slavedesires
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We all tell our truth as we see it. What was the truth yesterday might not be the truth today. But then, it does depend on the truth, the honesty and the manner in which one does lie. Some truths are black and white. I believe out right deception, thus the motive for a lie, is far more greivious. I have been lied to, deceived and have done the same. The motivation is, IMHO, is the crux of the situation. If the motivation is pure or the motivation is out right "evil" (for lack of better words)...the receiver must make the choice. We can say we hate, loathe, detest liars.....but then we lie and do not the truth (our truth or the legal truth), we dont hate ourselves, we justify it. "Do unto others as you would have them do unto you." If i seek forgiveness it is unilateral. If i seek genuine discussion of why, looking at the motive, then forgiveness and accountability can be bilateral. There are some lies and actions which should never be told or done. Period. Bilaterally forgiving is restoring the relationship and the trust and respect must then be rebuilt. Guarding ones heart from anothers words and actions is not necessarily distrustful, it is building up trust until full trust is gained. Yes, i do have many examples of all of this. As do all of you. Just remember to judge a lie, one must look within themselves and say, do i have the right to judge, not knowng all the facts when my own back yard has lies and deception within it? When you point a finger, 3 remain pointed in your direction. Bilaterally forgivng is a risk and only an indvidual decides if that risk is worth taking. I will not lie about this...i have been on both ends. If you look within, you will agree, you have to. ~~shy (feeling quite philosophical this morning)
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i speak only my personal opinion, sometimes O/ours. "i am the keeper of fragile things and i have kept what is indisolvable." ....the greatest gift.....vulnerability
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