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SmartQuietMan -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/17/2008 11:46:19 PM)

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ORIGINAL: malloves69
if im going to be naked and with a mistress some kind of sex is a must as far as im concerned ...thats where all the fun is  strapon sex ....being fisted ...orally serving her ..or just vanilla sex  ecspecially if im paying her for a session ..i might be a sub ..but hey im still a guy  no sex probable means i wont be back for a second session unless we really hit it off chemistry wise ..her loss not mine because she wont see my money for a next get together ..mal


Things like this are why there is generally a rather large disparity between BDSM lifestyle players and those who seek ProDommes.  From what I know, those that seek Pros can be pretty specific about what THEY want out of a scene.  I know a few pros (as friends) and I find it shocking how demanding and their "submissive" clients can be.  Now, really, is that being submissive?  You're demanding sex!  Now, I can understand wanting sex, but saying that it "must as far as [I'm] concerned" is a rather silly thing for a submissive to be doing.  To me, it sounds like what you want is kinky sex with an assertive/aggressive woman and you're willing to pay for what you want   But where to find such a woman?  Maybe you could find kinky prostitutes, but I'd guess finding ones that are very assertive/aggressive could be difficult.  But you might try being a bit less of a prick about it with the whole "her loss" bit there.  I'm glad you like your ProDommes and I wish you much fun.

Unfortunately its prevalent attitudes like this in male submissives that set bad stereotypes and make it difficult for the rest of us with lifestyle Dommes.  Because they are tired of getting unsolicited requests from many males wanting what this guy wants - but for free.  Sigh.



SmartQuietMan -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/18/2008 12:08:00 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MsCfromMelbourne
I am a sexual Dominant.  I need full control of who, how and when to get my rocks off.  I have tried sex with vanillas and Tops/Doms and I hate it.  To me it feels like being thrown around like a rag doll, pinned down, penetrated  and controlled.  It is a form of submission.  Worst of all, Tops/Doms/nillas say "no" to my sexual requests (especially the really weird ones!), which leaves me feeling horribly sexually disempowered and un-dominant!

I can have sex with a man (sub or not) as long as lets me control everything, including whether he gets to cum.  In other words, they have to submit, even if they don't want to call themselves a submissive. 

Some guys might think "wow, she chains you to the bed and does her own thing....every time!  That sounds great!"

But think about having no control of sex or your sex life week after week, month after month, year after year.  Sexual Dominants can only really partner with genuine sexual submissives (in my sad experience)


Well, assuming you're not completely cold and heartless with no care for your submissive - that sounds kinda hot actually.  Myself, I rather like and want there to be some form of sex involved in a D/s relationship.  It does not have to take any specific form nor be included every time, but there really should be some at least occasionally.  The Domme should decide what, when and how.  It could be used as a reward if they so desired.  Personally, I'm rather open minded on the details (because I rather like the *submissive* aspect).  I'd be perfectly happy if there was never intercourse, though I probably won't agree to a relationship that would never include oral. 

But keeping the D/s relationship completely a-sexual just seems wrong to me.  As you point out Domme's aren't typically frigid, quite the oposite.  Many of the ones I know (as friends) have very high sex drives.  Yet they "never" have sex with thier subs in any form.  This plays into the attitude I've heard too many times of "why would I want to have sex with a sub?"  I even saw someone post that here.  Why woudn't you?  Do you think them so worthless and lowley that they don't deserve to have that basic human need met?  I'm of the school that Dom/mes should respect and appreciate their subs/bottoms because they are realling giving you one heck of a gift.  Seriously, what more meaningful thing can a person offter another than themselves?  So I find Dommes who strictly will never have sex with submissives to be disturbing.  I may be a submissive but I have self worth.



E2Sweet -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/18/2008 12:24:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressSue07

My question to this would be why would a slave/sub think they are good enough to have sex with someone who is far more superior to them?


My bullshit-o-meter went off the scale on this one. That is fantasy and a very unhealthy attitude to have toward other human beings. The reality is: being dominant does not make one superior to another in any way, shape or form.  It's just that simple.



malloves69 -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/18/2008 1:06:54 AM)

saw this so i thought i would respond ..yes i pay to play ..i have said that many times ...the mistress i see knows what i like ..the chemistry we have together is amazing [:)] known her for over 7 plus years ..been paying her as long ...quite well i believe too [:)]many places to go on the net to find a woman to satisfy your needs and if i have to pay for it then so be it ..i think it has turned to more a friends with benefits kinda thing ..we do know each other quite well ..been faithfull to only her for the past 3 years since no condoms are used ..best 2 hours of my week when im with her as far as im concerned and if i have to pay her ..oh well i accept that fact [:)]..very kinky open minded agressive woman she is and im very happy being and seeing only her [:)] true many pro doms do not have sex with their clients and i respect that choice they make ..but for me paying 250 plus per hour on a weekly basis sex is a must ..have fun in your search i dont need anyone else ..im very happy with the woman i have now [:)] mal



JerryFrankster -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/18/2008 5:24:45 PM)

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ORIGINAL: dogboydoggie

so many  mistress  dont  want  sex with there  male slaves  . whey are mistress so mean to the male slave


The short answer is: People have tiny robots in their brains, and they're always trying to get you to do stuff for them.

Hope that helps.



sillyslaveboy -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/19/2008 9:27:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: dogboydoggie
so many  mistress  dont  want  sex with there  male slaves  . whey are mistress so mean to the male slave

Mmmm... no sex. No sex... Sex with Her Boots, sex with Her strap-on, oral sex with Her lower Divinity, oral sex with Her Shoes, oral sex with Her Gloves, oral sex with anything else of Her, even sex as She fucks your weak mind in the fields of reeducation. All of it, all of it, ALL of it has to be well and well deserved.



Hime -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/19/2008 12:29:02 PM)

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so many mistress dont want sex with there male slaves . whey are mistress so mean to the male slave


In my opinion, what other male slaves and their Mistress's do -  truly is none of your concern. And, what you perceive as mean may be perfectly acceptable in their relationship.  If "you" on the other hand are implying that you're not getting enough sex, perhaps you should....1) discuss the expectations of the relationship (with your Mistress) and negotiate details that are acceptable to you both.  3) make the effort to apply what you've both agreed to.   2) if you're still so unhappy - find a more compatible partner.


~xoxo





thishereboi -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/19/2008 12:51:41 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MistressSue07

My question to this would be why would a slave/sub think they are good enough to have sex with someone who is far more superior to them?


I wouldn't have a Mistress who thought she was "superior" so I don't have to worry about being good enough to have sex with her.

To the OP: Get to know her first and discuss both of your expectations in the relationship. If she doesn't want sex to be part of the relationship and you do, then you move on. Personally, I wouldn't be in a non-sexual relationship. Doesn't mean I don't play without sex, but if I am going to be in a ltr, there would defianately be sex involved.



thishereboi -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/19/2008 12:54:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MadameDahlia

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ORIGINAL: Najakcharmer

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ORIGINAL: dogboydoggie

I BOW AT YOUR FEET .IBOW AT YOUR FEET.


Um....did you really think that you can submit to teh intarnets?  



It's official. I'm in love. [:D]



I've been that for a long time.....but alas she is in another state so all I can do is dream.



thishereboi -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/19/2008 12:58:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: bottomboy81

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ORIGINAL: SweetDommes

self labling, I see ...

The whole "female species" thing is just silly.  If we were a separate species, then there would be no continuation of the species ... and without fail, the only people who use the "female species/male species" are those who are bitter about being rejected and/or just general haters of the opposite gender (which might just explain why they continue to be rejected).  And yes, I'm just as snarky to those who claim that males are a separate species in such a bitter, cynical and overly generalized manner as you just used "female species".


ya ya what ever, I think being rejected 99 percent of the time validates bitterness. Its really a miracle that most men still like women from after years of rejection. Women are bitter all the time as men always have to prove them selfs that they are not after women to only use them. Kinda like guilty until proven innocent. Yet a womans bitterness is always more validated and they make the rules and are on top of the game. But than again, a lot of todays women are shameless hypocrites, what else is new.


That statement tells so much. If your getting rejected 99% of the time, maybe the problem is you. Think about that.



torch7777777777 -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/20/2008 11:35:30 PM)

i have preformed cunnilingus and sexual intercourse on several Dommes.  It all depends upon negotiation and the mutual consent of two adults.



Lynnxz -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/20/2008 11:37:34 PM)

Wtf does a minidungeon have to do with anything?



torch7777777777 -> RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex (8/20/2008 11:53:26 PM)

my appologies  Lynnxz



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