual or naughty and got a pretty good little smackeling just 'cause he felt like it, and I ended up needing some aftercare more than either of us would have expected.  Live and learn.  Not everyone enjoys impact play just for the hell of it or for stress relief.  Now a knife to the back, resulting in some dirty words that stick around for a week or so, I think that would melt my cares away any time *big smile*

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 4:39:18 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Tigrita

I love a little hand to rump fun when the time is right, and can enjoy some heavier implements too, but I learned the other day that it can mess me up a little if I'm not in the right headspace for a nice wooden brush.  I wasn't feeling sexual or naughty and got a pretty good little smackeling just 'cause he felt like it, and I ended up needing some aftercare more than either of us would have expected.  Live and learn.  Not everyone enjoys impact play just for the hell of it or for stress relief.  Now a knife to the back, resulting in some dirty words that stick around for a week or so, I think that would melt my cares away any time *big smile*


You know, I've noticed that a brush is an implement that if I'm not in the right headspace for it, does bad things to me too.  It can be a nasty instrument!!

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RE: Need for paddling. - 11/13/2007 5:05:07 PM   
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You know, I've noticed that a brush is an implement that if I'm not in the right headspace for it, does bad things to me too. It can be a nasty instrument!!

I second this...my Masters brush, or how He wields it hurts like FUCK!....just sayin.


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