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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 7:11:00 AM

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I'd like to second what Lashra said. I knew I was interested in sensual violence at the age of 5, long before I felt sexual about anything. My interests in power exchange and sex are related but not the same.

Two quick examples: these are both ladies I've met in person, and we first corresponded via CollarMe in 2007.

#1: I bought her lunch, and by the end of it I knew I was not sexually attracted to her but would enjoy Topping her, but she was both interested in being Topped and sexually attracted to me. I decided not to proceed forward because I didn't think there was any way I could Top her without leading her on. So we hugged and are Platonic friends.

#2: We spent the day together and really enjoyed it. She thought I was a great person and enjoyed the idea of submitting to me, but was not passionately attracted to me. We spent a wonderful night together, though according to Dear Abby I only got to third base. Again, we are now just friends.

I wonder if the OP has ever even had a girlfriend, much less ever met any woman via this site. And, OP, if you are still reading this, my experience is that women who post profiles on kinky sites are no sluttier than women in "real life." Try chivalry, honesty, being interested in her mind first. All that Dr. Phil crap. Couldn't hurt.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 8:50:10 AM

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control.

'Nuff said.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 9:00:36 AM

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i think most slaves/subs are either have short dick or cant stay hard for long ... and mistresses are more interested to use them instead of having sex with them

With all due respect, going out and seeing the world of bd/sm/ds would, in my experience, prove otherwise.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 9:10:40 AM

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so many mistress dont want sex with there male slaves . whey are mistress so mean to the male slave

Some male slaves do not have a problem with a Mistress who is sometimes mean - it works for them.

Some male slaves don't have sex with or expect sex from their Mistress - it works for them.

Not evey male submits to female authority for the same reason or reasons.

It's not a big deal at all. Just find a Woman to serve who wants to have sex with you and voila!

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 10:05:54 AM

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one word --- anticipation

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 10:25:03 AM

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i think most slaves/subs are either have short dick or cant stay hard for long ... and mistresses are more interested to use them instead of having sex with them

Ohhhhhhh.... I was not going to post in this thread, but, I can't let this comment just drift by!

I have never read anything more ridiculous on this board. The mindset of a male slave/sub does not have anything whatsoever to do with the size of their penis. I really can't believe you would think this. I have scened with many very well endowed male slaves/subs.

Sex with a Mistress, IMO, boils down to the relationship. The poster talking about going to pros and expecting it kind of made me grab my chair. I know a large number of pros and NONE of them engage in sex with their clients. If they did, they would be breaking the laws on prostitution. Let's not get into that topic, however, it is covered in great detail on several other threads.

Some of us look at sexual control as one of the strongest controls put on a male slave. Tease and denial is a favorite activity for many Female Dominants and many male slaves... same thing can be said about chastity. (NOTE: I SAID MANY NOT ALL... <really tired of the "don't generalize crap on here>) Putting a virile man in bondage... tormenting him until he is ready to explode... and then ending the scene by flashing him a smile and a "that's all folks" is a real power trip for some Female Dominants.

As far as "mean"?? LOLOL I am accused almost daily of not being "mean enough". Each to their own.

Personally, I do not mix sex with BDSM. For ME, they are different dynamics altogether. Just the way I am wired. Sex is reserved for someone I have a very solid and possibly long term relationship with.... a life partner, or very special connection with. Sex isn't something I engage in with someone who is a play partner. However.... with someone who fits the "special relationship" place in my life, BDSM can be viewed as a very intense extended foreplay.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 10:27:37 AM

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Uh if you're paying her and she has sex with you it's considered prostitution and that's illegal in most states. So I really doubt any pro domme that cares not to be liable for arrest anda prostittuion record would fuck clients. And pro domme's get hundreds of clients if they're good one person not giving them t heir money wouldn't mean one hoot to them. Nice to think it would though.

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if im going to be naked and with a mistress some kind of sex is a must as far as im concerned ...thats where all the fun is strapon sex ....being fisted ...orally serving her ..or just vanilla sex ecspecially if im paying her for a session ..i might be a sub ..but hey im still a guy no sex probable means i wont be back for a second session unless we really hit it off chemistry wise ..her loss not mine because she wont see my money for a next get together ..mal

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 10:31:03 AM

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Before making jokes on someone for not speaking as well as you think someone should, did you ever stop to think that maybe english isn't their first language?

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ORIGINAL: dogboydoggie

so many mistress dont want sex with there male slaves . whey are mistress so mean to the male slave

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Many slave male like too fake penis fun. Penis fun is like apples. Some Mistress' don't like apples.

So, no apples. See what I mean?

That is why mistress are mean two male slave.

*sighs*

Male subs that do not know how to spell and use the English language properly, do not deserve to have sex with their Mistress.

jen

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 10:35:51 AM

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Uh if you're paying her and she has sex with you it's considered prostitution and that's illegal in most states. So I really doubt any pro domme that cares not to be liable for arrest anda prostittuion record would fuck clients. And pro domme's get hundreds of clients if they're good one person not giving them their money wouldn't mean one hoot to them. Nice to think it would though.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 10:55:06 AM

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I am left wondering if this question is about Mistresses he's met online or in person and how long did he know all these Mistresses that keep denying him. I think some guys sit there doing nothing and just expect some Domme to start boning them the minute She sees them. Slaves want a Mistress to lead and call the shots but why should they think that means a slave doesn't have to win Our attention in the ways that please Us. Some subs act as if they think a Domme is supposed to be a sex crazed zombie ready to fuck and devour anything on two knees.

How rewarding can you be as a submissive? The more submissives I meet the more I realize that I only need to spend My time on the ones that can be a spark for My dominance.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 11:03:12 AM

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It seems to me that men in general are more likely to be respectful to a woman if they want her but cannot have her. After they've had her, then their desire to please her lessens, because they're already conquered that territory.

This isn't all men or all situations, of course - but it seems the flowers always stop after the legs are spread.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 11:20:55 AM

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It seems to me that men in general are more likely to be respectful to a woman if they want her but cannot have her. After they've had her, then their desire to please her lessens, because they're already conquered that territory.

This isn't all men or all situations, of course - but it seems the flowers always stop after the legs are spread.

That is precisely why more women should use and enjoy their powers of seduction and allure to control a man's libido (which encompasses his entire sexual physiology) rather than withhold themselves for notions of chasity or purity, etc.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 11:30:24 AM

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Hmmm very many different view points. It is all up to the individual Domme and what she wishes to do with her male slave. I personally have given my slave a shock from what he expected. thinking his services would be used for various tasks around the household and such. Soon he found out he was to be my sex slave, I'm a nymph and he is to help fulfill my VERY hungry appetite, which I think he has the skills to satisify. Plus he knows my kinks and is the first one who hasn't run away screaming yet.

Here's the facts, some have sex with their slaves, some don't. Its all up to personal choice. I've had slaves in the past that I never let touch me and the only thing that they had the privledge of touching their skin was a flogger.
With my newest and best slave, I've gained a wonderful relationship with and he treats me like gold, trying to wiggle under the very dirt I walk upon. he never has and does not expect any sex from me. He will be used primarily as a sex slave as thats my personal preference.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 12:34:24 PM

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

deserve sex

can someone please explain this concept for me? what can i do to deserve sex? i thought, in all walks of life, sex was a priveledge and not a right

how do i go about deserving sex? lol

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 12:58:03 PM

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Mate, why have sex with your mistress?? There are so many other chicks out there for that.. lol

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 1:11:39 PM

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ORIGINAL: DiurnalVampire

deserve sex

can someone please explain this concept for me? what can i do to deserve sex? i thought, in all walks of life, sex was a priveledge and not a right

how do i go about deserving sex? lol

Sex involves two, or possibly more people. Logically, the person you want to have sex with has to want to have sex with you. So, logically, you have to do something in order to deserve that sex. Doesn't matter if it's earning the person's love, paying a monetary fee, or doing...I dunno...a well-timed dance number.

Just walking up to somebody and saying, "I want sex" does not gurantee you'll get -anything-...and it'll probably actually gaurantee that you get nothing. :-p

It's got to be earned like anything else.

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 1:28:21 PM

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I'm voting "well-timed dance number".

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 2:25:20 PM

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I'm voting "well-timed dance number".

lol me too...dv...make shawn dance for us!

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 2:57:42 PM

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i am a male submissive that believes in the Supremacy of Women and in the course of my life i have learned that i provide better service when i am teased, denied and taught to focus on HER pleasure!

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RE: mistress why cant your male slave have sex - 11/28/2007 3:08:01 PM

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It seems completely fair and perfectly logical to me that if a male chooses to become a Womans slave he entire life including SEX will be determined by his Mistress!

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