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lovingdomwanted -> How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 1:44:43 PM)
The last log I did on this subject, I logged it on Ask A Master but asking how a Master should deal with my bratty behaviour..... Well as you can guess, I was stoned via verbal means.... Well after the Master in question and I have had some 4 months apart to think about the situation, we both realise both were to blame...... However, my running off into the night has to be dealth with and punishment is set..... I was wrong, there was a spare room, I could have stayed the night there but I put myself at risk....... I know what is to come Monday is harsh..... How do you set your mind? xxxxxx

breatheasone -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 1:52:08 PM)
I don;t set my mind. I don't have that down...... The question in your opening title, about how you feel as the time approches? My answer is sick to my stomach....Like I want to throw up or something. [:(]

lovingdomwanted -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 1:55:07 PM)
Thanks....Glad Im not the only one to feel like this....Do you ever feel like you want to turn back time? xxxx

breatheasone -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 1:56:48 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingdomwanted Thanks....Glad Im not the only one to feel like this....Do you ever feel like you want to turn back time? xxxx LMAO...often kiddo....often.

lovingdomwanted -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:00:40 PM)
Cheers Chick....An English phrase....Please excuse.... I'm glad to be out of isolation....But not to be facing what I have to.... xxxxx

Sky42 -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:09:10 PM)
If/when I need to be punished, it's horrible. Not the punishment itself, but the fact that I failed my owner. It's absolutely horrible. I'd rather get it over with as quick as possible, so that I know that the failure has been delt with so that she (and I) can focus on other things. True punishment, for a lot of us, consists of being ignored or deprived of our owners/Dom's touch (after all, pulling out the whip isn't effective on someone who likes being whipped). For me, that's like a double punishment. Not only do I not recieve her touch, but because of me she does not get the pleasure of touching/playing with me. Of course, again for me, the same actions that can bring pleasure, such as spanking, if done for punishment also are effective. It's not the act itself, but the meaning behind it that makes those neurons fire saying "Oh this is great!" or "Oh god I'm sorry please stop I've learned my lesson!" With that sort again, I feel horrible before it happens. No fear, because one, I know my owner won't damage me. She may hurt me incredibly badly, but not damage me, and two, it was my fault that I failed her, so I need to accept the responsibility and repercussions for it.

lovingdomwanted -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:18:24 PM)
Ditto......But this is pure things I hate.....The cane/tawse, etc..... He feels sexually attracted to me so the last fours months has been nasty for us both....But he knows I can do without the touch/love-making.... He knows the things I hate..... I wish it were over.....

grlneedstolearn -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:28:38 PM)
i tend to get more anxious and nervous, belly flops as the day approaches. i know what i did was wrong and i will accept the punishment, but i guess it's also excitement because i will be learning from it.

HottLicks -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:29:49 PM)
I feel for you. This cannot be easy. But one thing keeps running through my head. If both were at fault... why is one going to be punished? Or am I not thinking like a true dominant?

lovingdomwanted -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:33:50 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: grlneedstolearn i tend to get more anxious and nervous, belly flops as the day approaches. i know what i did was wrong and i will accept the punishment, but i guess it's also excitement because i will be learning from it. Know the feeling and yes I will accept it and learn from it but without any excitment xx

lockmeupplease -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:34:52 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lovingdomwanted Well after the Master in question and I have had some 4 months apart to think about the situation, we both realise both were to blame...... However, my running off into the night has to be dealth with and punishment is set..... xxxxxx I know this doesn't answer your question, but if you have been apart for 4 months because of a situation that you BOTH were to blame for, why are you being "welcomed" back with a harsh punishment??? Not my idea of a great reunion, but perhaps the OP will clarify......

lovingdomwanted -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:41:08 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: HottLicks I feel for you. This cannot be easy. But one thing keeps running through my head. If both were at fault... why is one going to be punished? Or am I not thinking like a true dominant? Because on the night it question when the argument happened, I made the decision to go home.....I was 30 miles from home, no transport of my own and refused his offers of a lift home....I then walked off into the night and got onto a train packed with footie supporters....The original argument was his fault but what I did that night was very stupid and how I didn't get hurt/molested was anyones guess....Thank God, the Lord was watching over me that night..... xxxx

lovingdomwanted -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 2:44:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lockmeupplease quote: ORIGINAL: lovingdomwanted Well after the Master in question and I have had some 4 months apart to think about the situation, we both realise both were to blame...... However, my running off into the night has to be dealth with and punishment is set..... xxxxxx I know this doesn't answer your question, but if you have been apart for 4 months because of a situation that you BOTH were to blame for, why are you being "welcomed" back with a harsh punishment??? Not my idea of a great reunion, but perhaps the OP will clarify...... Please see my last answer....Hope that will clarify....It won't be a grand reunion but more wiping the slate clean...... This time will agreements firmly in place

missturbation -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 3:02:57 PM)
As punishment time approaches i feel sick, mortified, guilty, nervous. I try to steel myself, tell myself i need to pay for my mistake, know that i will feel so much better when Sir is done. At this moment i know i am due six strokes of the cane for a stupid misdemeanour i should have known better than to commit. Problem is i dont know when punishment will occur, makes it ten times worse for me.

lovingdomwanted -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 3:06:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation As punishment time approaches i feel sick, mortified, guilty, nervous. I try to steel myself, tell myself i need to pay for my mistake, know that i will feel so much better when Sir is done. At this moment i know i am due six strokes of the cane for a stupid misdemeanour i should have known better than to commit. Problem is i dont know when punishment will occur, makes it ten times worse for me. I think the worst is knowing I have let myself down and the fact I know when and how......God I wish it was only 6 of the cane.... xxxxx

missturbation -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 3:09:36 PM)
Yes the joint feeling of letting Sir down and myself mortifies me. The cane is my nemesis and i am terrified of it. I had a really bad experience with one and my ankle a while ago. It, well it was a hard limit before Sir. One stroke mortifies me, never mind six.

lovingdomwanted -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 3:40:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: missturbation Yes the joint feeling of letting Sir down and myself mortifies me. The cane is my nemesis and i am terrified of it. I had a really bad experience with one and my ankle a while ago. It, well it was a hard limit before Sir. One stroke mortifies me, never mind six. Yes and this Dom got me over my fear of the cane......My punishement is going to be 6 of quite alot of things.....Some of which I hate

adoracat -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 4:38:32 PM)
punishments, for me, tend to be "think on this, and write me X number of words about why you were wrong." he knows i hate essays. my punishment is having disappointed him. he knows i'll beat myself up about that for WEEKS and it would be worse than whatever physical punishment he could give me. the absolute worst thing he could do to me is to deny me his presence. now, we have times that we arent able to see one another (we hadnt seen each other since sept, until yesterday) but we always email and IM nearly daily. he knows that would trigger my abandonment issues, so even if he were angry with me, he would put me on email only, and not message me at all. he doesnt do that. he's had times that for whatever reason he couldnt be online, same with me, but he has never denied me his presence. kitten

sirskayla -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 5:41:50 PM)
whenever the term punishment is used i get nervous and scared and sick to my stomach. my old Master was fond of severe "punishments". the first time that my new Master told me that i was to be punished i cringed so, that he never uses the word. he will however "discipline" me as needed. :)

breatheasone -> RE: How do you feel as Punishment time approaches? (12/8/2007 5:47:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: adoracat punishments, for me, tend to be "think on this, and write me X number of words about why you were wrong." he knows i hate essays. my punishment is having disappointed him. he knows i'll beat myself up about that for WEEKS and it would be worse than whatever physical punishment he could give me. the absolute worst thing he could do to me is to deny me his presence. now, we have times that we arent able to see one another (we hadnt seen each other since sept, until yesterday) but we always email and IM nearly daily. he knows that would trigger my abandonment issues, so even if he were angry with me, he would put me on email only, and not message me at all. he doesnt do that. he's had times that for whatever reason he couldnt be online, same with me, but he has never denied me his presence. kitten I agree with you...abandonment is absolutely out of the question for use on me in ANY way, punishment or other wise. It would do some VERY not nice things to my head and heart.

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