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LadyHugs -> RE: Dominants Using Titles (12/17/2007 8:58:49 PM)
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Dear cindybee, Ladies and Gentlemen;
May I have you consider using vanilla etiquette, such as addressing them 'ma'am' or 'sir' [Not as a title necessarily] and if they do have a personal preference, usually they will give you their name and or title.
Quite a few individuals use screen names as an identity. I know when I was new to the lifestyle and pre-computer and the newest gaget was the "electric typewriter;" there were several individuals named Kathy. So, they were given 'scene names' as to be distinctive and we knew who/what we were talking about. Being affectionate -- I was given the name Hugs.
As far as approaching a Dominant--I would highly recommend doing so after their 'scene.' and or position yourself as to catch his eye. What works for me, is when a submissive/slave catches my eye and smiles and 'mouths' 'may I have a word with you?' I will usually excuse myself as to listen to you and see if I may be of assistance. I wouldn't want you to fall at my feet and make a scene and a lot of noise--being new, I would hope you have me earn your respect as much as you wish to earn my respect. These things--respect, is earned on both sides. Now, if I knew the slave--and many still do, will kneel in an 'honor position' and or 'presentment position' as to physically 'honor me' as they greet. This comes from the slave's heart--not a demand or command. But, I admit I soar high when slaves/submissive/servants kneel to me--I am most honored by the gesture in their greeting. A rare occassion would be a TOP/DOM/SIR who will kneel in an honor position but, this is very rare and happened at last years MAL (Mid-Atlantic Leather Conference) of an individual who was an admirer and had his own slaves take on the 'honor position.'
Hopefully this will be of help--and I hope everything will come through brilliantly for you.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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