Collarspace Discussion Forums


Home  Login  Search 

pain


View related threads: (in this forum | in all forums)

Logged in as: Guest
 
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> pain Page: [1]
Login
Message << Older Topic   Newer Topic >>
pain - 12/7/2007 10:45:30 AM   
lateralist1


Posts: 886
Joined: 11/22/2006
Status: offline 		I promised I would post this on my last post about male submission and I always try to keep my promises so here goes.
To male subs/slaves only.
Do you find pain a sexual turn on?
If so can you be turned on in a vanilla way.?
This is not a discussion about fetishes.
Profile   Post #: 1
RE: pain - 12/7/2007 12:39:57 PM   
Shawn1066


Posts: 987
Joined: 10/7/2007
Status: offline 		Yes, I find pain a sexual turn on.  Of course, this isn't all types of pain and it has to be certain situations.  It is my experience that I have to be in the proper state of mind.

Can I be turned on in a vanilla way?  Yes.

(in reply to lateralist1)
Profile   Post #: 2
RE: pain - 12/7/2007 1:38:11 PM   
sodsta


Posts: 246
Joined: 7/19/2006
From: London, England
Status: offline 		Pain can be much a sexual turn on for me - depending on several factors, such as the type of pain (I'm not a fan of caning, for example), the time, the place, the atmosphere, and the dynamic of the scene.

I can be turned on in a vanilla way, but generally I've found that my vanilla sexual interests are much more limited than my "kinky" ones.

(in reply to lateralist1)
Profile   Post #: 3
RE: pain - 12/7/2007 1:43:17 PM   
Sky42


Posts: 31
Joined: 3/19/2007
Status: offline 		yes to both.  I'm not really a 'pain slut', but yes, it is arousing when my owner does it, but stubbing my toe?  not so much.

(in reply to sodsta)
Profile   Post #: 4
RE: pain - 12/7/2007 3:24:33 PM   
chiaThePet


Posts: 2694
Joined: 2/4/2007
Status: offline 		Do I find pain a sexual turn on?

I generally don't seek out pain as a sexual turn on, but there are things that
when applied to me, cause me to become more than I normally think I am.
Some might refer to it as "subspace", I shall simply define such as an intense,
almost animalistic reaction to something specific which finds my mind and
body possessed in the craving of additional exposure to the catalyst. If I
bang my head on the cabinet door however, I rarely achieve an erection.

If so, can I be turned on in a vanilla way?

I have to be honest here, I am not sure. My childhood was far from the
what most might consider the normal family upbringing. Much of what I
relate to in adulthood, has roots in childhood experiences. I did live and
exist sexually in a vanilla context, (though I think these days someone has
spiked the vanilla punch bowl with a whole lot of kink) as I dated and
married into a so called vanilla relationship. It has been sometime now
however, that anything I have experienced sexually might be considered
within the boundries of what is thought of as vanilla. Much of what I
find myself engaging in sexually, could be written in the kink column,
that which may not be accepted by the majority flow of belief. Though
frankly my Dear, of that, I don't give a damn. So again, just not sure.

chia* (the pet)

_____________________________

Love is a many splendid sting.

You can stick me in the corner, but I'll probably just end up coloring on the walls.

(in reply to lateralist1)
Profile   Post #: 5
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 8:06:00 AM   
Rockbound


Posts: 25
Joined: 10/6/2006
Status: offline
Yes and yes.

While, as Sky42 said, stubbing my toe is not a turn-on, pain applied through BDSM techniques is a powerful turn-on.

(in reply to lateralist1)
Profile   Post #: 6
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 9:42:15 AM   
CdnExplorer


Posts: 227
Joined: 2/12/2007
Status: offline 		I don't find pain in and of itself a turn on. However, for me pain does significantly increase how much control I feel over me for the simple fact that it's something I wouldn't go looking for normally. Control can be used to turn me on, but it doesn't have to. Confused yet? I am! 

Can I be turned on in a vanilla way? Yes, I can enjoy looking at some vanilla porn and I can appreciate beauty without having to put it in a D/s context. However, vanilla relationships don't really do it for me.

(in reply to Rockbound)
Profile   Post #: 7
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 9:50:56 AM   
Decimus


Posts: 174
Joined: 9/17/2007
Status: offline 		I do not find pain in itself to be a turn on as people have stated above. Used appropriately it can be nice. Define vanilla :) see it can't be done. As in do I find myself attracted to Aerith's beauty and intelligence? Yes, however if she was not in charge I would not find her nearly as attractive on an emotional level. Sure anyone can stimulate someone physically, but an emotional attachment would not be there.

_____________________________

Here is my story that some people have asked for, www.beginningofdreams.com

(in reply to CdnExplorer)
Profile   Post #: 8
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 1:19:56 PM   
lateralist1


Posts: 886
Joined: 11/22/2006
Status: offline 		Hey thanks everyone who has posted so far.
Of course as a sexual sadist I find the dynamic of pain very sexually stimulating.
But on it's own it isn't enough.
It's TPE that really does it.
Not just vanilla control.
Or BDSM control.
But the combination.

(in reply to Decimus)
Profile   Post #: 9
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 1:31:49 PM   
lateralist1


Posts: 886
Joined: 11/22/2006
Status: offline 		Thanks for your honesty chiaThePet.
And I'm glad you don't give a f---.
You are who you are.
I agree about vanilla sex people are experimenting a lot more than they used to when I was young but then sex of any description outside marriage and for the procreation of children was considered rather base by a lot of people. Which of course led to a lot of frustration and abuse. But it hasn't changed that much for some people.

(in reply to chiaThePet)
Profile   Post #: 10
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 3:43:28 PM   
LPslittleclip


Posts: 1163
Joined: 9/29/2007
Status: offline 		im a submissive and i am turned on by bdsm pain i quickly get to subspace and fly along with my M'Lady. i have found ima bit of a pin slut enjoying more and more the plat times W/we enjoy. i am also turned on by non bdsm as well they are diffrent kinds of excitement to be shure for one the subspace lasts for a long time, while the other dosent. i dont enjoy when i stub my toe either but when applied by a trusted partner it can be quite exciting .

(in reply to lateralist1)
Profile   Post #: 11
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 4:14:24 PM   
beargonewild


Posts: 22716
Joined: 5/7/2007
Status: offline 		I will have to say a definite yes and do find experiencing pain a great sexual turn on. I have found that as I get older, my enjoyment of using pain to enhance sexual pleasure has increased and sometimes it will trigger a very intense body shaking orgasms. Like many others, it is the correct way to apply pain and knowing the type of pain to cause will bring this reaction. Needless to say, when I start playing with a FB, I find I have to teach them exactly how to cause that delicious pain and reassure them I am enjoying myself and they aren't hurting me in a negative way.
  For sure I am still able to be turned on in a "vanilla" way.
Even though kink does play a major part in my life, yet it isn't the end all be all either. Sometimes I desire simple regular sex and other times I need the kink and pain. My goal and desire is to strive for that perfect balance between the two.


_____________________________

Do Not Rile da Chosen Bear

Promiscuous boy you already know
That I’m all yours what you waiting for?

Resident MANWHORE ~1000 Bear pts~

10 NZ points
Whips~n~Cuffs

(in reply to lateralist1)
Profile   Post #: 12
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 6:54:27 PM   
MisTabsDratt


Posts: 32
Joined: 8/15/2007
Status: offline 		As with others, pain in and of itself is not necessarily a turn on.  However, in recent times, my Wife/Mistress has gradually added more and more pain into what would otherwise be pleasureful sessions.  I now find that I most enjoy things when the pain is so intense that I can barely stand it.  The "coupling" of pain/pleasure is what really does it for me. 

That said, while I can certainly enjoy a otherwise vanilla sexual pleasure, I find myself desiring a the pain side of the equation more and more...  It's a slippery slope.  I honestly thinks it's a progression.  I wouldn't be surprised if at some point in the somewhat distant future, I would have a hard time getting off without at least some element of pain.


_____________________________

Slave Dratt
Mistress Taboo's Slave/Husband

(in reply to Decimus)
Profile   Post #: 13
RE: pain - 12/8/2007 6:57:03 PM   
laurell3


Posts: 6577
Joined: 5/5/2005
Status: offline 		I want to answer!  But I'm not a boy.....

_____________________________

I cannot be defined by moments in my life, but must be considered for by the entirety of my existence.

When you fail to consider that I am the best judge for what is right for me, all of your opinions become suspect to me.

(in reply to MisTabsDratt)
Profile   Post #: 14
RE: pain - 12/9/2007 12:42:39 PM   
lateralist1


Posts: 886
Joined: 11/22/2006
Status: offline 		You can always message me privately laurell3.
I am always interested in what you have to say in your posts.
I just want to keep this for the boys.
They are not as good in general at talking about how they feel and what they need as we women are.
Subs have a lot of different needs and if I ever find the right one or ones I want to understand him completely even if he doesn't understand himself lol.

(in reply to laurell3)
Profile   Post #: 15
RE: pain - 12/9/2007 1:22:52 PM   
lateralist1


Posts: 886
Joined: 11/22/2006
Status: offline 		Thanks boys.
So it looks like most of you like or need a little or a lot of  pain with your service.
Which is good news for me lol.
It seems as well that you can become accustomed to it and maybe need it in time for your sexual arousal or satisfaction or both.
S/m seems to be a path which you can be taken down by the right Domina.
Problem is of course for those of you who don't have a life-time commitment with your Domina. When the relationship ends you are left high and dry. Needing pain with your sex but not being able to find it in vanilla.
Which is a little worrying to say the least seeing as there are so few Dommes. Or is that a myth I wonder.
I am leaving out those of you who are not committed to looking for a D/s relationship because bottoms don't interest me.
Of course I don't have a big enough sample yet to come to any real conclusions.Still it is lovely to hear from you all.

(in reply to lateralist1)
Profile   Post #: 16
Page:   [1]
All Forums >> [Community Discussions] >> Ask a Submissive >> pain Page: [1]
Jump to:





New Messages No New Messages
Hot Topic w/ New Messages Hot Topic w/o New Messages
Locked w/ New Messages Locked w/o New Messages
 Post New Thread
 Reply to Message
 Post New Poll
 Submit Vote
 Delete My Own Post
 Delete My Own Thread
 Rate Posts




Collarchat.com © 2025
Terms of Service Privacy Policy Spam Policy

0.078