kiki blue
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Joined: 1/16/2004 From: Brisbane, Australia Status: offline
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I see 'training' as pertaining to certain acts. Being trained how to flog, cane, spank or perform needleplay properly, say. Or learning certain rituals, like the Tea Ceremony. I don't think anyone can teach someone else "how" to submit or dominate, but they can help them learn the best way for them. They can help them understand what processes may be useful, what their wants, needs and desires are, and how to communicate better - but the final result will vary from person to person. There are some useful life skills that can be handy to know (wine/beer/any other alcohol appreciation, literature, how to debate and hold a conversation, singing, musical instrument aptidude), that can help accentuate who you are. Even learning something like the "slave positions" can be a fun thing, but it can all go out the door, if the person you choose to be with doesn't require them. I think the best sort of training a person can have - for either dominant or submissive role - is to be the best sort of person they can be. Learn self discipline, improve yourself the way you want to be improved, take that class, do that course, read those books, work through your issues and baggage for you. Be the happiest and most content you can be, and when you find someone you want to explore a relationship with, then you have a finer product to offer.
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